How to deal with the relationship between strict management and respect for children

The ancients once said, "Love your teacher and believe in his way", which profoundly and incisively explained the important role of harmonious teacher-student relationship in teaching activities. Soviet educator Homlinski once wrote, "There is a harmonious relationship of mutual love and respect between teachers and students, which will be conducive to the completion of teaching tasks." In today's harmonious society, it is of great significance to establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and students in kindergarten education and teaching for children's growth and development. Therefore, to succeed in preschool education, we must create a relaxed and harmonious educational environment on the basis of equality and respect. As a new generation of novice kindergarten teachers, they must have a series of conditions, such as higher professional quality of teachers, teacher cultivation and so on. The only shortcoming of novice teachers is their inexperience, so they don't know how to deal with many things. In the face of a group of lovely children, should we get along like friends, or should we pretend to be teachers and not let the children bully you? This has become the biggest headache for novice teachers. Through reading books, I got some solutions, but they are not completely applicable. Therefore, by asking senior teachers and investigating through various channels, some methods to solve this problem are summarized.

First of all, this question:

Love is the soul of education, and trust is the foundation of education. Without a good teacher-student relationship, there will be no successful education. The idea of building a harmonious relationship between teachers and children should be: teachers have a sense of respect and cooperation, guide children to actively participate in educational activities, so that children can acquire knowledge, cultivate their abilities and shape their personality in activities. Specifically, the core of a harmonious relationship between teachers and children is: "Teachers really communicate with children on the same plane". Teachers and children are equal, and there is no distinction between high and low. In the activities organized by teachers, children develop themselves in an all-round way through cooperation with others, so that every child can feel his own value and the happiness of spiritual growth.

Most teachers who have just arrived in kindergarten have chosen their own tutors as the basic reference for their activities and teaching behavior. The purpose of doing this is to adapt to the education and teaching work in kindergartens as soon as possible. As an intern in kindergarten, we are a novice teacher, full of passion and motivation, hopes and dreams. But I have no experience to talk about. Sometimes I play with children like children and make friends with them. Sometimes I will teach them like a teacher and give them some criticism; In this way, the problem of how novice teachers correctly handle the relationship with young children appears.

Second, the existence of the problem and the answer in the book

In class, we often meet some children's illegal behaviors, and we often worry about these behaviors. But worry is not the solution. I found the chapter "How to deal with children's behavior problems" in the book. I can't wait to open this page. The book let me know that in this case, we should face the behavior problems of children rationally.

First of all, teachers should have the ability to clarify the attribution of problems. When the teacher makes clear the attribution of the problem and determines that it is a child's personal problem, it can be handled privately. If many children have the same problem, the whole class can discuss it together. Older children always want to be encouraged and praised by the teacher in front of all the children. If you criticize individual children in front of everyone, it will affect their mood in the garden one day.

Secondly, it is necessary to understand the reasons why children have such problem behaviors. There may be many reasons for children to behave like this. Teachers should deal with the real cause of the problem and avoid falling into the trap of superficial phenomena.

When dealing with problems, we should follow the general principle of dealing with behavior problems: 1. When the problem occurs for the first time, it should be corrected in time or immediately according to the situation to avoid the spread of the problem. 2. Deal with children's behavior problems with the aim of solving problems. Dealing with "things" rather than "people" in practice. Teachers should avoid using language that threatens, teases or insults children. Teachers are role models for children. The teacher should apologize for his improper words and deeds. 4. Encourage more and punish less. For example, encourage children to accomplish something by themselves when they grow up, and praise their help to friends and companions. This not only has a positive exemplary role, but also reduces the chances of negative behavior. 5. After understanding the causes of the problems, if teachers find that the problems are caused by immature children, slow learning pace, family problems or hope to get attention, they should keep in touch with parents and choose appropriate strategies for counseling according to the real causes of the problems. 6. Teachers should always record, evaluate, summarize and improve various treatment processes.

Third, establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and students

(1) Generally speaking.

