After reading Sandberg’s step forward

When you have finished reading a work, you will probably have a lot to share. At this time, the most important thing is not to forget the feelings after reading. But what is the appropriate way to write your thoughts after reading? The following is my review of Sandberg’s Step Forward (selected 10 articles) compiled by me for your reference only. I hope it can help you. Thoughts after reading Sandberg's "Lean In" 1

I read Sandberg's "Lean In" and never wanted to put it down until I spent an afternoon and evening reading it. For some reason, when I saw many places, I had the urge to cry. You must know that this is definitely not a tear-jerking book. This book teaches you to be confident and self-reliant, work hard to move forward, and achieve a balanced and win-win life. But the psychological process of Sandberg's growth reflected between the lines aroused too many screams from me. Although her social status and achievements are beyond my reach throughout my life, as a woman, her mental growth is very similar.

I remember when I was a child, I won an award and didn’t want to announce it, and I thought it was nothing if I got good grades. My essay was selected as the school’s outstanding essay. Instead of being happy, I felt embarrassed and deceived. I felt that my essay was not good at all. It was so good that I felt like I couldn't hold my head up for a long time. All these are caused by deep-seated inferiority in the soul. And this is the root of self-deprecation and lack of self-confidence.

When I got to work, I lost some opportunities because the other party didn’t want girls and was afraid that taking care of the family would delay work. These invisible sexisms exist and are difficult to change. Accept what cannot be changed and change what cannot be accepted. Since you can't change, complaining will only increase your worries. It's better to sort out your mentality, be proactive, and look for the next opportunity that truly belongs to you. Perhaps there is no need to use the word "discrimination" to blindly increase the erroneousness of this perception. This is just the perception of some people, and many people do not think so. Opinions and perceptions are not right or wrong, and absolute truth is almost never exist. Only if you are strong enough can you influence the rules. Sandberg's success and persistence must have affected many men's perception of women.

At the same time, because the baby is still young, I gave up some good opportunities that may require business trips. This is actually a kind of self-denial in the opposite direction. I feel that I cannot balance career and family, and I choose family by default. Indeed, society’s expectations of women bother us. Those closest to us will also tell you, why do girls work so hard? Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to spend more time with your children now that you’re not tired from work? The life you want is too idealistic and more pragmatic? These opinions and voices hold you back, hinder you, and make you doubt, confused, and stagnant. But if you still can't let go of your inner calling, it's better to keep moving forward, even if you take one step, you will have no regrets even if you fail, because of your efforts.

If you are not strong enough, please pretend to be strong first; if you are not confident enough, pretend to be confident first. I've actually tried this trick, and it works. However, it is suspected of treating the symptoms rather than the root cause. It just wraps up the villain with low self-esteem in a note of "I want to be confident". When encountering extraordinary difficulties, the villain can easily jump out again and bring disaster. of self-doubt. But perhaps, such pretense is indeed the only way to challenge yourself and adjust your personality. Lies told too often become truth. Besides, is there any better way? The formation of habits requires initial compulsion. We can only consciously encourage ourselves through repeated trials, defeat the villain with low self-esteem, and turn the paper into a steel bar. Maybe in the end you will find that the sunshine of confidence fills every corner of your heart. What we can do is to survive the tests before the light, take one step forward, and never give up.

Don’t seek perfection, just completion. Don’t seek perfection, just completeness. Whatever you want, just try, it may not be as difficult as you think.

There are too many dimensions and meanings behind the simple phrase "Lean in". It is not only suitable for women, but also for all boys and girls who feel that they are not strong enough and confident in their hearts. As a woman, I want to acknowledge the differences between men and women and understand that society does have different expectations for men and women. At the same time, I want to give full play to the advantages of women, find my own accurate positioning, and move forward step by step relentlessly. This is what I want to do.

Remarks after reading "Lean In" by Sandberg 2

As one of the most successful women in the world, Sheryl Sandberg profoundly analyzes the fundamentals of inequality between men and women in "Lean In" Reason, unlock the code of women’s success! She believes that the reason why women do not have the courage to join the leadership and pursue their dreams is mostly due to inner fear and lack of self-confidence. In the book, she encourages all women to boldly sit at the table, actively participate in conversations and discussions, and speak out their thoughts. At the same time, she also put forward the following eight suggestions for women to encourage them to accept challenges bravely and pursue their life goals with enthusiasm.

1. Only when you sit down at the table will you have a chance. Many working women (and now many men too) are used to sitting at the back during meetings. The author believes that if you want to get equal attention, you must first learn to sit forward. This means you need to express yourself and be valued.

