Funeral custom in Jiaodong area

Someone died and was called "old" and "gone" locally. When people are dying or just getting old, children should quickly put on old clothes (shroud) that have already been prepared. People who send old clothes are robes and jackets, with hats and boots; That woman is wearing a big coat and skirt and embroidered shoes. Shrouds can't be buckled, they are all tied with cloth strips, and taking "belt" means there are successors. And put a white paper on the street gate to tell the villagers that someone had died at home. At the same time, please ask someone to help with the funeral, and ask an old man or an authoritative person in the village to be in charge of the funeral. Unified management should arrange an internal and external deacon to be responsible for internal affairs and reception matters respectively. Then, separately send people to mourn relatives and friends, decorate mourning halls, sew mourning clothes, choose to dig graves, buy food and prepare things, and some even invite trumpeters. People who help arrange funerals are called "filial piety" by women and "weightlifting" by men. The mourning hall is located in the middle, and the mourning bed is made of door panels due north. Everything is in order, move the body to the hearse bed, lie on your back, head east and feet west. Put broken silver in the mouth and hands of the deceased, and seal the seven orifices with broken jade to prevent the deceased from being restless. The deceased was covered with yellow papyrus and white sheets, which was called "gold wrapped in silver". There is a memorial table in front of the coffin bed, on which there are several colorful offerings such as memorial tablets of the deceased, ever-burning lamps and incense paper. Put a burning paper basin under the table. In the mourning hall, the ground is covered with straw, and the children kneel on both sides according to the male right and female left, burning paper and incense. The burnt incense paper ash is wrapped in yellow paper, which is the "toll" of the deceased. If friends, relatives and guests come to pay homage, children should bow in return. All the arrangements are for reporting to the temple. Children, relatives and friends are all dressed in mourning, with straw ropes tied around their waists and supported by filial sticks made of willow branches. A deacon led the way and walked slowly around the village, crying as he walked. They go to the land temple at the intersection outside the village, burn paper and incense to the west, kneel down and cry bitterly, and then return along the original road, which is called "reporting to the temple". "Reporting to the temple" is to register the dead in the underworld and inform the prince to prepare to receive the dead. The deceased was buried in the local area. On the third day, he reported to the temple once a day in the morning, at noon and at night. It was called "Toudao Temple" for the first time, and it was reported to the Great Temple at noon the next day. On the third day of the funeral, the deceased should be buried before noon. As the saying goes, "there is a great loss." Early in the morning, the dutiful son and daughter knelt in front of the coffin and cried bitterly, and then the helper moved the body into the coffin. When it is time to measure, cover the coffin and wake up. When nailing the coffin lid, the child should shout "Dad (or Mom), bow to the left (or right), and don't touch his head (or hands or waist or feet). Now you have to be cremated to go to the funeral. On the third day, accompanied by your son and several relatives, you were cremated in a hearse. We usually leave at three or four o'clock in case we come back late and miss the funeral. On the way to the crematorium, I have been throwing paper money at the car, called' buy road money'. " Cremation "is a local saying" funeral ". After the coffin was covered, the eldest son held a clay pot over his head and broke it, commonly known as "throwing the old pot." At the same time, eight people carried the coffin on their shoulders. Then, a deacon came over with paper money in his hand and led the way to the cemetery. Behind the trumpeter, a long pole played funeral music, followed by a spirit table and a coffin. On both sides of the spirit table were paper boys and girls held by the nephew of the deceased. The eldest son carries a guide coffin, followed by a stick of filial piety, followed by other descendants in mourning, followed by a stick of filial piety, and generally followed by a harem. Finally, wreaths, paper money and so on. The funeral procession slowly moved forward, and when it reached the intersection of village street, it was necessary to stop and set up a "road sacrifice". Children kneel on both sides, relatives and friends come in groups of two or three in turn, and they kowtow on both sides in return. After the sacrifice, throw away the stick of filial piety