About individuals.

? A man posted a personals in a circle of friends: I am 44 years old, divorced and have an RV in a certain city. I ask my partner not to be over 40 years old. Don't bother me if you divorce a boy.

? Some colleagues flew into a rage after seeing it: what do you mean! He discriminates against women who give birth to boys! Why?

? About women who have given birth to sons will have this idea. My colleagues and I promoted personal style. Although I feel offended, there is absolutely no problem writing like this. Personals focus on practicality.

? Once upon a time, a female friend's request for marriage was this: I hope that the man is kind-hearted, has a certain material foundation, is honest, responsible, sincere and filial, broad-minded, gentle and self-motivated, has strong work ability, is willing to share housework, has no bad hobbies, and has the same language and three views.

? I know and tell her: I fully meet your standards, but it's definitely not me you're looking for, is it?

? As for personals, if it attracts completely irrelevant people, then it is invalid.

? This reminds me-sometimes when we write, the purpose is completely unclear.

? Take personals as an example: Who is the notice sent to? What do you want the other person to see? What is invalid and unnecessary?

? First, show it to potential applicants.

? Who may apply?

? -marriageable single male.

? That's good. It doesn't matter what others think. Personal information, as long as it can identify them.

? For example, some people say, "Men have to find a young man after all." Right? Maybe it's right. However, how old does a man ultimately mean? How young is it to find a young one? This is not clear.

? Second, what do you want the other person to read?

? Emphasize three words-"You hope".

? Under normal circumstances, when personals comes out, potential candidates may benchmark themselves one by one.

? Therefore, in order to accurately screen out the crowd, the standard must be accurate. How can it be accurate? For example, "have a certain material foundation"-nonsense, who doesn't have a certain material foundation? Bicycles are also material. Do you want to sit behind the bike and laugh?

? At this time, you should clearly express your needs.

? For example, "Don't disturb people who divorce boys" mentioned at the beginning. Some people think that this is too deliberate, and it is a disguised discrimination against divorced women with boys. However, what I want to say is that I wrote this point for screening. Wouldn't it be more unkind if I didn't make it clear in advance and refused after meeting and getting along?

? Third, avoid invalid standards.

? What can be called "invalid standards"? Standards such as honesty, kindness and integrity are completely ineffective.

? I have never met anyone who thinks he is dishonest, unfriendly and dishonest. Moreover, these standards cannot judge whether they exist or not. It is not easy to prove a dishonest, unfriendly and dishonest person. A romantic and affectionate person may be a dutiful son, and a perverted murderer may be a lover.

? In addition: behind each standard, it may represent a profound background.

? Many men look down on the "I hope the man makes progress" mentioned by the woman because they think it means "I hope the man makes money".

? They will be so contemptuous. Why? After all, they have no money. Why do they have no money? Is the education level not high? Is it limited intelligence? Is it not hard enough? Or bad luck?

? Which of the above women will like it?

? Therefore, I suggest my colleagues not to get angry, because personals didn't write it for you.