2. To be successful, you must also be popular. Women must learn to express their needs with "warm persistence", learn to release their emotions (you can also cry out in pain), and learn to adapt to "strongness"...

3. Career is the way to go A trellis, not a ladder. The trellis provides a wider view, rather than only those at the top having the best views.

4. Express your thoughts and emotions truly. When you can't express very artistically, direct and concise expression is good; crying sometimes has a good effect and is also a good way to express emotions.

5. Don’t let yourself be “still in body but far away in mind”. Don't look for an exit the moment you hit the highway, don't hit the brakes, accelerate, put your foot on the gas!

6. Let your significant other become your life partner. Share housework equally to fully mobilize men's enthusiasm for doing housework.

7. Don’t try to be an almighty woman. Guilt comes from an unrealistic pursuit of perfection.

8. Let’s start discussing this issue. Don’t over-exaggerate women’s issues to the legal level.

In life, when faced with wishes big and small, you are reluctant to take the first step. In addition to laziness, there is also excessive pressure on yourself. Always pursue perfection in everything. If you don’t make a complete plan, you will never take the first step. Even if you have a perfect plan, you will question your ability and always feel that you are not ready yet. However, Sandberg firmly believes: "Done is better than perfect." Completion shows that although the task is challenging, the results prove that it is achievable, and it is often a relief. Taking a step forward is a gesture and an attitude. Go ahead and live the life you want! Sandberg's post-reading thoughts 3

Ever since I had a child, I have often fallen into a dilemma. I want to be a good mother and take good care of my child, but I also want to manage myself well. , work well, learn what you want to learn, and do what you want to do. Alas, trying to do both well is an almost impossible task.

Whenever I open my eyes every day, I pray, "My child, please don't wake up." But she, who goes to bed early and gets up early, often opens her eyes with me. He held your neck, tears streaming down his face, and kept calling for mother. "Mom has to go to work, so I can play with you after get off work, okay?" It's such a helpless statement.

After work, I trotted home quickly. If there is a small gathering, I have to struggle for a long time and even make a phone call.

If you can’t let go, just be a full-time mother. Alas, anyone who has ever been there knows that the feeling really engulfs you completely. Your own time? Nice thinking! Your own interests? Let it go. What do you want to do? Don’t even think about it! You don’t have yourself, only your mother.

So, even though I feel a little guilty, I am still willing to go to work and enjoy this somewhat respite life.

I have always thought that the above emotion is unique to me. The guilt stems from wanting to be a good mother too much, and the restless heart.

After reading this book, I feel relieved. It turns out that this feeling is not unique to me. Many women are like this. Sheryl Sandberg, who is so successful, is also struggling.

As the CEO of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg may be more aware of the incongruity between the roles of women, business managers and mothers, even though the United States is more civilized and equal. It has long been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people. Even if her husband does not blame or condemn her and is willing to take on more family affairs, it is still difficult for her to face her own moral judgment.

Sheryl Sandberg did not impose this kind of judgment on herself. She was more keenly aware of the many inequalities between men and women under the banner of gender equality. She provides an in-depth analysis of the choices faced by generations and generations of women. Why are there fewer and fewer women at the top of the workplace? What prevents women from being promoted? Research data never supports that women are not smart enough, so what exactly is the glass ceiling for women?

It’s awareness, men Understanding of women, and women’s understanding of themselves. I think it's a collective subconscious. They are not discussed on the table, but they surround us all the time. They are like air, affecting you everywhere. Even if you can ignore other people's opinions, there is no way to stay out of it. It is often ourselves who limit women.

Sheryl Sandberg encourages every woman to become a better version of herself. She has given a lot of practical advice to women in the workplace, which is very considerate and practical. To me, this confession is even more valuable. Can I clearly see and accept the emotions that make me feel guilty and anxious, and can I let myself go in a harsh environment? Everything is perfect is just a myth, some things are sloppy, and some things are brilliant. Whether you can do it is as important as whether you can let it go.

Without the mixed feelings, being a mother would be too thin. Perhaps, it is those feelings of guilt and anxiety that I should calm down and savor. At the moment of meditation, you should really ask yourself, why are you so dissatisfied with yourself? Sandberg takes a step forward and reads 4

Sandberg is one of the most outstanding female managers in the world. , she brought a management style of rigorous management, flexible methods and excellent performance to 1facebook1. Therefore, her "Lean Forward" has been receiving continuous praise since its publication. Not only female managers, many male managers have also benefited greatly from it.