1. Love, patience and care are integrated.

As a kindergarten teacher, you must be caring, patient and careful. Young teachers have just stepped out of their student days and are still like naive children. It is inevitable that they are meticulous in their work, but for young children, everything should be considered as comprehensively as possible and not sloppy at all. Therefore, in the work, we should do the following: First, consult experienced old teachers with an open mind and make clear the guidance points in all aspects of daily life. Go through every link, what to do and how to do it in your mind before you enter the class, so as to avoid being at a loss and at a loss in the process of leading the class. Secondly, we should take time to fully understand the children in our class, learn to observe and pay attention to conservation. Gradually understand everything about every child in the class, such as appetite, attachment and special living habits; We should gradually understand children's movements or expressions, and understand the meaning expressed by their body language ... while understanding children's health and psychological needs, we should help children adapt to the collective life of kindergartens smoothly and make parents feel at ease, satisfied and reassured. We must also strive to do a good job in class management. To be a careful teacher, we should also take good care of the items in the kindergarten and the children's clothing supplies, and cooperate with teachers and children to establish the rules of class daily life, such as where to put toys? What kind of environment can you create for children to organize clothes and manage small schoolbags? ..... In short, in addition to creating a relaxed and warm family atmosphere for children, we should also help children gradually form a sense of rules, standardize behaviors, and make kindergarten life happy and orderly.

At the same time, we should be good partners with parents and communicate the situation of children in time. Being a conscientious person in daily life will help you to clearly understand the situation of young children and communicate with parents in time. Let parents feel that you have his children in your eyes, know his children's development in your heart and understand his children, so that they will respect you and recognize your work. It is important for the new teacher to be sincere. Even if there are some minor problems or negligence in the work, we should communicate with our parents in time to gain understanding and understanding. Gradually, we should learn to guide parents to raise their children scientifically, put their love for their children and teachers' affection for their children on the same healthy track, and cultivate a strong little Xin Wei with harmonious development of body and mind.

2. Be a teacher that children like and respect.

There is a small age gap between new teachers and children, so it is easy to mix with them. They like to chat with them in their spare time, talk about their clothes and play with their toys. So children prefer it. But if you like it, you should distinguish when to do it, when to talk about it only in your free time, in the garden in the morning, or after school. Never play jokes on them in normal educational activities. Let the children feel that the teacher loves them, but the teacher has requirements for them. Doing bad things will make the teacher angry ... We must also ensure that every child in our eyes. Young teachers tend to be partial to their favorite individual children, and they must never show it in the collective. Don't think that children are very young and ignorant. In fact, their small hearts are extremely sensitive. Preference is not only bad for children, but also bad for children who are favored. It will also affect your daily work Only by making them feel that the teacher loves each of them can you become a good teacher that children respect.

(B), from a specific point of view.

1. Emancipating the mind and changing ideas is the premise of establishing a harmonious relationship between teachers and students.

Due to historical reasons, many people refer to kindergarten teachers as "aunts" and "senior nannies", and unilaterally emphasize the responsibility of kindergarten teachers to care for their children, thus ignoring their educational role. I think the root cause of this situation lies in the deviation of our educational concept and improper educational behavior. Therefore, the premise of a harmonious relationship between teachers and children is to change ideas.

(1) Establish an educational concept suitable for children's growth in the new period.

After entering kindergarten, children's "independence" is enhanced, and they are in another stage of human self-awareness. Although they are still young, they also long for equality, friendship and understanding. They believe "I can do it". Adults often ignore the existence of their independent consciousness, which hurts their self-esteem. Therefore, children often contradict their parents, ignore teachers and friends, and sometimes even cry endlessly. Therefore, as educators, teachers should be good at guiding, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and cater to their own interests. Let them learn to restrain themselves and integrate into the environment. Of course, this kind of education is conditional, and only with a harmonious environment can this effect be achieved. Nowadays, children are well-informed and often ask questions beyond imagination. The era of early childhood education that "watched" children in the past is gone forever. As a teacher, we should adjust our mentality in time, and we must reflect on our educational behavior in time to avoid the negative impact brought by our improper educational methods. It is necessary to actively adjust children's behavior, make the teacher-child relationship interactive, and form a new type of teacher-child relationship that is equal, positive and conducive to the development of teacher-child relationship.

(2) Establish a new view of children that is suitable for children's psychology.

When children enter kindergarten on the first day, their lives enter a new stage. For young children, this is the preparation stage before they enter formal school education. Based on this, we educators should experience and understand what children do, and they hope to get teachers' attention, attention, care and encouragement. We should also see that children are independent individuals. They have strong self-confidence and self-esteem, showing strong personality and uniqueness. Whether a child is smart or retarded, obedient or naughty, he should be treated with sincerity, love and care.

2. The basis of establishing a harmonious relationship between teachers and children lies in shaping a good teacher image.

