We always like to chat with strangers.

The older you get, the wider your social circle and the more people you know, you gradually discover a "strange phenomenon":

We talk about literature, philosophy and life with new friends; Talk with old friends about life, odds and ends, daily necessities and past events;

On the other hand, we like to chat with strangers.

Strange to say, most people will tell strangers many sad and unpleasant things that are difficult to solve, and many problems are actually solved by strangers.

Why are we always willing to tell an unrelated stranger what we are worried about, but we are not willing to tell people around us or even close people?

The first reason is that strangers can keep secrets in many cases. Many times, some unhappy things are related to people around you. Most of us live in groups. Sometimes, it is inevitable that there will be friction with people around you, and people who are close to each other will have minor contradictions. At this time, the repressed emotions want to be released. Many people prefer to choose a "safe" stranger to spit out their lives, and they don't want to rub shoulders with the people around them. In addition, there is a saying that if you tell another person from your mouth, the secret is no longer a secret. For example, you have had a little conflict with D recently. You told A a small shortcoming of D, A told B in the blink of an eye, and B reached C's ear ... and C told Ding about it. Besides, the rumor was exaggerated and embellished in the process of circulation, and when D heard it, it was not what it was. At this time, small contradictions are expected to become big problems.

The second reason is that strangers are more objective. There is a saying that "the authorities are fascinated, and the onlookers are clear." Because there is no contradiction between strangers and there are few subjective factors to see the problem, they can see the problem more clearly and analyze it more rationally, which can help us solve the problem.

The third reason is that there are no friends around to talk to. One day when I was in a bad mood, I found that there was no friend in the address book to chat with from beginning to end. Some friends haven't contacted for a long time, some friends can't chat together, some friends don't care, and some friends can even magnify your pain n times and spit it out for you ... Old friends don't know your new mood, and new friends don't know your old temper. No matter how many friends you have, you will feel more lonely.

Fourth, everyone is very busy, and no one will care about your mood. We live in this era, and strive to survive all day for housing prices, daily necessities. House slaves, car slaves and even child slaves are not uncommon. Everyone is walking on thin ice, everyone is working hard, and everyone has their own things to do. At this time, your emotions are irrelevant, and sometimes even bring them trouble and "make trouble", which is one of the reasons why most people often ignore the feelings of people around them.

Fifth, we are so familiar with each other that we are embarrassed to say anything. When we say something, why don't we be happy? It's strange that acquaintances can play a lot of jokes without taboo, but there are some things I'm really embarrassed to say, and I have a lot of concerns: will he think I'm oversensitive if I say so? If I do this, will he think I am stingy? Will he laugh at me if I tell him about it? Because of familiarity, I may not think too much about many things, and sometimes what I say is not very nice. For example, if you want to do something that is unlikely to be completed in a short time, you will rarely hear encouragement, but "persuasion" or even "cynicism". In the same situation, strangers may give you proper encouragement out of courtesy or sincerity, but what you need at this moment is an encouragement. This is why most people seldom talk about their dreams with people around them, but work hard alone.

Besides, I get more comfort from strangers than people around me. We always leave tolerance to strangers, but we leave picky to close people. We always want people around us to be better to ourselves. When things go against our wishes, disappointment will follow. At this time, we always feel psychologically unbalanced. The courtesy and gentleness given by strangers will make people feel warmer. "A stranger, he will be so kind to me ..." Under such psychology, he is likely to be more inclined to strangers.

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But the people who spend the longest time with us are our friends. It is a blessing to have a friend who knows you. Some words can only be said to people who understand. Sometimes, how can someone who wants to talk be around?

May we get drunk and wake up with company.