In this book, Sandberg combines the reality of work and life to explain her various suggestions for managers, especially female managers, to advance their careers, explaining it in simple terms and in detail. Management is not easy, managers are even harder, and it is even more difficult for female managers. Through this book, we can not only get a glimpse of the various misunderstandings and prejudices against female managers in today's highly developed economy and social awareness, but also the various misunderstandings and prejudices against female managers. What matters is what methods they (or we) should adopt, what postures they should maintain, and what concepts they should break in the face of these difficulties, in order to promote social progress and family happiness. This includes:

1. Overcome psychological fear and be a brave manager

Facing various social inequalities, we should first find the reasons within ourselves. Are we unwilling or unwilling in our hearts? If we don't dare to be good managers, do we have fear in our hearts? Do we care more about other people's vision and opinions? Do we not have such qualities and psychology ourselves? Only when our hearts are strong can we be truly strong. In 2015, she once again emphasized "opportunity favors the brave" in her graduation speech at the Tsinghua University School of Economics and Management. If "Think Big" is the first step, it should also be the most important step

2. Find a life mentor and make long-term and short-term career plans

A suitable life mentor can give us important advice during critical career periods, which normal academic education cannot give, so good managers You should be good at discovering and cherishing such learning opportunities. Secondly, you must plan your career well, and use growth potential as a criterion to measure whether the job is suitable. While planning your "18-month" work, you must also look for ways to improve your current work methods, communication skills, etc.

3. Stay focused and refuse to be omnipotent

The confusion of many female managers lies in the fact that they are obviously working professionally, but they turn to consider family and children. In between Unable to set boundaries and time, often unable to find oneself, lost in the chaos of work and family.

Through her own sharing, Sandberg suggested that managers should put an end to "the body is still there but the mind is far away". As female managers, they should let go of the fantasy of being an all-rounder, know the trade-offs, and make the best choice. "Step Forward" shares various useful experiences with female managers, hoping that they can maintain confidence, wisdom, and gentle persistence - these management experiences are equally applicable to all managers. From this perspective, taking a step forward is not only a method, but also an attitude, but also the courage to change yourself and the world. Mr. Lin Yutang said "I must have the courage and freedom to be myself", which can be the best interpretation of this book. Thoughts after reading Sandberg's Lean In 5

The book "Lean In" tells about some of the things that the author and her companions have experienced and perceived as women in their life and work. their lives. But how come it feels like we’ve seen each other before, so familiar? It turns out that as a woman, even though her life experiences are different, she lives in different countries, speaks different languages, and from the time she is born and grows up to entering society, she invariably faces similar situations. Families, society, and even ourselves, intentionally or unintentionally, have set up some pitfalls. Being in it, unaware of it, enduring it silently.

What would you do if there was no fear?

Facing your own heart, what ideas do you have that have never been realized? Do you think too much and do too little? Do you try your best to fight, or do you leave some leeway? As a woman, you should be brave enough to pursue your goals, and don't draw a circle, stop in a small circle, and imprison your thoughts. Only when you grow strong enough can you see higher and farther scenery. If you are hesitant and hesitant, be braver, spring insects and summer cicadas, decades have passed by in a flash, and you still live up to the impulses and dreams you still have in your heart.

What constitutes good development?

Generally speaking, it should be conducive to people’s growth. Can a monk who has been dating for decades be the same as a monk who goes around asking for alms? To promote the development of personal potential, one must not be afraid of trouble, hardship, and frustration. Experience, what you see and hear will bring you some different ideas.

"Climb the grid" instead of "climb the vertical ladder"

When climbing the grid, even if you occasionally retreat, there are many ways to climb upward. Inertia requires long-term persistence to resist. Inertia is strong, and it is very comfortable to just sit around without using your brain or effort. But even if we are not good at it, even if we have fear, it is always good to take action.

Learn to ask for help

Regardless of family members, colleagues, friends or children, seek help from others appropriately. Show weakness appropriately, give yourself a break, and shorten the distance between people. Why not do it.

As described in the book, women often underestimate and underestimate themselves at work. Don’t express yourself and just accept the situation. Compared with men, they are more cautious and have less presence. In fact, women pay more.

The current status of women is the result of countless generations of hard work. I hope it will get better and better in the near future. Take a step forward, there is a long way to go, and you and I are in it. Thoughts after reading "Lean In" by Sandberg 6

I just finished reading the book "Lean In" today. This book is the work of Sheryl Sandberg, the current chief operating officer of Facebook. She is the first female member to join the Facebook board of directors and is one of the top 50 "most powerful" businesswomen listed by Forbes. one.

