Appreciate dad, a great father who wakes up in time!

People often say in life: Thank you for suffering, because it can make a person.

I don't quite agree with this sentence, because the chances of hitting a person with hardships are greater, and what can achieve a person is oneself, the mentality and way when facing hardships, and we should thank ourselves for fighting back bravely in the face of hardships.

Speaking of the story of Isabella Chow, the founder of appreciation education, it is a tearful history of suffering. It is precisely because when suffering came, he did not feel sorry for himself too much, but bravely accepted continuous learning, integration and innovation, thus creating one miracle after another, and rewriting his own and his daughter's life accidents into a touching song of life.

Isabella Chow, a native of Nanjing, just graduated from junior high school in 1967, caught up with a special era and had to drop out of school and rush into the social torrent.

He worked as a soldier, a molder, a machine tool technician, and also attended the "July 21" Workers' University.

If his life is like most people in the same era, he will not experience so much pain, but live a simple and happy life.

On June 27th, 198, Isabella Chow's world was completely changed, because he had an unusual daughter, Zhou Tingting, who was deaf in both ears.

Total deafness is a forbidden area for rehabilitation all over the world, and the only way out is basically to go to a school for the deaf.

Isabella Chow deeply understands the pain of the deaf father, and his daughter Tingting can only hear the sound above 1 decibels after being diagnosed. Some parents of deaf children will collapse or even despair when they hear the diagnosis like a doctor's verdict.

Isabella Chow was no exception. He held the child tightly and dared not look into his daughter's eyes. He held the child trembling all the way home.

Isabella Chow nearly collapsed, tossing and turning in countless sleepless nights.

Life will go on, and as long as there is a glimmer of hope, we will never give up easily.

He began to take his daughter on the road to cure deafness. From Nanjing to Shanghai to Beijing and then to Guangzhou, he went to many hospitals and met countless doctors. His daughter got tens of thousands of needles in her ear, and finally failed to cure deafness.

Many deaf children eventually become deaf because they can't hear the outside world. Isabella Chow is unwilling to accept his fate. He doesn't want his daughter to be isolated from ordinary people all her life.

the daughter who only dares to hide in the corner when she looks at the arrival of inferiority; Looking at Tingting, who couldn't express her thoughts when she passed out crying, Isabella Chow's tears rolled like a knife.

He led his daughter stumbling through one dull day and night after another; I have tasted despair and suffering again and again.

Isabella Chow, who was in the same boat, burst into tears.

Any life is fragile and beautiful. At this moment, he is determined to open the door to the world of sound for his daughter.

Isabella Chow devotes all her time and energy to her daughter except working hours. He studied all kinds of children's education books while treating his daughter's dumb.

He asked his daughter to watch her mouth and learn pronunciation, just like the classic line in The Kite Runner: Qian Qian for you a million times! In order to hear her daughter call "Dad", Isabella Chow has taught her thousands of times. In order to pronounce a "brother" and "light" correctly, Tingting studied for three years. ......

Language is the foundation of thought. In order to teach his daughter the ability of language expression, Isabella Chow invented the method of playing Chinese characters in his mother tongue. He immediately wrote everything his daughter said on the wall, on the floor, on the desk, on his body and on his hands.

Write about stars when they see stars, and write about trees when they see trees … Every time they go out to play, they play all over the place before going home.

In order not to put pressure on her daughter, Isabella Chow never asked her how much she knew and mastered, but the words and expressions had penetrated her daughter's subconscious.

And this playful learning method has also developed Tingting's mind well.

Tingting can recognize more than 2, Chinese characters at the age of six. At the age of 8, he can recite more than 1 decimal places of pi, breaking the world record at that time; Studying in an ordinary school, she is not only excellent in character and learning, but also jumps two levels in a row; At the age of 13, he was rated as one of the top ten young pioneers in China and a self-improvement model for the disabled. At the age of 16, he became the first deaf junior college student in China; At the age of 2, he was admitted to Gallaudet University as a graduate student ―― the first deaf graduate student in China;

At the age of 22, she was selected as one of the first "Top Ten Female Figures at Home and Abroad" together with Wu Yi, Deng Yaping and Yang Lan, and was cordially received by important state leaders. At the age of 24, he was admitted to Boston University to pursue a doctorate.

When Zhou Tingting stood at the commendation meeting in the Great Hall of the People and gave a wonderful speech in front of more than 7, people, she was praised as a "child prodigy" and a "genius". Only Isabella Chow, the father who was crying silently in the audience, knew that Tingting was not a genius, and her IQ was 15, which was far from the so-called genius of 13.

Maybe the so-called genius is an ordinary person who is enlightened and properly educated!

