Ancient etiquette classical Chinese

The ways of expressing etiquette in ancient China are:

1, respect the elderly and respect the virtuous

Mencius told his son that "supporting the elderly and respecting the virtuous, Jie Jun is in office and has a celebration";

"Book of Rites, Sacrificing Righteousness"-"The ancient way, fifty is not a standard soil, and it is given to the elderly";

"Read when raising"-"When serving parents, the voice is easy to calm down. Don't yell at them for trifles ";

Disciple's rule-"low but not smell, but not fit";

Mozi is a pro-scholar-"those who can survive their country have never existed."

2, the instrument is still appropriate

Cheng's "Two Foreign Books" Volume 6-"Extravagance comes from literature, excess is extravagance, and insufficiency is frugality".

3. Treat people with things

"Book of Rites, Quli and Shang"-"Those who treat their husbands with courtesy feel inferior and respect others";

Wen Zi Wei Xiang-"Don't blame others for not being as good as yourself, don't be too strong on others, and don't suffer because others are not good";

"The Analects of Confucius Yan Yuan" "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you";

"Book of Rites, Quli Shang" "It is indecent to return the courtesy, but not to come; It is also indecent to come and not go ";

"The Book of Rites" repays evil with good, repays evil with evil, repays evil with evil, repays evil with evil;

"Zhuangzi Miki"-"The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between villains is as sweet as water; A gentleman is indifferent to his relatives, but a villain is willing to give up. Joining for no reason will also leave for no reason. "

4, the instrument has integrity.

Disciple's rules-"The crown must be straight, the knot must be tied, and the socks and shoes must be tight";

"The Analects of Confucius Learning" "A gentleman is not strong if he is not heavy, and learning is not solid";

"The Analects of Confucius Yan Yuan"-"see no evil, don't listen if you are indecent, don't speak if you are indecent, and don't move if you are indecent";

Text-"The rhetoric is sincere, so it is also a career";

"The Analects of Confucius Lutz"-"Words must be kept, and actions must be fruitful";

"The Analects of Confucius Wei Linggong"-"If you can speak without words, you will lose people; Don't talk to it in words, it's rude. The knower does not lose people, nor does he lose words. "

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The basic content of etiquette

1. Etiquette education covers all aspects of social life. From the content point of view, there are appearance, manners, expressions, movements, language, clothing, speech, treating people and so on. From the object, there are etiquette, public etiquette, hospitality etiquette, table etiquette, gift etiquette, civilized communication and so on. The code of conduct in the process of interpersonal communication is called etiquette, and the performance of etiquette in speech action is called politeness. To strengthen moral practice, we should pay attention to etiquette, so that people can communicate with each other on the principle of "respecting others, self-discipline, moderation and sincerity" and bid farewell to uncivilized words and deeds.

2. Etiquette, etiquette and politeness are rich and varied, but each has its own regularity. Its basic etiquette principles are: first, the principle of respecting people; Second, the principle of self-discipline, that is, self-denial, prudence, initiative, voluntariness, courtesy, self-comparison, self-reflection, self-demand, self-discipline, self-restraint, and no arrogance; The third is the principle of moderation, moderation and control; Fourth, the principle of sincerity, treat people sincerely, treat people sincerely, don't take part in accidental amusement, and behave differently.

3. Civilized language: 1, hello! 2. Please sit down! 3. I'm sorry ... 4. Please wait a moment! 5. Excuse me! 6. Please forgive me! 7. I'm sorry! 8, it doesn't matter! 9. You're welcome! 10, thank you! 1 1, please rest assured! 12. Sorry to have kept you waiting. 13 Go ahead! 14, I will try my best to help you. Serving you is what I should do. 16, please feel free to ask if you don't understand. Thank you very much for your cooperation. Goodbye.

In the world, people will inevitably bump into each other, and sometimes even be rude. A "I'm sorry" can make the resentment disappear, otherwise it may have unexpected consequences and even lead to human tragedy.

In interpersonal communication, learning to apologize is a very important moral accomplishment for us to be human from primary school. We should learn to say "I'm sorry" and try to be civilized teenagers. Moreover, language is a tool for communication, and civilized language is the golden key to open the soul. Whether civilized language can be used in communication reflects a person's accomplishment and affects the whole social atmosphere. The world of swearing is "black and white", and the society that speaks civilized language is "colored". Of course, there are still many polite expressions in life, so we should pay attention to the polite expressions used in various occasions.

Secondly, learning "etiquette" should be based on improving my self-esteem. Self-esteem, that is, self-respect, is a psychological state of wanting to be respected by others, not bowing to others, and not allowing others to insult and discriminate. It is the expression of people's self-awareness, guides people's actions in a specific way, and is a positive behavioral motivation.

Correct self-esteem should have a humble character, not arrogance and impetuousness. When young students learn to respect others, they also gain the respect of others. While their self-esteem is improving, their inner moral requirements are also improving. Therefore, it is particularly important to cultivate young students' noble personality and good moral qualities of self-esteem, self-love and self-discipline. Etiquette education can be regarded as a kind of motivation and guidance, which plays an important role in the individual development of young students.

Thirdly, learning "etiquette" should focus on practice. A person's manners can only be reflected in his words and deeds. If you don't talk about it, you can't say whether someone has "manners". On the basis of understanding the etiquette requirements, everyone should dare to show their civilized and polite image in daily words and deeds and in dealing with people at ordinary times. Some students usually know to be polite, but in public or when they meet unfamiliar people, their "etiquette" norms can't be brought into play, which shows their lack of confidence. It is necessary to educate young students to build up confidence and know that while using proper manners and words, they are also shaping their good image, daring to show their polite, confident and civilized self, and making full use of various occasions and opportunities to show this.

Etiquette is also an important embodiment of campus culture. People with good manners and habits first give people a feeling of "pleasing to the eye" and can adjust the relationship between people. In school, etiquette can make the relationship between teachers and students, classmates and classmates more harmonious, harmonious and friendly, and make the campus civilized atmosphere more intense.

References:

The Basic Contents of the Etiquette of Baidu Encyclopedia Introduction