She is Mark Zuckerberg’s right-hand man and has a natural talent for management. She is the highest-paid female executive in the United States and is called the most influential woman in "Silicon Valley" by the American media.

In this book, Sheryl Sandberg uses frank and interesting language to show us the phenomenon and causes of inequality between men and women, unlocks the code of women's success, and inspires Countless women move forward bravely, accept challenges, and realize themselves!

From this book, I know that when we are not confident in life, we can pretend to be confident, force a smile, ignore society’s opinions, and recognize Own. Tell yourself, not everyone is welcome, don’t be harsh on yourself, adjust your mentality, don’t say I’m not ready, but think about what I want to do, I can learn and do it, don’t be afraid, taking a step forward is freedom, and moving towards The last step is a constraint, always believe that there is a scenery waiting for you ahead.

Sandberg’s motto, “Done is worse than perfect,” left a deep impression on me and inspired me a lot. There are many things in life that have been put on hold because of the feeling that they cannot be perfect. We don’t try, we give up starting because we feel inferior to others, and we never try to finish first and then talk about perfection. Sometimes we bite the bullet and do certain things, but in the end we feel quite accomplished.

I want to read more and have been thinking about it for a long time. First, I suffer from lack of time (purely an excuse). The second is that I feel that I am too old (this is still an excuse) and reading is useless. The third is that I can’t be a writer or a celebrity, so what is the use of reading. So I have only stayed at the level of thinking and have not really done it. I made a plan for myself last week and felt the effect was good after reading two books a week. I read the two books "Wuthering Heights" and "Self-Control". Reading books, drawing so-called maps, writing and sharing are very fulfilling. I also read "One Step Forward" this week and am preparing to read the second book "Imperfect is Perfect". I only ask myself to complete it, not Require perfection and understand the book as much as you can. Never be too demanding on yourself, doing something is always better than doing nothing, and completion is better than perfection. Sandberg Leap Forward 7

Thanks to Sheryl. Sandberg, after reading Cheryl’s long list of thanks and details in the last chapter, you can feel her enthusiastic, grateful, considerate and thoughtful personality. Of course, these sincere qualities are well reflected in the text throughout the book.

The whole book is very practical, especially the first nine chapters, which can be said to be full of useful information. Although the main content of this book is centered around the theme of women's equality in the workplace. The writing content is mainly composed of Cheryl's own cases and her profound experiences, as well as other women or various experimental reports, rich relevant research and data, and clear logical arguments. In such rich content, many times as a woman, you will feel the same problem. For example, she repeatedly mentioned that women are prone to passive and unconscious self-underestimation in the workplace. There are also issues that women often overlook. For example, women, like men, often subconsciously believe that they are more willing to trust men’s abilities in the same situation. This caused me to reflect very well. There is much more that is as illuminating as these ideas.

At the same time, I also think that the value of this book is not only a very detailed, comprehensive, multi-angle and multi-level analysis of the issue of female equality, so as to help readers face the same problem in the future. You will have a clearer understanding and a broader perspective. At the same time, because the content of the book is mostly narrated around the workplace, it also provides good guidance and reference for dealing with many problems in the workplace.

For example, in sections 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6, such as long-term goals and short-term career goals, it is mentioned that most of the previous workplace planning methods were ladder-type, that is, a ladder. To make progress upward, perhaps the better way now is the grid type. In this era when new things are constantly emerging, it is a good idea to jump horizontally at certain stages and then continue upward.

Chapter 5, how to find your life mentor, etc., provides practical guidance on career planning and other issues. Finally, as Cheryl said, and one of Facebook’s company slogans, done is more important than perfect. Indeed, perfectionism is often our enemy, especially women. Try to make progress and accept your imperfections! Come on, smart girls~ and the men in the other half of the world, let’s move forward together for a better world. Comments after reading "Lean In" by Sandberg 8

I don't have much life in these two days, so I took the time to read "Lean In" by Sheryl Sandberg.

The first time I learned about this book was in a post recommending books for women. It seems to be jointly recommended by Yang Lan and other well-known women to introduce women’s career planning from a practical perspective. So I found it and took a look at it immediately.

This book did not surprise me. Rather than planning, the whole book tells you to be confident. I don’t know if it’s because of the translation or what, but I was a little disappointed after reading it. It's a bit like reading for the sake of reading. However, I have to admit that some chapters in the book do agree with the views and are a bit cynical.

