I have a crush on a beautiful woman on the construction site. How can I make a fairy with her?

The girls who just met each other have left their phone numbers in a hurry, and they have limited understanding of each other. How can they chat with MM through SMS? Because the sense of security established by chatting up people will not be very high, it is not suitable to enter the pursuit program immediately after meeting them. Let's first list some wrong SMS chat methods to see if you have been shot ...

When PS has developed to a certain extent, it's time to make a confession while the iron is hot. Please see the chapter "Getting married-2 romantic confessions necessary for marrying a foreign wife"

Some wrong SMS chat methods:

Cut to the chase: "Are you free to have dinner together today? (Too anxious, no bedding, girls generally don't like it, of course, there are also very manly ones who will be willing. )

Household registration management type: "Hello, my name is xxx, I work in yyy, and I'm from zzz. Nice to meet you." It's not like a person, it's a computer program. )

Be caring and attentive: "Tomorrow, the lowest temperature will be 1 degree, and the highest temperature will be 13 degrees. Caring about the weather means caring about yourself. Don't forget to add an extra dress." Do we know each other that well? )

Funny move: "The chimpanzee accidentally stepped on the stool pulled by the gibbon. After the gibbon gently and carefully cleaned it, they fell in love. When someone asked how they got together, the chimpanzee said with emotion: ape shit! It's all ape dung! " (forwarding humorous short messages is a low-level performance that tickles people's laughter)

narcissism: "If one day, you feel tired, just turn around and my blessing will be by your side, no matter how far away, no matter how many years, this blessing will turn into a blue star, flashing in the morning, flashing in the evening and flashing in every inch of your life." (mental derangement! )

asking questions endlessly: "What to do?" (Watching TV) "What program are you watching?" (If you are the one) "Is it interesting?" (Not bad) "What to do after reading it?" (... the woman finally stopped texting back)

What's more, she even tugged at English: "Hi, what are you doing now, close your eyes, I will be here by your side, miss you day and night!" (I won't comment)

Dear, if you have done these stupid things, please read on.

When it comes to how to send text messages to unfamiliar girls correctly, we must first understand the differences in thinking between the two sexes.

Sasha and Fangfang are together

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday, which was very beautiful."

Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I like it very much."

Sasha is with her boyfriend

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday, which was very beautiful."

Boyfriend: "How much is it?"

For most of millions of years, men quietly waited for their prey in the grass, while women chatted with their children in caves. Men and men cooperate with each other because of a clear goal, and then they start to act silently after consultation. It is normal for women and women to get together because of the same situation, and it is normal for them to talk about each other's state and feelings. Therefore, men are projective thinking and women are mapping thinking. Until today, we will also see

that two men can go fishing without saying a word, but they can squat down by the pond for an afternoon; When two women go shopping, even if they don't buy anything, they will chatter all day.

Look at the examples of Sasha and Fangfang again

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday, which was very beautiful." (where to see something, this is the state; Especially beautiful is feeling. )

Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I liked it very much." (Women seem to be chatting happily, but in fact, they all say their own things. )

Sasha is with her boyfriend

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday, which was very beautiful."

Boyfriend: "How much is it?" (Go directly to the problem-solving process)

Men talk to solve problems, while women talk to describe themselves in problems. Men don't know how to chat with unfamiliar girls because of the influence of receptive thinking. He will think: anyway, that's what we are actually doing, or we can meet directly; Or "giving gifts", that is, showing concern; Or "let her know how strong my hunting ability is", which is the so-called display value. In fact, these are all purposeful behaviors. For women, unless she is willing to let you enter the pursuit process, it will contradict men's purposeful behavior. However, the relationship established between the street and the street is just not suitable for immediate pursuit, so this is the fundamental reason why many chat-up offenders are unfavorable in the future.

There is a phenomenon in smooth sexual communication: the active party will adapt to the passive party's way of thinking. As a man, if a woman throws herself at you, you can certainly act according to your own thinking, otherwise, you should learn to talk to women in their language.

Let's talk about some basic principles of short message chat.

First, get to know the other person's status, and often start with "What are you doing" (or "Are you busy" and "How are you recently", etc.), and then comprehensively judge the other person's status (whether you are busy or not, whether you are in the mood to chat) according to the speed and content of the other person's answer.

