Forty days after the wife gave birth, the circle of friends wrote a will, and the husband's "cold violence" was ignored.

Ding Jing, a pregnant woman less than 40 days after delivery, couldn't help but shed tears when she mentioned her husband Xiong Guoqiang and her family: "I really don't know how to live. What he sometimes does is too inhuman. "

At this time, Ding Jing was completely disappointed with her husband and completely despaired of this marriage.

Women are the most vulnerable during pregnancy, and what they need most is the companionship and care of their husbands. During Dante Jing's pregnancy, her husband Xiong Guoqiang became more and more indifferent to himself, not caring or taking care of him. Even after she gave birth to the baby, she didn't answer the phone or send him a message during her confinement. Ding Jing can't stand Xiong Guoqiang's cold violence.

Now the family has to repay the loan for two cars every month, and it also needs daily expenses. But since she became pregnant, she has lost her income and the ability to make money, and her life can only be borne by Xiong Guoqiang. However, Xiong Guoqiang never answered her phone calls or returned her messages. Without income, where did she get the money?

Less than 40 days after delivery is the time when confinement needs nursed back to health. Not only can I not get her husband's help and care, but I also have to do housework by myself. Ding Jing has started washing clothes and cooking. She is doing all the big and small things at home, but her husband Xiong Guoqiang doesn't care about her and her children.

Ding Jing admits that she and her husband Xiong Guoqiang have been married for less than two years. During her pregnancy, she was indifferent to her husband. She has had the idea of suicide countless times, and has written her will in the WeChat circle of friends many times.

The will reads as follows: I bought an insurance policy, and if I have an accident, all the compensation will be distributed to my youngest son Pippi and other relatives. If Pippi leaves to take care of the world like me, his two copies will be left to his mother, and the rest will be divided equally among the three children. If Pippi can grow up happily, my compensation will be given to him when he gets married or buys a house, and the money will be kept by my sister. My present husband is not qualified to inherit any of my inheritance.

Ding Jing wrote this legacy on 202 1, 1, 10. Between the lines, Ding Jing has clearly defined her compensation in case of accident, but her husband Xiong Guoqiang can't inherit any of her inheritance, which also shows that her compensation in case of accident has nothing to do with her husband.

Ding Jing's circle of friends is also dissatisfied and accused of her husband Xiong Guoqiang for her long-term neglect of herself and her family. As can be seen from Ding Jing's circle of friends, she has been disheartened about this relationship.

In just two years, from knowing her husband to stepping into the marriage hall hand in hand, the couple loved each other. Ding Jing never imagined that all this had changed since she got pregnant. Her husband is away all day, not taking care of her and the children, and not giving himself living expenses. Now it has reached the point of divorce.

Husband Xiong Guoqiang did not go home for a long time, regardless of his family, regardless of his wife and children, indifferent, and did not give his wife and children living expenses. He stayed in his job all day, never taking responsibility as a husband and father, leaving his wife and children aside.

What makes Xiong Guoqiang so heartless, regardless of his wife and children? Why do they get along like this after less than two years of marriage? What happened in the middle?

This all started when Ding Jing and Xiong Guoqiang first met.

0 1

Ding Jing had a failed marriage before meeting Xiong Guoqiang, because the personality differences between the two sides led to the final divorce. The first failed marriage hit Ding Jing hard. She became resistant to love and even took ten years to get out.

Later, Ding Jing met Xiong Guoqiang at her classmate's wedding. Xiong Guoqiang is her classmate's brother. Students think Ding Jing is very nice and good at dealing with people. Considering that my brother is still unmarried and single for so many years, he also needs to find a virtuous and capable wife. Ding Jing is also very suitable for being a wife. In order to keep the water flowing, Ding Jing and Xiong Guoqiang began to pair up.

Although Xiong Guoqiang is eight years older than Ding Jing, she feels that big men are more mature and will definitely know how to take care of themselves in the future. Xiong Guoqiang also thinks that if they are together, she will pay more attention to their feelings and marriage after their second marriage. So when two people met for the first time, there was a spark of love.

Ding Jing's mother said, "She liked him at first, but she wouldn't listen to anything her parents said." Ding Jing was immersed in the sweetness of love and ignored her parents' opinions. In fact, my parents are very happy. They were also very distressed about their daughter's divorce before, and now they have found true love. Three months later, Ding Jing and Xiong Guoqiang got married soon.

