I broke up with my girlfriend. Why didn't she reply to me?

After breaking up, not all the parties who broke up are light, chic and free. They will also doubt whether they broke up correctly and want to get back together.

You sent him so many messages that the other party didn't know that you wanted to save it, but her attitude didn't change because she didn't see your change, and she didn't see any hope that you could go on. She doesn't know if you have thought about the problems between you, and she's not sure if you will make the same mistake after you get back together, so it's not because of fear, but because of each other's ambivalence.

Just because girls don't return your messages doesn't mean you don't have a chance. Many people were deleted after breaking up. You have been sending messages to girls. Although the girl didn't reply, she didn't delete you. This also proves that she left you an opportunity and didn't want to block the road. Why didn't she reply to you? Because she still has a knot in one's heart about what happened before you, it may be coldness or hurting her behavior, which leads to her not contacting you for the time being.

Because once she has contact with you, some painful episodes in the past between you and her will involuntarily emerge in her mind. You are like a mirror. Seeing you will remind her of her previous grievances and patience, so she chose to escape to solve it. This is a normal reaction. Maybe one day you inspired her negative emotions, causing her to vent all her emotions, but in fact, this is not a bad thing, and it may be a turning point for redemption.

If you can solve the trauma in her heart well, it will be of great help to your reunion, but if you are biased by her emotions, your contradictions will intensify, and maybe you will lose the opportunity to save him.

We usually call it a strong sense of demand. Many people expose too much sense of demand in the process of recovery, which will make people feel oppressed. She will feel that once she replies to you, you will be bombarded with endless news. If so, she will be very cautious when replying to you, and even won't reply to your message, so you must change your chat mode and guide you step by step. Many boys will think that girls just want to cut off contact with him because they don't return his messages, and then deceive themselves and imply that they no longer care about him, but they still care.

So how to solve this problem?

You should realize that just because she doesn't return your messages doesn't mean she doesn't love you. There is a word in psychology called trauma, which is defined as an emergency beyond the scope of daily experience. The trauma of childhood will always affect your later life. To put it bluntly, once bitten, twice shy, we will have trauma in the process of growing up, such as the isolation of friends and the denial of family members, which may affect your attitude towards things in the future.

I don't know if you understand why no girl doesn't reply to you, not because she has no feelings for you, but because she doesn't know how to face you. If she really doesn't care about you, then you are like a stranger to her. No matter how you talk, her emotions will not respond.

For example, when we treat a stranger, we generally don't feel emotional fluctuations because of what he sends, and we don't feel different because of his information, so girls don't return your information because they don't want to give you an illusion, but this attitude is a responsible behavior. She won't hold on to you until she gives you an answer, so try to change yourself first!