A text message to get back together with my girlfriend. She told me to go out.

I think the solution is-a benign quarrel.

Seeing this question, I can't help asking questions. I have been with my boyfriend for 9 years, and my relationship has been very stable. If there is no accident, you should be able to enter the marriage hall smoothly. I believe I have some experience to share and answer this question.

The most important thing between lovers is communication and communication.

There are many ways to communicate, and the common one is chatting at ordinary times, which is an effective way of communication, whether face-to-face or online. But for me, I think the best way to communicate is to have a benign quarrel with each other.

What is a benign quarrel?

Benign quarrels have several characteristics:

1. A benign quarrel can release one's bad mood.

I believe many people have experienced cold violence, and some even think that cold violence is more terrible than hot violence, which can cause at least two people to collide with each other. And cold violence makes you doubt yourself and escalates contradictions.

Problems are always ignored and there is no time to solve them. A benign quarrel can let us release our emotions and let the other side feel their grievances and dissatisfaction. Only when there is communication can there be a solution, while cold violence will only cover up one's emotions and worsen the contradiction.

2. A benign quarrel makes us better understand each other's personality and three views.

Everyone has a time when his emotions are out of control, and at this time, he can better see a person's behavior and morality. At the beginning of the relationship, we will maintain a good image in front of the couple, be polite, beautiful and kind.

When our emotions are out of control, we can't help revealing our truest side, and irascible people can't control their tyrannical habits; Indifferent people take cold violence against you, refuse to communicate and ignore you; After the quarrel, the prodigal son complained to Lan Yan or his confidante, but he didn't expect to find you to solve the problem. People who don't care about you can easily break up with you. ...

Quarrel is a necessary test between lovers, and a benign quarrel is like a test paper to test our emotional problems. An unsuitable pair failed the test; The right couple will only get to know each other better through the test, know where to improve and get used to each other more and more.

3. Benign quarrels are set aside freely.

This is the most important point of a benign quarrel. Clearly know the essence of quarreling is to solve problems and get along better.

Therefore, no matter how fierce the quarrel is and how opposing views are, we will eventually make up, because we know that we will not be separated, because we know that we are trying to solve the problem. It's not a question of who bowed their heads first, but that two people both know that quarreling is to make each other better run-in, so they can take it back when quarreling.

Chatting and communicating on weekdays can help us understand each other, but just as answering can solve problems, our reactions and practices in the event of an argument can really help us understand each other better.

I hope every couple can grasp every benign quarrel. Since you have chosen to hold hands, don't let go easily.