After a failed marriage, Ding Jing paid more attention to and cherished this marriage, while Xiong Guoqiang was unmarried for many years. He also cherishes his first marriage with Ding Jing, and their married life is also very good.

Ding Jing got pregnant soon after her marriage. The arrival of a little life makes the husband and wife immersed in joy and happily prepare their own crystallization.

However, the good times did not last long. Ding Jing didn't have a good time during her pregnancy. Ding Jing, who is pregnant, has no income and can only rely on her husband for help. Moreover, her husband Xiong Guoqiang is the stationmaster of the express delivery shop, earning almost 30,000 yuan a month, which is enough for normal expenses at home. But every time Ding Jing asked Xiong Guoqiang for money, Xiong Guoqiang always said that he had no money.

Where did Xiong Guoqiang spend 30 thousand yuan a month? It turns out that Xiong Guoqiang likes playing games. In order to play games, he even bought a computer and threw money into the game. Plus, he spends a lot of money in his daily life, regardless of his wife and unborn children. Where is the money?

Husband and wife often quarrel about money, and the most vicious one is actually for 1000 yuan. Ding Jing caught a string of blood on her husband Xiong Guoqiang, which was shocking.

Once, Xiong Guoqiang's brother told himself that his wife could make money by chatting with others with a mobile phone software at home. Xiong Guoqiang's heart shook. Usually his wife always quarrels about money. If his wife can earn money, the problem will not be solved.

But things are not as simple as imagined. Is chatting really as easy as my brother said? When he told his wife Ding Jing that he wanted her to chat online to make some money, Ding Jing was shocked. She can't imagine that this is what a husband should say. She felt that her husband didn't take her as his wife, and she was very sad, and the matter went away.

It's hard to imagine that a husband can tolerate his wife's chatting, spend all his money, and want his pregnant wife to make money, but he doesn't want to take responsibility.

After all, the contradiction between two people is still because of money.

When Xiong Guoqiang came home, everything he did was wrong. As long as he does something, he will be accused by his wife Ding Jing. As soon as they met, they asked him for money. The strength of his wife made Xiong Guoqiang want to escape, and he ignored his wife's phone calls and text messages. His express shop is busy every day, and Xiong Guoqiang doesn't want to go back.

For her husband's indifference to herself, Ding Jing can only swallow grievances into her stomach. During this time, she also met Xiong Guoqiang himself. She knows that her husband is an unreliable person. She can't stand this torture. During pregnancy, she thought about it many times, but she couldn't bear to think about the baby in her belly and her elderly parents.

Later, Ding Jing gave birth to a child. She thought that after the child was born, her husband Xiong Guoqiang could take care of the family and care more about the family for the children. Unexpectedly, the arrival of the child did not change Xiong Guoqiang. Since the birth of the child, he has seen several children and will stay at home for a day or two before returning to work.

Although her husband Xiong Guoqiang will give himself and his children 10,000 yuan a month for living expenses, it is always not long before Ding Jing is transferred back for various reasons, which makes Ding Jing have no money at all. Since she got pregnant, her husband has turned his back on her family. Ding Jing doesn't want to continue, and wants to file a divorce with Xiong Guoqiang.

02

Now that she has given birth to a child, the family has a heavy financial burden, but her husband never contacts himself, whether at home or with children. Ding Jing is also helpless and has always been chilling about this marriage.

After not contacting myself for a long time, his wife Ding Jing finally got impatient and came to her husband Xiong Guoqiang's shop. Xiong Guoqiang was very surprised at the sudden emergence of his wife. He didn't expect her to come here.

When his wife Ding Jingzhi asked him why he didn't go home to have a look, he could only excuse himself because he was the stationmaster of the express delivery shop and needed to deliver and pick up the goods every day. He can't live without the turnover in the store, and his wife Ding Jing lives in Yiyang and his store is in Shaodong, so it's inconvenient to go back and forth.

Ding Jing knows that her husband is lying to himself. He just doesn't want to go back, give himself money, and take on family responsibilities. No matter how busy the work is, the phone will be answered and the news will be returned. How can there be no time?

Xiong Guoqiang said that his wife Ding Jing has always had a man by her side and called this man a "bodyguard". Regarding her husband's suspicion, Ding Jing immediately called her "personal bodyguard" and asked him to come over and make it clear to her husband Xiong Guoqiang.

It turned out that the "bodyguard" was Ding Jing's classmate. It is not easy for people to see Ding Jing pregnant, and her husband ignores her, so students sometimes transfer some money to her to ease the pressure of life. His wife's frank behavior left Xiong Guoqiang speechless.

