What does the three-three rule mean?

The three-three rule refers to the skill of texting each other on a date. .

Question: Although there is a follow-up, the girls I meet always can't open the topic, and every text message is "Oh", "Hehe" and "Thank you". What should I do?

Analysis: Girls who simply reply by SMS usually have three situations-1.They are polite but not interested in you. The second is boring, but not interested in you. Third, I'm not good at chatting, but I'm a little interested in you.

Treat the above three kinds of girls, you can use SMS "three three rules" in a unified way, and the specific operation points are as follows.

1, only three rounds at a time, actively start and end. (Of course, if MM suddenly becomes enthusiastic, we should follow up flexibly. )

2. Contact again every 3 to 5 days.

3. Every three contacts, wait for an opportunity to blur the invitation during the third contact in the third round.

Note that the so-called "vague invitation" is an intention to date, but it is not necessary to say the specific time, such as-"Let's have dinner together sometime?"

Here is an example.

Tuesday (first time)

Chatter: what should I do?

MM: at work

Chatter: Me too. I'm fine now. When I suddenly think of you, I will send a message.

MM: hehe

Chatter: Then let's go separately.

hum

Friday (three days later)

Chatter: It's finally the weekend again. I can sleep in tomorrow.

oh

Chatter: What do you do on weekends?

MM: the exam

Chatter: Good luck then.

Thank you.

Wednesday (five days later)

Chatter: Did the exam go well?

MM: not bad

Chatter: When I was a student, I envied all my admitted classmates.

MM: hehe

Chatter: "Let's have dinner together one day?" (fuzzy invitation)

Then at the critical moment, we need to operate separately according to various possibilities.

One, MM agreed.

1, MM: "OK, I'll contact you then" (you don't need to reply in this case, otherwise it will be very verbose. )

2, MM: "good"

Chatter: "I'll contact you then" (in this case, you should reply, otherwise it's impolite. )

For the above two cases, there is no need to determine the specific time immediately, because MM may just agree because she feels that the pressure of vague invitation is not great. If she keeps asking questions, she may scare people away. Therefore, it is best to leave the other party for 2~3 days, so that the other party can have a psychological acceptance process, and then turn the vague invitation into a specific invitation. Examples of specific operations-for example, on Friday.

Chatter: I just got good news. I was supposed to work overtime this weekend, but it was suddenly cancelled. How are you?

We never work overtime.

Chatter: Let's have dinner together on Saturday or Sunday. How about lunch?

In this case, MM will generally accept the invitation. In case she refuses you for something else, you just have to repeat the above steps every 3 to 5 days.

3. MM: "ok, when?" To tell the truth, this kind of good luck is rare. It seems that there are more foreign mm. It is estimated that women's social status is high and women are not so reserved. The ability of Oriental MM is limited to a small group of people who are very confident and have a high sense of security. )

Chatter: I'm free on both weekends. How about having lunch together on Saturday? The principle is to strike while the iron is hot, and then set a specific time. )

Second, MM explicitly refused.

1, MM: "Sorry, I don't eat with strangers." (Or, "Sorry, I have a boyfriend." Or "Sorry, I've been busy at work recently." )

The key to the so-called explicit refusal lies in the word "no" of "sorry". In addition, "I don't eat with strangers", "I have a boyfriend" and "I'm busy at work recently" also belong to push-up thinking, which generally means a firm attitude. I will discuss push-up thinking in detail in another article. ) together, there is basically no discussion, so don't run counter to each other, and honestly accepting the principles of others is the only choice to keep your relationship at the least bad level.

2, MM: "I haven't had time recently" (euphemistically)

3, MM: "I'm busy recently, let's talk about it later" (a little more euphemistic than above)

Even the MM who explicitly refuses the vague invitation usually belongs to the first three situations of this article1-polite, but not interested in you. Generally speaking, such a MM has her own full and busy life circle, and our only countermeasure is to keep in touch and wait for her state to change. Of course, this process is long and painful, so you'd better keep chatting up.

In the face of such a clear refusal, don't invite again easily. The frequency of SMS is adjusted to once every 2~3 weeks, and each time it is controlled in 3 rounds until MM's attitude improves. But maybe this will never happen. After all, we can't handle all the girls.

For 2 or 3 cases, the probability of MM's comeback may be slightly higher, but the principle is to wait for MM's attitude to change before inviting, and this order must be observed. As for the change of MM's attitude, usually she begins to express her feelings, or she begins to pay attention to you-ask you questions or she responds when you say yourself.

Third, MM is noncommittal.

Common replies are "I still want to eat ~", "That's enough ~" and "Do you often do this?" "Why do you want to eat?" "I'm losing weight." "Where are you going?" In short, he has both ends, and then he often fails. What's more, he will have the habit of responding to text messages suddenly. However, there are often opportunities to be noncommittal.

This kind of MM basically belongs to the second and third of the three situations at the beginning of this article-"It's boring, but I'm not interested in you." And "I'm not good at chatting, but I'm a little interested in you."

Bored people need to be led, and people who are not good at chatting let us take the initiative. And at the moment, they also have the same feature, that is, they are actually very interested in the invitation of strange men, because they are talking about the invitation-related topics in circles, and they show different reactions in peacetime. Therefore, for the undecided MM, you can choose to follow up boldly.

Countermeasure: There was no need to ask questions at that time. Call directly after 1 or 2 days, and talk for 5 to 10 minutes. Because we are sure that she is either bored or interested in me, there is no need to worry about being hated. It should be emphasized that there must be this chat preheating process, because although the interest is already there, the establishment of familiarity is still a bit short, because your previous SMS communication is limited. At this time, the shortest way to establish familiarity is to have a good chat on the phone (after all, she is willing to talk at this time). When the atmosphere improves and MM has a sense of familiarity, we will continue to invite and make great efforts to determine the specific date.

Some people doubt whether MM's caring way is a kind of euphemistic refusal. We can analyze it this way. If you usually have a lot of SMS communication, then MM may politely refuse in order not to break the existing relationship. However, if your communication is limited at ordinary times, to put it bluntly, there is actually no friendship at all, but at this moment, an invitation is suddenly involved, and the result is a lot of words at once, so it can be confirmed that MM is interested in this matter. Of course, whether MM can accept the invitation depends on your further performance, but in short, initiative and strength are possible and even necessary in this case.

This is the "three-three rule" of short messages, which is the experience summarized by dozens of chat-up criminals in the devil chat-up class through hundreds of cases in recent years. Its psychological basis is the critical point of people's psychological acceptance of greetings-at the end of three rounds, too much will make the other party bored, and contacting each other at intervals will make the other party feel quite warm. But once many men meet the woman they like, as long as the other person replies, they will never know how to stop, and eventually they will become more and more annoying in the eyes of women. In addition, vague invitation is also a measured concern and upgrade, which will not bring great pressure to the other party at once.

Step by step is an effective strategy to deal with people who can't open the topic, but in a completely certain situation, you should not hesitate to attack decisively, so chatting up is a science; Dating is a science.

Finally, I have to admit that in our practice, the "three-three rule" is not 100% effective, but it is already the best way I know to deal with "oh", "hehe" and "thank you".

Please give me the best answer. )