and move on to the cemetery in sorrow and crying. Sent out of the village, to the grave, the harem took off her mourning clothes, held a handful of loess, and immediately returned, emphasizing that "women are not allowed to be buried." Go home and scatter the soil in the yard. Children and grandchildren and male relatives and friends will send coffins to the cemetery. First, the deacon will clean the grave hole with a broom, and then put the coffin in the hole, facing north and south. When the coffin enters the hole, put a ever-burning lamp, a mirror, a comb, etc., and descendants and relatives each sprinkle a handful of soil on the coffin. When spreading soil, the eldest son should shout, "Dad (or Mom), close your eyes and don't be blind. "Then help arrange undertaker to bury the soil with a shovel and make a round grave. After the burial, the eldest son put the coffin in the grave. Everyone took off their mourning clothes and untied the straw rope around their waist, which was called "going around the grave". The deacon drew a circle around the grave with branches, which means "circle". After that, he led the way with a "children's bag" filled with whole grains such as wheat, corn, millet, rice and beans. While scattering grains, he shouted "one sprinkle of gold, two sprinkle of silver, a large group of sansa's children". Others followed, circling the grave three times clockwise, leaving home to wait for the funeral. On the night of the funeral, that is, the third night after the death of the deceased, the children's families will go to the intersection outside the village to "send the car money". The so-called travel expenses include paper money (commonly known as "baggage"), treasure chest, cash cow, Jinshan Yinshan and so on sent by neighbors and relatives. The main purpose is to make a car for travel expenses. The custom is that men tie wagons and women tie cows. At the intersection, the travelling expenses were loaded into the car, and the dutiful son and daughter knelt on both sides facing west. First of all, the deacon read out the "command" written on cursive paper, which means: the birth and death of the deceased, the merits and demerits, the process of children's dedication to the funeral, the "luggage" received and so on. Finally, I want to say, "This man has done good deeds and accumulated virtue all his life, and worked hard. GREAT GHOST boy gave in and let him go this morning. Don't be embarrassed. There is money in the box, let's take it from each other ... "... After reading it, the toll is on fire. At the same time, the child will cry, "Dad (or Mom), I will give you money. Don't be reluctant to spend. On the road in the west, it is difficult to make money, sweet and safe ... ",this is very sad. Just a few words tell how many hardships and tribulations people have experienced in their lives! On the third day after the round grave is buried, children will go to the grave to cultivate the soil and press paper money, which is called "round grave" From the day after the death of the seven people who were burned to death, every seven days, the children will set up a paper-burning monument in front of the grave until 49 days later, commonly known as "Burning Seven". "Among them, May 7th and July 7th are the most important. In addition to children, close relatives and friends will also come to pay homage to the deceased and tie paper. Burning for one hundred days. On the hundredth day of death, burning for one hundred days is the same as burning for seven days. Birthday burning is on the first birthday after the death of the deceased. Children should "burn birthdays" for the deceased and burn paper to worship at the grave. The anniversary of the first, second and third anniversary of Shao's death. Children, relatives and friends should give it a "burn anniversary". The first anniversary, especially the third anniversary, should be grand, followed by the second anniversary. There is a saying that "children will not be complete until the 573rd anniversary". On the third anniversary of burning, the whole funeral etiquette has been basically completed, only waiting for children and grandchildren to visit during Qingming Festival, October 1 ST and Chinese New Year holidays every year. In addition, there are some traditional customs about funerals: Dai Xiao did not pay New Year greetings to relatives and friends for three years; In the first year of Chinese New Year, couplets are not posted, in the second year, white couplets are posted, in the third year, purple couplets are posted, and then red couplets are posted normally; During your stay in Dai Xiao, you can't have a wedding at home, nor should you attend other people's wedding banquets; At the funeral, the mourning clothes of underage grandchildren are red belts and red hats; The thicker and shorter the filial staff the dutiful son relies on at the funeral, the more filial he is. & lt/FONT & gt； & lt/FONT & gt；