What has stubbornness brought me?

In many things, I stick to my heart, very stubborn, but also very tenacious, soft but not hard. The harvest brought by this trait is: let me bravely pursue what I want, which makes me very courageous, but at the same time I can bear hardships.

When I just graduated from college, when my job was not settled, my parents urged me to get married and told me to take the civil service exam or be an accountant. Many times, I also gave in and bought a book for civil servants. As a result, I really didn't go in, so I decided to give up and resolutely refused to listen to my parents' arrangements. If you come out to work alone, stay away from them, because there will be arrangements when you are near. When I came to Shenzhen, I didn't like doing finance, but I didn't have the courage to resign. As a result, I didn't become a full member. I was depressed and wanted to study without money, so I borrowed money to go to psychology to improve myself. At that time, I told myself that although I didn't know what I wanted, I knew what I didn't want. I bravely pursued my heart and tried to see the faint light in my heart: enlightenment education. I want to help those left-behind children stay in school and study hard. Don't be as bad as me, have a good mental model. So I went into psychology, persisted for so many years, and experienced a lot of hardships.

I think my stubborn personality makes me very focused and motivated. I have been working hard to improve my major, and I have been a course consultant for four years, which has been recognized by many customers.

Stubbornness also makes me very infectious. As long as it is something I think is good, I will share it and strengthen my faith. At the same time, stubbornness makes me real. Because I don't know how to pretend, I am who I am, so I passed on my faith and my true self when I was doing business. So others trusted me, liked me and signed up for our class. My performance is ok.

Stubbornness makes me look for the right direction, without so many distractions, and my heart is pure. On the road of insisting on psychology, many people think that I can work hard and my business can also. They wanted me to join them, but I refused, because I thought it was meaningful to make psychological life. Later, I will go back to my hometown to do enlightenment education to improve my children's learning ability and help them. My initial heart has always led me. So this makes me practice until a person can only do one thing in his life, be more focused, don't waste time, and accomplish nothing by then.

Stubbornness makes me very assertive and powerful, and I have a general direction principle for many things.

But stubbornness makes it easy for me to ask others, because I believe in my beliefs and feel that mine is right. When the outside world conflicts with my value system, I will feel very uncomfortable, painful and confused.

Stubbornness also makes me vulnerable. In fact, many times, I don't like others to judge me, and I am afraid that others will reject me. In the face of evaluation, I don't want to compromise to cater to others, so that others don't evaluate me so much. It will be very painful to cater to me. So I will struggle with the external value system in my own value system, and I will be confused. I understand my stubbornness, I am also skeptical, I dare to challenge authority, and I don't like to cater to dignitaries or official ranks. Many, many things, I need to understand, if I don't understand, I can't completely surrender. If you press me with reason, I will be more stubborn. So I realized the importance of understanding. In order to understand many things, I read all kinds of books by myself. Now I find that I don't have a strategic process, so I just read all kinds of history books.

Stubbornness is also easy to see the advantages of others. On one occasion, a colleague was very slow, his brain was not very bright and his learning ability was poor. I really don't like her. I always thought you could hurry up and make more achievements. However, after more than a year of getting along, something happened, and I saw her tolerance and dedication.

Stubbornness also keeps me from listening to what others say, especially what I don't like. I don't care what you say to people I don't like. Because I didn't feel relaxed in front of them, everything I did was wrong, and I was so tired. Sensitivity is my characteristic, which makes me very sensitive to my inner feelings and other people's attitudes towards me, easily emotional and makes me lose my mind. To tell the truth, I don't want to communicate with Mr. Li because he gives me a bad feeling and his voice is not good. Many things always give me reasons, I don't need them. What I want is whether my feelings have been seen, understood, compensated or comforted after so many such incidents that I have followed my clients for so long and didn't get any commission in the end. But now, I am relieved, because I have been reading Wang Yangming's mind these days, and I vaguely feel that I lack wisdom, strategies and methods in doing things. I was born with honesty and frankness, but I don't want to be like this now. I want to do things tactfully, because I know my mission and initial intention, and I demand change and flexibility for it.

I really feel bad about some of the company's practices and don't agree. I also understand that it is not easy for a large group company to operate. Do you have to accept it if you can understand it? Is it necessary to accept it? Can understanding solve the problem? Because I am just an employee, I have no choice but to continue my work and life, but I have to find ways to improve my ability and planning, and at the same time, I have to understand why the company is like this, because it will happen to me when I open a studio in the future. What should I do? Perhaps, I really don't understand some situations and motives of the top management and the principles of doing things. Would it be different if I knew?

Stubbornness will make me lose many opportunities and exercise my space, because I don't agree with leadership.

Stubbornness will also make me shut out people who like me, because I agree with my own set of standards and favorite standards.

Stubbornness makes me unable to let go of many things, especially feelings. I am nostalgic and miss the good old days. I can't be normal and open-minded

Stubbornness also makes people I like dislike themselves, because I am persistent and difficult to control, and I will do whatever I think.

Stubbornness has also made me lose many perspectives and diversified my life.

I think the essential reason is emotion. People are easy-to-accept animals, and feelings will make me accept many things but not many truths.