How to strike up a conversation with the girl I saw in the library, how to get the number, how to send a text message and how to ask a funny question to make her remember me.

Rule 1: Don't send text messages and avoid making phone calls.

Before you send a message to a woman, you should ask yourself what you want to achieve by doing so. Most of the questions I received from men about SMS are similar to the following:

"One day I met a girl and we had a good chat. My sister and I have made great progress. TD, I got the number. When should I text her and what should I send? "

My answer is: "Don't text her. Call her. "

In my opinion, many men, especially those who are new to social art, regard texting to contact women as a safer way than calling. This is completely understandable, but it is totally unacceptable. Actually consider the following situation. If you just met a woman and wrote down her number, then your next goal is to meet for the second time. Remember, you are less likely to meet her by SMS than by establishing more verbal comfort over the phone.

Besides, if you send text messages just because you are afraid to communicate with her, how can you expect to feel comfortable when you communicate with her face to face? When I arranged a second date with a woman (the next day), I only texted her in three possible situations:

1. She texted me, so I have to reply.

I called her, but she didn't answer. I won't leave a voicemail, but send a text message, so I'm less thirsty and generally get a reply faster than sending a voicemail.

The implicit purpose of my texting is to communicate with her by phone. In this case, I will tease each other through short messages, but after a few short messages, I will call her.

Rule 2: When sending text messages, bring value. Do not seek value.

When I sent a text message first, I didn't even ask an open question for the purpose of asking for value. For example, "How's it going?" Or "What are you going to do tonight?" In my opinion, these short messages make you feel hungry, and at the same time, they can't arouse any emotional reaction of women. The purpose of my texting is to arouse women's emotions and show my interesting personality. An example of these messages is "I saw a man with a wallet, which reminds me of you." Or "Hey, Benben! I bet your stupid index today must be 100%. " When used as an initial text message, real cold jokes have a good effect in laughing and showing humor. A recent article "loveyuanmengla's Ultimate SMS Guide for Picking up Girls" tested this concept on the spot and gave some good examples. What I offer is:

SMS 1: What's the name of a fish without eyes? (Waiting for her reply)

Sms 2: f ssshhh

(Note: The pronunciation of the letter I in the English word fish is the same as that of eye. )

Besides, if you send a message to a woman, you can try to use what you said to her before and use "a humor" (call back) to get inspiration from it. "Callback" is a humorous technique, which means that after a while, you bring up the joke you said before. For example, when you sent a message to a woman before, you gave her a nickname, such as "little finger" or "salty pig hand". You can use these nicknames again in the message.

Rule 3: avoid sending too many text messages!

I know she may be the only one in your heart at the moment, but let's keep silent, otherwise, you may scare her. So send a text message and send it to her after getting her reply. If she stops texting you, you usually have to wait until the next day to try to contact her.

In the meantime, after receiving her message, I will wait a few minutes before replying. I did this because I didn't want to give her the impression that the only thing in my life is to wait for a new friend of the opposite sex to send me a text message. Remember, "not hungry" always equals "not needed always equals sexy", because it conveys a message that there must be other dating options in your life.

Rule 4: Use SMS to generate familiarity.

This is a higher skill, but it is also very helpful. I found that the best skill in using SMS is to use SMS in the scene. I met a woman, and after receiving the number, I immediately sent her a short message, when I was still standing next to her. This situation is humorous in itself, especially when you send her an interesting message. Try the built-in SMS: "You have my number now, but you are only allowed to call me once a day" or "Who is the handsome guy standing next to you?"

After texting her, if she saves your number, you can use it as a clear interest indicator (ioi). More importantly, when you call her in the future, your number will pop up and you will feel that she looks familiar.

A woman is always more willing to answer the phone with the number she knows.