Tips for writing kind messages

Don’t be too quick to think that you have failed. It’s possible that you just haven’t found the territory where you will succeed. Ancient Spartan society hated arithmetic and believed that learning arithmetic was just to make money, which was shameful. If you are good at arithmetic, you must feel like a failure there. Nowadays, being good at arithmetic is definitely considered an advantage. The world is a big place and there are many definitions of success. Don’t call yourself a loser easily before you find your battlefield.

When you meet someone who is richer than you, please don’t automatically grovel, unless... he wants to give you his money... and usually rich people will not give money to anyone. People who just kowtow to them, so why bother?

When you were 15 years old, you found swimming difficult and gave up swimming. When you were 18 years old and you met someone you liked and asked you to go swimming, you had to say "I can't do it." When you were 18 years old, you thought English was difficult and gave up on English. When you were 28 years old, a great job came up but it required you to know English, so you had to say, "I can't do it." The more troublesome you are in the early stages of life and the less lazy you are to learn, the more likely you are to miss out on the people and things that interest you and the new scenery later on.

Many outstanding people stopped going to school very early (by their own choice, or because they wanted to go but couldn’t), but these people didn’t stop learning. They immediately went to a wider social school. , I have learned from more powerful people. If you have the courage, you can do the same. But please don’t mistakenly think that these people became outstanding because they stopped going to school early. This is like thinking that Napoleon was outstanding because he was short...

I am often asked: [What is the meaning of life? ? ], so far, my answer is probably like this: [If life has flavor, meaning doesn’t matter. ]. The ups and downs, the bitterness, the spicy, are all the taste of life. It’s quite interesting to have a taste and struggle... Some people may ask: "What if my life has no taste at all?" ] Well...if it has no taste at all, [meaning], there shouldn't be much that can be done to fix it, right?

You don’t have to stand at a high place at all times, but when it is critical, you can climb a few steps or a few floors, which will help you see your own situation, where you come from, where you are going, and the paths of others. What's the difference? Wait for something you can't see unless you climb higher. So, how to climb high? The experience of others is your ladder. It can be discovered through books or through life. If you want to be able to stand on the shoulders of giants one day and see as far as you can, then start practicing.

A simple wish is an unattainable dream elsewhere. If you look at how a group of people describe the content of their dreams, you will know what kind of life they are living. I once didn’t like excessive claims about how important dreams are in life. Later, after experiencing it, I also understood that many simple wishes are so far away, as far away as dreams. I agree with, and advocate for, those worthy dreams.

When you have very different ideas from his, but you want to convince him, you'd better not emphasize that this is "your" idea. You can change the wording and let him It feels like you were "inspired by him" to come up with this idea. This is the easiest way to do it, because no one will object to their own ideas. This kind of somewhat cheap move is most suitable for the following offenses.

You are important because you are all you can have. You exist and the whole world exists. If you can see the sunshine, the whole world can see the sunshine. If you lose balance, the world will lose balance. When you disappear, the world disappears. So you are important and you are all you can have.

Every time you do something, it is best to pursue only one goal you care about most, and give in to the rest. This way, you have a higher chance of achieving your goal. For example: if you do this thing, the most important thing is to learn experience, then don’t worry about money; if you do that thing, the most important thing is money, then don’t worry about face. And so on. If you want to do something, you want to gain experience, make more money, and have face... Such a good thing has to wait...

When you see others not doing well, you may feel secretly happy. In my heart, I get a sense of superiority that "I am smarter than him". But a truly smart person observes why others do not do well, and then criticizes himself to try not to make the same mistake. Those who only like to boo should be planning to remain in the audience, while those who are wary of themselves are preparing to stand on the stage one day.

What should you do when you encounter others making nasty remarks? If the other person is a classmate or colleague with whom you still want to get along, then I suggest you ask back, "Why are you so angry?" or "What made you so angry?" This sentence should be able to awaken the other person to talk rationally. It can also help both you and the other person calm down. When encountering a crazy punch, it is better to use Qinggong to get out of the way and buy some time for questioning than to fight back directly and cause unnecessary melee

[It’s all you! Make the house look like a pig's nest! ] This is an accusation that usually causes quarrels. [If you wash the dishes as soon as you finish eating, the house will be less messy. ] This is to correct and let the problem be solved. Blaming is a common way for children to speak, because children don’t know how to solve many things. But when you grow up and learn, you know that many things can be solved, so you don’t have to be like a child and mistake blaming others for the solution...

Do you want to score early? Imagine a golfer, if he only practices aiming, but always fails to release the ball or play, his practice will probably be in vain. There are many situations on the court. Only by experiencing them yourself can you know how to correct them and your shooting percentage will increase. If Kong Mingruo holds the map for the rest of his life, he will have no choice but to lie down without the dragon. No matter how accurate his aim is, he will not get even half a point. Do you want to score? You have to show up early.

Temperament can be faked, usually for a whole night, but humor cannot be faked, not even for a minute. So I value humor more than temperament.

Are the concepts you base on when making decisions really “good concepts”? Have these ideas made you successful or happy? If not, what good are they? Just because the ready-made ones are piled in your mind, just use them for convenience? The question is, if you always make decisions based on concepts that are not good enough, will you have a good life? The concept of storing sour food is harmful to life! Clean it up regularly to make room for good ideas.

Why advocate the first place? Why should first place be interpreted as glory and significance? The world is a big place and there are many things to do. Why should we advocate something that only a few people can get, and even if they get it, it doesn’t mean they will be happy? Those who are number one will one day have to face the day when they are no longer number one. Their goal in life has been taught that first place is everything, so how should they handle themselves next? Please stop blindly advocating for number one.

Yes, a lot of people do bad things for money. But it’s the behavior you should hate, not the money. Hating money is not necessarily noble. Money is like martial arts in martial arts novels. You can rely on it to do evil, or you can use it to do many good things. If you refuse to make money, it's like refusing to practice martial arts. It's not impossible, but you may want to think carefully: Once you encounter a bad guy with strong martial arts skills who bullies you, what will be your countermeasures?

Want to make money? It’s normal. Don’t think too much. What’s worth thinking about is: Why would others be willing to let you make money? Want to be a star? It’s normal. You don’t need to think too much. What’s worth thinking about is: Why do others want to see you become a star? We just have all kinds of wishes, and what is worth thinking about is always: Why are others interested in making our wishes come true?

Most of us have limited energy and cannot do everything perfectly. Suppose you have 5 things to do this month. What would you choose: Do all 5 things with about 60 points? Or, if you focus on achieving 90 points on two of the things and only 40 points on the remaining three, you may be scolded? This is a different strategy. Everything is barely passable and suitable for bonsai-type workers. Betting on getting high scores on certain things is suitable for hunting-type workers.