Eight classic suggestions for modern parents

As we all know, to cultivate a good seedling requires the combination of family, school and society. What about the truth? The formula of 5+2=0 is still repeated (that is, five days of positive education in school, two days of bad social habits, and school education is ruined). If there are problems in family education again, children may be abandoned. "The dragon raises the dragon, the phoenix raises the phoenix, and the mouse can make holes when it is born", which leads to the important role of family education in human growth from the sociological point of view. Our research on students' growth over the years has also confirmed this point. Based on the social reality, this paper puts forward eight educational suggestions to parents. I hope you can understand after reading it:

(A) let the children live a "poor life"

Being rich in material life and giving children a lot of money is the first killer who destroys children. Some people joked that children have a lot of money, in addition to buying back pleasure, leisure and comparison, they also bought back prison cars.

With the rapid development of economy, it is understandable that parents with bulging pockets spend money to train their children and create good learning conditions and environment for their children, but they must not be too extravagant in their material enjoyment. Otherwise, when the child grows up and has a normal view of money, it is not too late for you to save the money for the child.

For the positive progress of children; Cultivate children's virtue of thrift; For the sake of children's hunger, you'd better let them live in poverty!

(2) Let children experience setbacks.

The flowers in the greenhouse can't stand the storm. Love children, fear of hand pain and fear of flying on the ground, children grow up under the care of their parents, and the growth process is smooth. Such children are not determined, have poor psychological endurance, and go to extremes when they are slightly frustrated or frustrated.

Parents, you should let your children encounter "setbacks" when they are young, and encourage them to overcome them and overcome them.

(3) Let the children be properly wronged.

If the laws are not obeyed, the law enforcement is lax, and the law is not investigated, the society will be chaotic. Family education is lax, children are lawless, willful, willful and self-centered.

When children do something wrong, it is necessary for parents to give them appropriate criticism and punishment. Even if the child is wronged, it is also a strategy to educate people. Such a child, who has experienced all kinds of emotional experiences, has less rebellious psychology, strong psychological endurance and mental health. Persuasion education by experts is sometimes just a doting theory for parents.

"A golden hoop makes a good man", "Beating is a kiss, scolding is love", "Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice is hard to listen to is good for action". This is the truth, but we should start from an early age and grasp the "degree" and "quantity".

(d) Don't give birth to children with "academic achievements" every day.

The harm of "pulling out seedlings to encourage growth" is still in the ear, and extremes meet. Children should develop morally, intellectually, physically, aesthetically and laboriously. Since God has given talents, let them be used! As long as children are diligent and virtuous, it is the key to discover their strengths, specialties and hobbies. Everyone goes to Tsinghua Peking University, and so many majors in other schools all over the country are useless? So many skilled workers in the country are crooked?

Giving children a space for free development and parents facing it with a peaceful attitude is just a way to educate people.

(5) Learn to live independently and create a weaning period for children in due course.

"Clothes come to reach out, food comes to mouth" and "everything is arranged", which is the taboo of educating people. Many college students can't cook, wash clothes and fold quilts, which is simply a landslide.

Parents, can you take care of it all your life? Even if you can, can such a child accept the challenge of society? Can you be creative? Teach them as early as possible and let them do what they can independently. It is inevitable that people should take care of themselves, do housework, cook and do things independently!

(6) Guide children to appreciate and practice truth, goodness and beauty, and lash and resist falsehood, ugliness and evil.

People's outlook on life, world outlook, morality and values are mostly formed in the family, and they are deeply rooted after formation, and it is difficult for external forces to change.

Parents, in order to form a sound personality for their children, should use their own practical actions and the power of example to educate their children to advocate truth, goodness and beauty and hate falsehood, ugliness and ugliness. Otherwise, it is really "I am a bad bastard."

(7) Don't enter the "money eye" and abandon your child.

Nine times out of ten, "left-behind children" who are not cared for by their parents, or children whose parents don't care about them, have problems in personality, living habits, interest in learning, behavioral psychology and so on.

Parents, money is not everything, and the next generation can never fail! Earn less money and spend more time disciplining children. You will be a big winner in business all your life.

(8) Physical exercise is essential.

"Health is the capital of revolution", and healthy body, vigorous energy and agile thinking are the primary conditions for doing all the work well.

Don't ignore the growth of children's physical fitness, let children take part in physical exercise more, and develop good exercise habits, cultivate one or two sports hobbies, so that children can benefit for life. And to cultivate a healthy and lively child, parents will sincerely send out a bright smile on their faces.

The above eight suggestions are not elaborated in depth, and the specific methods are not involved. It's boring to write too much and too much. Consciousness determines action. Your concept of educating people has changed, and there are countless ways and means. I hope you can gain something from your poverty.