In our thirties, what else can we do besides struggle?

We who were born in the 1980s accidentally reached the age of 30, which is an embarrassing and funny age. It’s not easy for those born in the 1980s. We did not suffer the hardships of those born in the 1970s, but enjoyed the blessings of those born in the 1990s.

My father said that when he married my mother, he spent the gift money to drive a pig and dozens of kilograms of rice to my grandpa’s house. Then he and my mother received the certificate and rode their bicycles. When my mother takes her back, the marriage will be consummated. Every time after listening to this, I feel that my father has made a lot of money, but my mother has lost money. But the economic price level at that time was like this. You could buy a lot of things with one penny. Ten yuan at that time was used as a hundred yuan today, but now even a hundred yuan can't buy anything. Buy something. It can easily cost tens of thousands of yuan, and it feels like the money is not money, but leaves.

A few days ago, a boy from the village chatted with me on WeChat and said that his wife was clamoring to buy a house in the county. He said that he really didn’t have the financial means, at least not now. I got married the year before I was a child, and gave birth to a fat boy the year before. Before I got married, I built a two-storey house of about 200 square meters in my hometown. It cost hundreds of thousands to build the house, and another 300,000 to get married. Now I am Raising a child is also a big expense for a father. After giving birth to the child, his wife stayed at home to take care of the child, and he alone opened a shop in our town to deliver express delivery. Although he made a lot of money, he was also very tired.

We who were born in the 1980s have experienced education reform, rising prices, SARS, earthquakes, the Olympics, etc. When we were in elementary school, college was free, and we were given jobs and housing after graduation. However, with the popularization of higher education and the development of the national economy, higher education was very expensive when we were in college. Compulsory education is free.

At that time, the slogan in the village was, "Studying is the only way out," and they were promoting the idea that "everything is inferior, only studying is high." So, our parents sold money to help us study in college. After finally graduating, I found that it was difficult to find an ideal job even if I was struggling. Even if I found a job, I would still have to face the huge problem of buying a car, a house, getting married and having children in the future. When it comes to buying a car, a house, getting married and having children, it is simply an unbearable burden in life. Moreover, it has caught up with the country’s policy of fully opening up two children. Do you think we should have a baby or not? Many of our generation born in the 1980s are only children. What we are facing now may be that there are four elders and one child. Isn’t there a lot of pressure? How is it possible. Faced with the two-child policy, we born in the 1980s have caught up with the trend and become the main force in childbirth.

Those of us born in the 1980s, when we reach middle age, we will face a situation where there are four elders and two younger ones. We can't complain, we can't fall, we can't give up easily, we have to live well, because we are not alone, behind us are the entire family, elderly parents, young children, and lovers who love us. For parents, for children, for lovers, and for the ideals that have not yet been realized, we must persevere and live better.