Xiong Guoqiang and Ding Jing got married for two years, and the relationship became like this. Quarrel as soon as we meet, quarrel as soon as we meet.

At the age of 37, Xiong Guoqiang had his first child. For him, he is also very happy and excited. He didn't get a son until middle age. However, in his opinion, his wife has become very strong since she became pregnant. She always blames him at home, and her shortcomings are exposed. He doesn't know how to deal with it, and he doesn't want to tell his wife many things, so he can only choose to escape.

He said: "My parents divorced at that time, which actually had a great influence on me." Xiong Guoqiang has an unfortunate family, and his family background has a great influence on him. I grew up with my grandmother, my parents divorced, and I have my own life and family. The lack of love since childhood made Xiong Guoqiang delay getting married. Even after he married Ding Jing, he didn't know how to be a good husband and father. The influence of family background made Xiong Guoqiang choose to avoid the strength of his wife Ding Jing.

Although he gave his wife Ding Jing a lot of money every month, it didn't take long for him to find various reasons to go back. Why didn't he want to repay the loan for two cars, buy children's products and milk powder, and need daily life? How can the remaining money be used for these expenses after returning some money?

Xiong Guoqiang and Ding Jing promised to shoulder the responsibility of the family when they got married, but what they did after marriage was quite different. He was addicted to games and neglected his family. He still spends money like water, regardless of his wife and children. He always runs away from things, his mind is not mature at all, and he doesn't take on family responsibilities.

Two people have only been married for three months. You can't get married without knowing each other. After marriage, both sides' personalities and shortcomings are gradually revealed, and they will feel how different each other is from before. Lack of communication and communication between two people will dilute their feelings, and Xiong Guoqiang, who has not cared about his wife for a long time, does not know Ding Jing's will written in a circle of friends.

Xiong Guoqiang himself did not think that this incident had caused great harm to Ding Jing for a long time. He pushed the distance between them farther and farther, which made Ding Jing have the idea of divorce.

Ding Jing thought that her second marriage would last for a long time, which was different from the last marriage she didn't want to mention. However, after marrying Xiong Guoqiang, her older husband is not mature at all and is more indifferent to himself.

The husband's indifference has become a divorce factor. For a long time, he evaded responsibility, squandered money and left his wife and children behind. No one can stand it. Now fate has become uncontrollable.

03

The two have already started to discuss divorce.

Regarding Ding Jing's request for divorce, Xiong Guoqiang is actually unwilling to divorce. He doesn't want to be separated from his wife Ding Jing. However, under Ding Jing's firm attitude, he can only reluctantly agree, and now it is impossible for him to save this marriage.

The two men began to discuss the custody of the children. Ding Jingxin thought that although Xiong Guoqiang could earn 20,000 to 30,000 yuan a month, he spent a lot of money and soon ran out of money. The children will only suffer by his side, and she is not at ease, so the custody of the children must be in her hands.

Ding Jing has been taking care of the baby since it was born. As a father, Xiong Guoqiang has hardly assumed the responsibility of a father except giving some money. Ding Jing is very concerned about the lack of a father when a child grows up. Xiong Guoqiang cannot take care of himself. How can he take care of his children?

Why doesn't Ding Jing want to live a quiet life? After a failed marriage, I want to find a responsible man who is willing to take on family responsibilities with her, but things are often not as good as her. I didn't expect the second marriage to be shattered in less than two years.

Ding Jing said that if Xiong Guoqiang gave the child support every month, she would not change the child's name and agreed that Xiong Guoqiang could visit the child in his spare time. She also doesn't want her children to see their biological father. The growth of children can't be separated from their father's company and their love and care.

Under the discussion of two people, an agreement was finally reached. Xiong Guoqiang paid 5,000 yuan a month in the first three years, and 3,000 yuan a month after three years.

Because there are two cars at home, one is Ding Jingkai's car, and the other is the van that her husband drives on weekdays. In the future, the two will divorce, and the loan for the truck will be repaid by Xiong Guoqiang. Ding Jing paid for the car before, so Xiong Guoqiang wanted to give her 30 thousand yuan.

After the two sides signed the divorce agreement, but because the divorce has a cooling-off period of one month, it will not be over until one month later when they get the certificate from the Civil Affairs Bureau.

