Why does China have a history of blind date?

The marriage customs in Song Dynasty are very complicated, which is entirely due to the emphasis on ethics. Marriage in the Song Dynasty has two characteristics, one is accustomed to early marriage, and the other is to get married at an early age, completely listening to parents' arrangements. No one dares to fall in love freely.

Generally speaking, wealthy families rely on matchmakers as relatives. First of all, men take a woman's birthday to the temple to pray for good luck or bad luck. If the gods show good luck, the man will ask the matchmaker to inform the woman that they are willing to marry their daughter. If the husband is adopted by his wife, indicate how many gold and silver fields and houses the groom will have after adoption in the future. Similarly, when the woman agrees to marry the man, she should also specify in advance how much dowry she will have when she gets married.

In this way, it is a preliminary consent to this marriage. Next, the man will prepare a banquet, choose a beautiful place or his own garden, and invite his wife to dinner for the purpose of "blind date". If the man thinks the woman looks good and the woman thinks the man is pleasing to the eye, she inserts a gold hairpin in her bun to show her consent. This is called "inserting a hairpin". If you are not satisfied, give each other two pieces of colored satin, which is called "shocking the world" and the marriage will be ruined.

But if both parties agree, it is necessary to trouble the matchmaker to find the woman and report to her how much the man will get. In the rich family, the man's wedding ceremony is rich! Including gold and silver jewelry, jewelry, silks and satins, dresses, etc., and four or eight bottles of wine, please choose to the woman's house. The woman should prepare some gifts, inject water into the empty wine bottle, put two pairs of goldfish, two onions and a pair of chopsticks, which are called "chopsticks for returning wine". After the ceremony, we must formally hire.

Three days before the wedding, the man will give the woman some precious and beautiful hair ornaments, jewelry, wedding clothes, rouge pollen and so on. The woman should also send back the man's shoes, clothes, headscarves and other things. The day before, the woman will send someone to decorate the new house and ask a maid to guard it.

When getting married, when the man carries the bride, the bride can't get off the sedan chair yet! First, a man scattered rice and candy in front of the door, and waited until the neighbors and children almost picked it up before inviting the bride down. But the bride's feet can't step on the ground. She must be supported by two handmaids and walk on a green felt pad or a green brocade pad.

After the bride enters the middle gate, she first goes to a small room with a tent, which is called "sitting on a virtual account", or she can directly enter the room and sit on the bed, which is called "sitting on the bed". At this time, the groom sits with the bride accompanied by his maid, which is called "sitting rich". Then, we will salute.

The groom is holding a Jane made of acacia in his hand, wearing a red and green ribbon and a concentric knot on his chest, and the bride is following with a colorful knot. In front of the man's parents, please ask the woman in the man's family to lift the bride's veil with a scale. At this time, the whole audience is waiting to see how beautiful the bride is.

After the ceremony, the bride will tie the knot and pull the groom back to the room to pay homage. Then, sitting on the bed, the courtesy officer put candy, melon seeds and money into the account, which is called "scattered account". Then cheers. After drinking, put a glass upside down under the bed and a glass vertically, which means good luck. The bride and groom are about to get married and hold a "wedding ceremony".

After everything is ready, the bride and groom should change their clothes and go to the lobby to thank their relatives and friends for their participation. After the wedding reception, the wedding ceremony was officially completed.

Three days before and after marriage, the woman should prepare gifts for the man, which is called "sending three dynasties". On the third or seventh or ninth day, the groom will take the bride back to her mother's house, which is called the "door worship ceremony".