The workplace environment in the United States may still be relatively normal (even if there is gender bias). With your own efforts and your own will, you can still hold higher positions and jump to a better platform.

Although I am not pessimistic, I think the current employment situation in China is that if you miss the recruitment of major companies, you may miss the opportunity to enter a big company. Although small companies can develop in an all-round way, they are also limited by small platforms. It is quite difficult to jump from a small platform to a large platform.

This is different from whether you are enterprising and willing to hold a higher position. I have always agreed with what Li Xinpin said in his creative class: "Only when you climb to a certain height, you will naturally get to know people at the same height, and the breadth of life will be broadened." In the book, Cheryl tells us with personal examples Her career development path. The paths of the middle and upper layers basically do not overlap with the paths of the middle and lower layers. However, the reality is that it is not that I want a higher position. If I arrange my life and work properly and strive for it without giving in, I can get a higher position. Part of it depends on "me" and part of it depends on "the leader".

However, I admire women who can excel in the workplace, take good care of their families, and properly arrange their private lives. If they can only do a good job, they are far from being successful. In fact, the same goes for men. Always believe that speaking beautifully is not as beautiful as living. It is necessary to be confident at all times. Thoughts after reading Lean In by Sandberg 9

This is a book recommended to friends by classmates. First of all, the title of Lean In attracted me. It is understandable that this is an inspirational book. Books, and we who are already in our third year of study need encouragement at all times to have the courage and courage to move forward!

Secondly, her smile attracted me, so warm, peaceful and intellectual! Books are good teachers and helpful friends. I like to figure out the real intentions of authors in writing books, so as to absorb new knowledge and new ideas, so as to enrich and inspire myself.

This is a book that inspires women around the world to bravely pursue their goals and achieve a perfect balance between career and family life. Although this is a book describing American workplace culture, which is a bit far from our real life, the principles are still the same. Through reading, the most useful thing for me is that at work, don't easily say "I don't know this, I don't know this very well, this is not my job..." The pursuit of stability does not mean standing still. The wisest choice is to learn, understand, and complete it as quickly as possible. This is an ability, an ability that can be acquired through exercise, and an ability to grow.

Sandberg mentioned in the book that "men and women should be equally divided between work and family life." I don't reject it, nor do I agree with things going to extremes. The establishment of a family requires a lot of tolerance and sacrifice. Only when two people work together and grow together can they achieve a better balance and gain more happiness. I am very glad that my lover and I think and do this. We are striving for the same dream...

Sandberg, one of the most successful women in the world, she also She has been hesitant, self-doubtful, and cried, but she has never been weak, never given up, and never stopped moving forward.

Take a step forward, learn to choose wisely and give up bravely, and work hard for your dreams. I think victory is not far away! Thoughts after reading Lean In by Sandberg 10

It took me less than a week to finish reading Lean In.

As a book recommended for women in the workplace, I am still somewhat inspired after reading it. I have to say that many of the ideas in the book impressed me deeply.

Career is a grid rather than a ladder, which means you can explore more possibilities.

In your career, it is indeed very important to plan well, but only if you really find a job that you like and suits you. If you haven't found it yet, please move to other parts of the grid as soon as possible to try. Don’t be afraid to try and explore, and you may soon find a job you love.

Don’t “prepare for a rainy day while your body is still there”

The Chinese have a saying called “preparing for a rainy day”, but the author advises not to prepare for a rainy day. Some women decide not to accept a business trip job right after graduation, not because they feel that they cannot adapt, but because they feel that they are not suitable for frequent business trips after getting married and having children. The problem is that she does not even have a boyfriend.

Sit at the desk

In the workplace, women should indeed be more active, although it is easy to be labeled as workaholics and strong women. But you need to have a correct mentality and accept this calmly. Your career is yours, not those of those who tell you what to do. Seize the opportunity, overcome your inner fears, and sit down at the table.

As a new mother, I am actually a little anxious, worried that I cannot balance work and family. I even said that I was worried about whether I would have to work overtime right after I took maternity leave. Even now, I am still struggling with my inability to participate in many of the company's training sharing and group activities because I can't go out at night.

I think I can also start to make some changes. First of all, I inform my colleagues about my time schedule. At least it is OK for me to have weekends off. Then there is the support from my family. Fortunately, my husband has always been supportive of my career and shares a lot of family responsibilities.

The following are reading notes, made into a mind map.

This is the first time I have done it, and the result is not very good. I plan to make such mind maps for this kind of books in the future.