Teachers should establish a good image among children and make themselves the people that children admire and admire. Only when children think the teacher is great and have a good impression on the teacher can they get close to the teacher and establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and children. (1) Teachers should be strict with themselves and form a highly responsible work style. (2) Shaping a good external image conforms to the manners and manners of kindergarten teachers. (3) Mastering skills in an all-round way and being able to use them flexibly in different fields. (4) Strengthen study, improve their own cultural quality and adapt to the requirements of the new era.

3. Equal communication between teachers and children is an important way to establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and children.

The harmonious relationship between teachers and children is formed on the basis of full communication between teachers and children. With the growth of age, children have a preliminary ability to analyze and judge right and wrong, have their own immature views on teachers' words and deeds, and have different requirements and acceptance of teachers. In view of these situations, I think it is necessary to establish a harmonious relationship between teachers and children: (1) Let every child have the opportunity to express his views. (2) Grasp the psychological characteristics of children of different ages and have a cordial conversation attitude with children, which is easy for children to accept. (3) When a child makes a mistake, help and care should be given, not blame, and the child should be given a chance to explain and correct. (4) live in harmony with the parents of young children.

4. Harmony of education and environment.

Educational activities in kindergartens are two-way activities between teachers and children, and also psychological exchanges of feelings, interests and abilities between teachers and children through activities. Teacher's love is a bridge to build a harmonious relationship between teachers and students. Only when the relationship between teachers and children is in a harmonious atmosphere of care and equality can children easily face their teachers, boldly participate in activities, experience the fun brought by educational activities and feel the joy of activities. According to different children, there should be various ways to express love: be good at various forms of praise in activities, such as small stickers, a smile and so on.

(2) Teachers' care and love for them should always be reflected in their daily life.

(3) Rational use of body language.

In the book Teacher Etiquette, it is mentioned that body language plays an important role in establishing a harmonious relationship between teachers and children.

A. the eyes are the windows to the soul. The use of eyes can make teachers and children reach the realm of "but I feel the harmonious heartbeat of the sacred unicorn" in silent communication. It is a bridge and link to establish and maintain a harmonious relationship between teachers and students.

B. Gestures can not only convey thoughts, but also express feelings, which can increase the persuasiveness and appeal of teachers' oral English.

C. facial expressions express the teacher's emotions and intentions. Only when teachers are full of emotions and affable will they give children a natural and clear feeling, which will help to form children's positive and happy emotions.

Third, several problems that should be paid attention to in establishing a harmonious relationship between teachers and children

1. Pay attention to the combination of strictness and love

The key to the harmonious relationship between teachers and children lies in correctly handling the dialectical relationship between "love" and "strictness". In my opinion, teacher love is not equal to maternal love, and strictness is not equal to strictness. In strict requirements and passionate love, we should be strict when we are strict and love when we are loving. Only in this way can we win the respect of young children (although small, today's children are very insightful and sensitive) and win the trust and support of parents. Teachers should not be partial to children with good grades, nor should they abandon children with poor grades. For children, the teacher's strictness and love must be fair and equal.

2. More empathy.

As a kindergarten teacher, we are required to have strong observation ability. We should put ourselves in the children's thoughts and feelings, and always put ourselves in the children's position to think and experience. According to children's psychological characteristics, constantly adjust their own educational content and methods.

3. Constantly improve their own quality

Because children are still young, sometimes things that teachers can't predict will happen, so we are required to be as calm and calm as possible. At ordinary times, we should pay attention to constantly strengthening our self-cultivation, so as to have good quality, stay calm in adversity and stay awake in shock. This mentality is the premise of dealing with accidental events.

Respect makes equality, harmony makes relaxation. Harmony is the greatest feature of all beautiful things, harmony is the best state of things, and "harmony" and "harmony" are the best combination and people's pursuit. The construction of a harmonious relationship between teachers and children in the new era has wide extension, fine connotation and many ways. But as long as we start from the "heart" and have a loving heart, a childlike heart, a sincere heart and a tolerant heart, we will have a harmonious relationship between teachers and students, and children will have a happy childhood, and harmony will always be around us.

Love is the soul of education, and trust is the foundation of education. Without a good teacher-student relationship, there will be no successful education. The idea of building a harmonious relationship between teachers and children should be: teachers have a sense of respect and cooperation, guide children to actively participate in educational activities, so that children can acquire knowledge, cultivate their abilities and shape their personality in activities. Specifically, the core of a harmonious relationship between teachers and children is: "Teachers really communicate with children on the same plane". Teachers and children are equal, and there is no distinction between high and low. In the activities organized by teachers, children develop themselves in an all-round way through cooperation with others, so that every child can feel his own value and the happiness of spiritual growth.