Which is more terrible, low emotional intelligence or low IQ?

Low emotional intelligence is even more terrible.

I know a Mr. Wang, who used to be a translator and occasionally brought clients to my shop, probably because of his different styles and limited cooperation. When chatting, I found that I was a fellow villager, which was very intimate. Inadvertently, he said that his wife left him several years ago, and now he has been alone for many years.

I can't believe it. I looked at him carefully. There is really no reason. This man is also white, fluent in English, educated in a prestigious school, dressed elegantly, and looks like a gentleman.

"Is this girl blind or blind?" I thought so in my heart, but I didn't say it after all, because my friendship was not deep. "Your condition is so good, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't lose heart, I believe you will find something better soon! " I comforted him and said. "I have never met the right one." He's a little depressed.

With such doubts, another year or two passed, during which neither he nor the customers came to my store again. I saw him again in June this year, and he was still the same. Although he is thirty-seven or eight years old, the appearance of a scholar in white makes him look like a young man in his twenties forever.

Seeing him coming, I quickly asked my assistant to make tea for him. The tea was delicious, and we sat face to face and chatted. He told me that his business with several foreigners was not good in the past and they all changed careers. When he was old, he finally found a job in a bank (a credit card salesman in a small bank) and asked me to help him.

It's not that I don't want to help him To tell the truth, I have always been very resistant to salesmen (there are always three or five door-to-door sales of my products every day, which is annoying). At that time, I was busy with my work. I still need to fill in a lot of information and provide personal documents to apply for this card. Besides, I don't need this card at all. So I apologized and refused. He sat for a while and left silently. I feel a little guilty, but I really can't help it. I pray that he will understand.

Unexpectedly, in the next few days, I was bombarded by his information, sending short messages and private messages, and my tone changed from pleading to being tough, even raising the moral banner, so I had to help him. After the last straw, I blacked out his WeChat. I thought it was over, but I didn't want to. I received his request to add WeChat the next day. I opened it, and the reason for my request was written like this: Never mind, don't mind losing a friend!

At that moment, I finally understood why his wife left him. How low this emotional intelligence is, people can't avoid it. Sales need skill and a sincere heart, not forcing others to do it. Only people with low emotional intelligence can have such poor performance.

I'm thinking that it's an idiotic dream for such a person to get ahead in today's society, win a happy marriage and make sincere friends.