When I was a child, Tingting's pronunciation was intermittent and a little strange. She couldn't hear any sound herself, and she asked her father with inferiority, "Is my voice particularly ugly?"

Zhou Hong thumbs up to encourage her: "Your voice is like a string of pearls, great!"

When Tingting failed in math, Isabella Chow encouraged her: "Do you want to be a Haiyan? Great! The storm is coming, let's meet it together! "

In each of Tingting's compositions, Isabella Chow draws out good sentences with a red pen and asks her to read them to the whole family, and the whole family applauds them.

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Isabella Chow said: My daughter is not a child prodigy, and I am not an educator myself. I am just a father who woke up at the right time, and the person he admires most is his daughter Tingting.

He didn't ask the flowers to bloom, but he only watered them carefully. However, Zhou Tingting grew up to be the most beautiful self and become the Chinese Helen Keller because of her inherent weakness.

In the process of accompanying and educating his daughter, Isabella Chow summed up, discovered and comprehended a whole set of children's education concepts, and started Tingting School for the Deaf.

The school pursues the teaching method of entertaining and entertaining, and the school slogan is only: "Are you happy, teacher? Are you happy, son? I wish you a happy day and a good mood. "

There are no classes in the school, and the mobile courses are completely determined by students' mood and interest. Playing math, Chinese and ducks is a kind of chaotic spiritual education of "chasing butterflies".

This kind of "chasing butterflies" education has made deaf children born out of power create miracles one after another, and the school has trained a batch of Zhou Tingting-style precocious children, which is called "Zhou Tingting phenomenon" by the media. Isabella Chow summed up his education method as "appreciation education".

In order to benefit more families, Isabella Chow has written many books about parenting education and family harmony, such as Life is like water, which part is not beautiful, Being a parent in a different way, and lighting a lamp in the dark for life.

Isabella Chow not only founded the Appreciation Education Society, but also established a special school for deaf children and a happy parent-child camp. He won the 6th Love Life Award in the world and was awarded the title of "Appreciating Dad". He was also known as "the first awakened father in China". He was specially appointed as a family education expert by the Central Education Institute.

Appreciation education is no longer a simple parenting education. It is widely used in the aspects of getting along with lovers, co-workers and team harmony, and has become a set of ideas to enlighten family happiness and life growth.

Isabella Chow has influenced and changed tens of millions of families with this problem with his wisdom and actions.

In recent years, Isabella Chow has traveled all over the country and many countries in Southeast Asia. He has given thousands of large-scale education lectures.

Looking at the eager eyes of the parents in the audience, I thought that I might not share it in the same city in the future. As long as time permits, he always increases the interaction time with people in need and helps as many people as possible.

whether standing on the podium or sharing with others in life, Mr. Isabella Chow, who has reached the age of sixty, is always in high spirits. He likes to talk with Kan Kan, who is humorous, philosophical and easy to understand.

He said: "Appreciation is not only what children crave, but also the most essential need in human nature, so we propose appreciation education.

what is appreciation? Appreciation is by no means blind praise and encouragement. The essential meaning of appreciation is to look up. Only by looking up to each other can we recognize the bright spots in each other's lives. And we should use the mentality of not being afraid of falling and losing when teaching children to learn to walk and speak, so that life can shine more brightly. Not afraid of losing, you can win! "

He shared: "Life is a river, the upper reaches are self, the middle reaches are husband and wife, and the lower reaches are parent-child relationship. Everyone must learn to reconcile with themselves. Only when the upper reaches are harmonious, the middle reaches will be harmonious, and the middle reaches will be harmonious, and the lower reaches will be harmonious. "

Mr. Isabella Chow himself experienced the pain and failure of marriage. It is because he learned to reconcile with himself that he regained the ability to love and be loved. In the eyes of mutual appreciation with his family, he regained a happy, harmonious and happy family.

Now appreciation education has been included in one of the six major education laws in the world, and it is also the only children's education law from China, which is regarded as the treasure of parenting education.

But Isabella Chow said frankly: "Appreciation education is a kind of idea and mentality, and it has no specific operation steps and methods. There are thousands of people, and no one method is suitable for all children. Ideas and attitudes are the essence of appreciation education. When the attitude changes, the methods are infinite; When the attitude changes, the problem disappears. "

He laughed at himself and said, "Fate made me fall, but I found a treasure in this fall."

At present, in too many children's education and getting along with husband and wife, people are always used to blaming with their thumbs instead of accepting, tolerating and appreciating with their thumbs.

What Mr. Isabella Chow wants to do is to share the treasures he has dug up with everyone, so that appreciation education can benefit more people who are confused in education, and people who are lost in the secluded pool can also find the rope leading to light and hope.

Author: Yue Ling, a stone obsessed with mountains and rivers, interprets the complicated world with her own heart.