How to strike up a conversation and chat skills

1. Don’t let the other person think you are harassing her

I have encountered a lot of disgusting harassment, such as calling her “beautiful” in a lustful way, whistling, and tapping on the shoulder. , these are simply not suitable for chatting up in ordinary environments, and may be more suitable for the atmosphere of a nightclub.

First of all, you must dress like a person, not too personal clothes, most women still prefer normal clothes; secondly, you must look good, although this is an innate advantage, but there is no such thing. Men who have some advantages can practice their temperament. Although every woman's taste is different, if you learn to be a gentleman, women will always have a good impression of the gentleman. Then the tone must be very formal, and don't make people think you are a gangster. Use "you" Start with "Okay", think she is special, tell the reason why you want to get to know her, and try not to make people think that you want to have sex with her.

2. Don’t let the other person feel that it is sudden

The reason why I refused to talk to boys several times was that it was too sudden. Suddenly, I instinctively rejected this person. In fact, thinking back I really want to meet you. Let me give you an exaggerated example, but it is indeed a personal experience. The scene was in a mid-to-high-end shopping mall. When I was buried in text messages, a foreigner suddenly handed me a business card. I didn’t even look at it at the time. I saw a middle-aged man first. I thought the business card was an English teaching advertisement, so I ignored it, waved my hand and left. Unexpectedly, the foreigner suddenly yelled "I like you". I looked at him in surprise, and then planned to run away. Suddenly, he yelled "I like you" again, and I was so shocked that I was charred on the outside and tender on the inside. The whole process was so panicked that I couldn't think about what this person was like.

First of all, let the person you are chatting with see you. Never contact from behind, but from the front. If you are coming from behind, then you must step up and walk in front of him and wait for her to come over. Say hello again, and secondly, don’t make yourself feel like a street survey or advertisement. When you finally want to express your purpose of striking up a conversation, people suddenly realize that you don’t have much time left, and the chance of success in striking up a conversation is low. It has plummeted, and the probability of misinterpreting the chats I encountered as advertisements is quite high.

3. Be sure to let the person you are chatting up have something to say to you

There have been a few times when a boy I met said a lot of things to you, but in the end he said: "I really want to get to know you." I was so embarrassed at that time that I didn't know what to say in reply to him. I just said sorry and left because I didn't have time. At least I could turn the statement into a question, "Can I get to know you?" Don’t end with a declarative sentence

4. Give the other person a suitable environment

Sometimes you don’t really want to refuse someone else’s chat, but the occasion is inappropriate, such as on a bus or subway. , these people usually strike up a conversation really shamelessly. In a crowded environment like a bus, people around you can hear what you say. The common psychology of girls is that they don’t want to make strangers around them think that they are a slutty woman. Strange eyes, so please consider the occasion when you strike up a conversation, and of course don't choose an environment with no one around, so that women will have a stronger sense of self-protection.

5. Master some small pick-up skills to make the other party feel happy

Start with a humorous way and help her do a small thing. Use whatever you can think of. Favorability will increase.

6. It’s normal to be nervous

Many people seem to think that panicking is unsuccessful. Let me talk about the benefits of panicking for boys. Girls will find panicked boys cute and funny, and they will have a deeper impression. At the same time, the whole atmosphere at this time will make the girl's aura stronger. She will have time to judge what kind of person you are, instead of panicking herself. I'm thinking about how to deal with people who approach me.

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