If you feel that the other person is not in the state, then don't continue sending.

If you are not sure whether the other person is in a state, for example, if the other person answers, "I am at work"

You can reply, "Me too, I'm just not busy at the moment, and I suddenly think of you, so I'll send a message." Introduce your status, add some feelings and find out your connection. )

This answer is both communication and sounding. If the other person doesn't reply, it doesn't matter. You haven't made any mistakes. But as long as the other person is not busy and doesn't hate you, it's usually easy to continue. Girls usually talk about themselves or ask you some questions, such as, "We are always busy and will go on a business trip next week." (Describe the status)

You can answer: "I envy you, I haven't been on a business trip for a long time, and I always feel bored in one place." (state+feeling)

Maybe she will continue to say, "What are you envious of? We have a hard business trip and have no time to play." (She also joined the feelings, which is a good sign of communication improvement. )

In short, it's like this. If you say something to me, it's trivial. If you talk too much, you will feel familiar, and then you will be invited, which will basically come naturally.

Remember, always grasp the "state"+"feeling", and look for the connection between you and her (it can be the same or different, and it can all be a topic of chat)

Key points about asking questions:

Don't ask questions continuously, talk and ask questions at intervals to avoid giving the other person an aggressive feeling.

When the opposite party asks you questions, you should answer them well. For example, she asks, "Is your work always leisurely?" Just take this opportunity to introduce yourself, and don't forget to add "What about you?" at the end. It is friendly and easy to let the chat continue.

About the time of texting:

It's better at around 4: 3 in the afternoon. Generally speaking, whether at work or at school, this time is the least busy. Moreover, another study claims that at 4: 3 in the afternoon, human sexual desire is at its peak, but this may also be a rumor. Anyway, it's not strange to be polite to many people ...

About the end of short messages:

The characteristic of short messages is that they can be returned or not, so we don't have to worry about why the other party suddenly left without saying goodbye. Of course, we should be polite and considerate ourselves. Who makes us the active party? If the other party doesn't reply to the text message, it will be regarded as the end of today's

communication, and we will contact again another day. At that time, we don't have to ask why people didn't reply to the text message last time, so we can reopen the topic. Try not to text a girl you don't know twice in a day, including calling

, otherwise people will find you difficult.

In short, the characteristics of the devil's short message flow are that it is simple and unpretentious, fully targeting women's psychology, and unlike other schools, it does not pursue wonderful routine, but seeks no merit but no fault (nagging is not wordy, so we should grasp the temperature well), and the rope saws the wood to break through the water, and the slow work makes the fine work, and the iron pestle grinds the needle.

during the activities of the chat-up class, there is a wonderful teaching content, that is, the devil teacher helps students send text messages to girls they meet, which is better than the devil teacher chatting with his own girl.

this can only explain another problem: these accosts are all more handsome than the devil.

If a girl flicks her hair from time to time when talking to you, it is a very good sign that she has unconsciously started to care about her appearance. But usually only handsome guys can get this treatment. People like me who rely on inner beauty for almost ten years have never met anyone who teases my hair. It was not until these years that I organized a chat-up class and watched others chat up as a teacher that I found that there was such a beautiful scene in the world, and the follow-up was basically smooth. Please note, however, that only when a strange man accosts her in a straightforward way can a girl's hair be pulled up, because people often react in an emergency to reveal real information. In normal life, girls tease their hair, but men don't have to flatter themselves.

at the short message stage, there are three levels of interest indicators.

low interest: she answers whatever you ask.

you: "what are you doing?"

she: "in class."

moderate interest: she shares her feelings with you.

you: "what are you doing?"

she: "I'm in class, so sleepy."

highly interested: she also wants to know about your situation.

you: "what are you doing?"

She: "I'm sleepy in class. How about you?"

let's talk about the dating stage.

it's good to be willing to accompany you. A friend with a car can do such a test, pass by somewhere, tell her that you have to get off and do something, which takes about 1 minutes (such as picking up clothes from the dry cleaner), and ask her if she would like to wait in the car or go with you. Generally speaking, girls who are interested in you will not choose to wait for you in the car.

it's good to be willing to walk together. For example, after drinking afternoon tea, it's time to have dinner. One is a nearby restaurant and you can walk there. The other restaurant is far away, so we have to take a bus to see where she wants to go. Girls who are interested in you will choose to go to a nearby restaurant. In the same way, after dinner, girls who are not in a hurry to end the date and don't want to spend any more entertainment, but are willing to walk and chat with you are often the most interesting.

