Recognize relatives before marriage

1. What do you mean by getting married and recognizing relatives?

Marrying and recognizing relatives refers to the first visit of family members when men and women get married in the old days, that is, the first meeting of relatives of men and women at the wedding. The source can be seen in the third and second story of Legend of Heroes of Children: "There are aunts and in-laws who want to recognize relatives, so knock again!" .

Generally speaking, this means meeting each other's parents and relatives. The original meaning is to let you get to know each other better before you get married. Now it's just a formality.

Second, the process of marriage and recognition.

Engagement means that after both parties confirm their wishes to get married, and after the matchmaker makes clear their ideological work, both parties can begin to prepare for engagement.

And "recognizing relatives" means meeting each other's parents. In some places, it is called "housekeeping". In most areas, recognizing relatives means that the woman goes to the man's house. On the wedding day, the woman, the introducer and her relatives will go to the man's house together, just in time to get something for the man's parents. Met, the man's parents have to give the woman a red envelope, generally not less than 200 yuan. The wedding is not held immediately after the approval of relatives. The date of the wedding is discussed during the "housekeeping", which is not necessarily decided at that time, mainly because of the intention.

The process of recognizing relatives and offering tea:

The man left and the woman right knelt down, the groom knelt in front of his father and the bride knelt in front of her mother;

Respect the parents of the bride first, and then respect the parents of the groom;

The bride and groom offer tea to their parents;

After drinking tea, the elders will send red envelopes or jewels as a blessing to the couple, and the couple should accept them with both hands.