Mother's advice to her daughter: Be sure to confirm these two things before getting married, or you will regret it all your life. What is this?

This is a letter from a mother in her 500 s to her daughter. Very touching, I hope to inspire everyone.

Dear daughter:

Today is your 30th birthday. My mother thought about it and didn't know what gift to give you. When I was a child, you liked me to buy you new clothes. Now my mother is old and her eyes can't keep up with your aesthetics. So, I will write you a letter as a fee.

It is said that women over the age of 30 are leftover women, and their prices will fall. Recently, I also found your anxiety. You called me the other day and joked, "I'm afraid I can't get married." .

Mom wants to tell you that as long as you are good enough, willing to believe in love, kind and sincere, you don't have to worry about not getting married.

What you should really worry about is not that you can't get married, but that you get married hastily and finally marry the wrong person, which will make you regret it for life.

As an experienced person, my mother wants you to prepare for these two things before you get married:

The first preparation: don't be in a hurry to believe a man's promise. Let's see how responsible a man is.

When you are in love, as long as two people have love in their hearts, they can't wait to stick together forever and love forever.

But after all, marriage is for living. After you get married, you have to bear a family, and then you have to have children and raise them. The burden of life will only get heavier and heavier, and the difficulties to be solved will only increase.

Therefore, before getting married, don't rush to say "we love each other very much and will love each other for life", but see if this man has a sense of responsibility.

A responsible man will take you as the apple of his eye, take care of you, take the initiative to do housework to take care of you when you have a weak child, and take on the responsibilities of husband and father after the child is born. He will take the initiative to care about children's health and study, and will not push all the housework and responsibilities to you alone.

With such a man, you will get hurt, be loved, be gentler and gentler, enjoy the happiness of being a wife and a mother, and live happily.

But if you don't think carefully before marriage and accidentally marry an irresponsible man, your married life will be miserable. He may be a sweet talker, but he never takes responsibility.

When you are busy taking care of children and housework, he is likely to blame you: "I am making money outside, how can a woman not even care about her home!" " "At this time, you will feel helpless, lonely and confused. Such a marriage is doomed to make you old soon.

Daughter, mom wants to tell you that what kind of man you marry determines what kind of marriage you have. So before you get married, you must understand, "Will this man make my life better or worse?"

The second preparation: have a stable job and a salary that makes you comfortable.

Recently, you told your mother that your colleague resigned and went home to be a housewife after giving birth. Her husband is rich, and your colleague can live a good life without hard work.

You said you envied her, but there was nothing to envy. Mom wants to tell you: the reality is cruel, and women must make their own money, so that they can have a more say in marriage.

In marriage, remember not to have a "trust" mentality. The so-called "trust" means that you are married and your husband has the obligation to make money to support his family, so you can relax and take care of yourself completely by your husband. When you are dissatisfied, you will take it out on your husband and feel that he is incapable of living a happy life.

Mom wants you to have a stable job because she wants you to live a comfortable life with your own skills, instead of giving your husband the right to happiness as soon as you get married.

When you have the ability to make money, you can be equal to your husband in marriage. Both of them respect each other, and neither of them has been wronged, so they can discuss things well.

And if you reach out and ask your husband for money every day, this day will only get worse and worse, because men will feel unbalanced, think that it is great to earn money to support their families alone, and even look down on you because you only spend money without making money.

What's more, we are not rich, and mom can't afford a suite for you. Then getting married requires buying a car and a house with her husband, plus raising children, honoring elders, giving people away and so on. There will be more places to spend money in the future, and the burden at home needs two people to carry. I hope you don't put all the responsibility on your husband.

Okay, that's enough. In a word, mom hopes you can find the right man, but mom won't urge you to get married. Mom wants you to understand two questions before you get married:

"Does this man have a sense of responsibility and is it worth marrying?"

"Do you have the ability to make money? Can you live well alone? "

I understand both these points, and everything is ready. Mom believes that you will live a happy life after marriage.

Bless you, daughter.