To put it bluntly, "like you" means "like being with you", and "interested in you" is different from "interested in the date you arranged". When MM doesn't know us well enough, it is necessary to strive for meeting opportunities by arranging interesting dates, but don't forget that ultimately it depends on whether MM is interested in ourselves.

let's talk about face-to-face chat.

When dating, if one party talks a lot and the other party listens actively, it is usually that the listener is attracted to the speaker. At this stage, it is a very important indicator of a girl's good will to listen to you carefully. Even if you talk about trivial matters, she will listen with relish and respond with questions, which shows that she is interested in you. The reverse is also true, which is exactly what we show in front of the girl we like.

It's worth noting that at the beginning of dating, girls talk a lot, which only means that they have some trust in you, but if you keep this state and she never pays attention to your situation, it means that you may be used as a trash can. Perfect dating communication should be two-way, with each other listening carefully and responding positively. Therefore, when the date reaches a certain stage, we must talk about ourselves, so that you can see how much she is interested in you from the other person's reaction.

In the process of pursuing success, we often ignore these simple truths, cater to the needs blindly, and are busy making good feelings, but neglect to judge the other party's interest in you.

another point to emphasize is that asking questions is not necessarily an indicator of interest. Some realistic girls will ask, "Where are you from? What kind of work ... "That has nothing to do with interest at all. People are just doing pre-screening. At this time, we should recognize what a "material girl" is. It is normal for women to have material requirements for men, and most women will judge whether he is qualified or not by the details of men, which are euphemistic and implicit "women's ways". The "material girls" are often naked and direct, and they adopt the "man's way". From the evolutionary point of view, women will face the world like men only when they are in an unsafe situation. Therefore, we don't like "material girls", in fact, we don't like insecure women. For example, the famous saying "I'd rather cry in a BMW" that was widely laughed at recently-this local girl doesn't even think about it. Which man wants to marry a crying wife?

So, just as a man should talk and do things like a man, when a woman is like a woman, she is lovely to us, while a woman in insecurity often thinks and acts like a man. For example, "What do you do?" and "What do you do at work?" As a man, of course, women prefer to choose the latter way of speaking. Because the former focuses on social roles (this is a male way of thinking, just like when we were young, we liked hero ranking), while the latter focuses on your state (this is full of feminine flavor), that is, being interested in you.

The biggest difference between Devil dating science and other schools is that he pays attention to observing each other's state. Because the cultivated goodwill is often limited, but the excavated goodwill is often full of surprises. In the short life, there are always some people who appreciate us, and it is our greatest happiness not to miss them.

At that time, I wrote, "What can I do for you?" The success rate is the lowest. Even if MM is friendly, the possibility of getting the number is close to zero.

Now reanalyze with the way of judging thinking. MM's response A is male thinking, response B is female thinking, and response C is also female thinking. And my answer can also be divided into two kinds: male thinking and female thinking. If I answer MM's response B with female thinking-"I just saw you there and thought I might regret not knowing you, so my head ran over as soon as it was hot (description of the event process and my feelings)." The results are basically good, with a success rate of 7%, but the success rate is less than 1% when it is also used to answer MM's response 1.

Now that I have found the problem, MM's response A is male thinking, so I shouldn't answer with female thinking. If I switch to male thinking-"There is something I want to know with you (state the purpose)." Such a clear and firm answer may have a 3-5% chance, so you might as well try it. Although the success rate is not high, it's like a goalkeeper throwing a penalty kick. It's better to find a direction to die than to wait for the other side to take a foot and then judge. Sometimes a man's way of life is to take risks.

So, when you hear "What can I do for you?" At the same time, remember that the girl opposite you is a man at the moment. Unless she is already your girlfriend, you can flirt with her, otherwise you should come simply. And the answer-"I just want to hear your voice" and "I just want to talk to you"