Once they were still planning their future lives, but now they are getting divorced, so we must make a clear distinction. With the joint efforts of two people, the courier station has got the present situation. Husband and wife share weal and woe and go hand in hand to this day. I didn't expect the fate between them to be gone.

Xiong Guoqiang's uncle rushed to Ding Jing's mother's house after learning the news of their divorce. Ding Jing's mother couldn't help it. She can't stand how much her daughter has suffered since she married Xiong Guoqiang. What happened to her daughter made her very distressed. She complained to Xiong Guoqiang's uncle about how hard her daughter worked. I didn't expect Xiong Guoqiang to treat his daughter like this.

In Ding Jing's mother's view, the daughter takes good care of the family, the son-in-law has a good salary, and there is a newborn child. What a happy family this is. However, Xiong Guoqiang did not cherish and care about this family, which caused such a situation.

"I used to swear, anyway, I just talked about it." Xiong Guoqiang's uncle said. He is also helpless about his nephew's indifference to his family. How can he say that Xiong Guoqiang is still going his own way and not listening to anyone's advice? In his opinion, the nephew finally married a daughter-in-law. As an uncle, he also hopes that his nephew can take good care of his family.

Xiong Guoqiang's uncle doesn't want his nephew and Ding Jing to divorce. Ding Jing told him: "This means that I can't remarry after my divorce. If he can change and he really wants to save our marriage, then change it for me. "

In Ding Jing's view, if Xiong Guoqiang can get rid of his previous bad habits, there is still room for discussion. After all, she once treated her and Xiong Guoqiang's family sincerely. She didn't want her children to grow up without fatherly love.

04

Ding Jing and Xiong Guoqiang's marriage came to this stage today because they didn't understand each other at that time. Without in-depth understanding and deep feelings, I got married hastily.

In just three months, both sides didn't understand each other's personality, only stayed on the surface and entered the marriage without knowing a person very well. This is too fast!

After they got married, with long-term contact, their personalities and shortcomings were exposed.

Ding Jing had a marriage, which made her suffer for a long time. Therefore, for the new marriage, she made many demands on herself and her husband Xiong Guoqiang. For her husband's behavior, as long as he doesn't agree with his own mind, he will accuse Xiong Guoqiang. Over time, Xiong Guoqiang felt that he was too strong and had an escape mentality.

Xiong Guoqiang's marriage is very problematic. Because of the influence of family background, his wife Ding Jing's strength made him stay away from her. But he should put himself in his wife's shoes and consider her present situation. It is not easy for my wife to get pregnant now. How can I communicate with her and take the initiative to discuss?

My wife doesn't answer the phone or reply to text messages, and only gives her money every month. However, because Xiong Guoqiang spent a lot of money, he couldn't control himself with a little money in his hand, and finally he got the money for his wife back. Every time Ding Jing asks him for money, he always feels that his wife regards him as an "ATM", but why doesn't he feel that he is going to get money again?

His escape made him ignore his wife's psychology, and her wife wrote her last words in a circle of friends many times. As a husband, he is still addicted to games all day and doesn't care about big and small things at home. He was pregnant until his wife gave birth to a child, so that his wife Ding Jing was desperate for this marriage and filed for divorce.

In an instant, a month passed. A month later, the two finally decided to divorce. When we met again, Xiong Guoqiang was wearing a suit and tie, and Ding Jing was wearing fur. Both sides are dressed appropriately.

Facing the problems in marriage, Xiong Guoqiang knew his mistake a month later. After his wife was pregnant, Ding Jing was dissatisfied with everything she did, and over time she had the psychology of escape.

I got a marriage certificate from the Civil Affairs Bureau two years ago and a divorce certificate from the Civil Affairs Bureau two years later. In just two years, such great changes have taken place, resulting in today's situation. Both sides have responsibilities, and there is no absolute right or wrong.

If Ding Jing had communicated well with her husband, Xiong Guoqiang would not have avoided the problem. Everything in the family, big or small, will be discussed before making a decision. If Xiong Guoqiang had spent more time with his wife during her pregnancy, maybe things wouldn't have developed like this.

Before marriage, both parties should have a certain understanding and contact, and have a certain emotional foundation. They should get along for a while before considering getting married, instead of getting married quickly in a short time. This marriage is unstable, unstable.

After marriage, both sides must communicate more, understand more, tolerate and understand each other, and don't be too strong to make the other side back, so that the husband and wife can last for a long time.

Marriage is no joke. Marriage needs careful consideration.