How to deal with ambiguous information received by lover?

How to deal with ambiguous information received by lover?

How to deal with ambiguous information received by lover? Ambiguous text messages are the trigger for many families to break up, because they represent the problem of marriage, but how should women deal with this situation? Let me give you a brief understanding of how to deal with ambiguous information received by your lover.

How to deal with ambiguous messages received by lovers? 1 The husband received an ambiguous message from a young lesbian. Her husband is honest and innocent, but she always feels the need to make a gesture. She is afraid that she will not grasp the discretion. She made a mistake.

My husband is usually modest and polite, commonly known as warm man. It's not that he wants to be a warm man to please women, but that my in-laws are good at tutoring.

My husband is a very positive and optimistic person. There is nothing to worry about being angry with him. When we are together, it is often because of something I can't let go. He came to enlighten me. I liked his indifference and calmness at first.

Perhaps because of this trait, his colleagues and friends around him like him very much. My husband is in his early forties, which is the best time for men. His career has matured and so has his life. It is easy for young girls who have just entered the workplace to envy.

A while ago, my husband showed me his mobile phone, and his new young female colleague sent him an ambiguous message. I looked at it. First, her husband praised her, and then she talked to my husband about her private life, which generally means that she has a bad relationship with her boyfriend and is breaking up. As a woman, I fully understand her routine and know what she wants. I trust my husband completely, and I know he will take care of it. I just always feel that there should be a correct statement about this matter, and there is no need to care too much, but we can't take it lightly completely. What should I do with it?

On the one hand, I want to show my absolute trust in my husband, but I am afraid that I am too careless. My husband will not report to me next time. So, what should I do?

Teacher Tian Tian, a marriage emotional counselor, replied: In a relationship, when there is a multilateral relationship, we should grasp the most core and substantial relationship. In this case, it is the relationship between husband and wife, that is, if there is really no problem with the relationship between husband and wife, even if there are more relationships, it will not have a negative impact. The husband took the initiative to show his wife the contents of the text message, which in itself expressed a kind of trust in his wife. A wife should also show an open-minded and trusting attitude. She can show her attitude to her husband. If the girl really has difficulties, she is also willing to communicate with her and help her, including letting her contact herself, supporting her husband's work and being his wife's helper. However, I don't like the girl's weakness to her lover. I should also show my attitude and express my feelings. I don't want my husband and girls to have such a close personal relationship after work. I will feel uncomfortable. The key is that she should constantly create conditions and opportunities to make her relationship with her husband more harmonious and don't worry too much about other things. You will pay more attention to things, and the only way to happiness is to always focus on the construction of the relationship between husband and wife.

How to deal with ambiguous information received by lover? The day before my twentieth wedding anniversary, I received a courier. I opened it and was very happy.

It's two bottles of red wine, my favorite brand and very expensive. Needless to say, my husband Li Yanwen must have bought it for me. I mentioned it once a few days before his business trip, saying that I haven't drunk this brand of red wine for a long time.

Besides, he remembers our wedding anniversary every year and always gives me gifts. Although he was on a business trip this year, he didn't forget to give me a surprise.

I called my husband at that time, and he smiled and said I liked it. He worked so hard to make money so that my son and I could live a better life. I am beautiful and happy every day. My son's health and academic success are his greatest wishes in this life.

The next day, my son came back from school. He said that his father was not at home and he wanted to spend this important festival with me. My son has just been admitted to a good university in this city this year, majoring in high technology.

The school is not far from home, and usually comes back for two days on weekends. He hurried back after class before the weekend.

Everyone envies me for having a husband who will make money and spoil me, and a handsome and sensible son.

I can't help but be happy when I think about it. Sometimes I wake up laughing when I really dream. Is it true that I saved the galaxy in my last life?

My husband is not at home. My son and I had a candlelight dinner, delicious food and wine, and my son was by my side. I felt very happy.

My mother-in-law once said that I am a blessed person. Everything has changed since I married the Li family.

My husband and I have known each other since we were eighteen. At that time, we worked in the same factory and occasionally contacted each other. I think he is more practical, and he thinks I am beautiful and simple.

The two of us will be together soon.

Li Yanwen comes from the countryside, with many brothers and sisters and poor conditions. He barely graduated from junior high school and came out to earn money to support his family.

When we first fell in love, his salary was only a few hundred dollars. Our family is in good condition. I only have one brother above me. The money I earn from going out to work is enough for me to spend, and my family doesn't expect me.

But Li Yanwen is different. In order to earn more money, he often works overtime and has to scrimp and save to send some money home. There are brothers and sisters at home to go to school.

After we got together, I also started to work overtime, one for spending more time with him and the other for helping him. At that time, many workers advised me not to be stupid after hearing about it. His family is so burdened that we still don't know what will happen in the future. I can't post it backwards from the beginning.

Actually, I didn't think that much. I think since two people are together, there is no need to divide them so finely. It is very difficult to face them together. The purpose of my stay with him is not just to fall in love, but to get married.

I can see that Li Yanwen is serious about me, too.

A year later, we got married. Although my mother's family strongly opposed it, I agreed, and there was nothing anyone could do. In today's words, Li Yanwen and I were married naked in the true sense.

Nothing but a marriage certificate.

But there is a caring person around me who likes me and likes me, and I am willing.

I didn't expect that after we got married, Li Yanwen seemed to hang up the phone. First, he left his job and started a small business with a leader in the workshop. Because we were poor at that time, his leaders took a fancy to his diligent mental work, refused to let him go out of Beijing, and promised to make money equally.

As a result, they really made money.

In the second year after my marriage, I also gave birth to my son at the beginning of my career in Li Yanwen.

From then on, the two of them grew bigger and bigger, because Li Yanwen wanted to go back to his hometown to develop, so he separated from the leader. The leader also supported him and helped him to start a company in his hometown.

I married my husband and followed him to his home, but I was far from my home.

For love, I am willing.

By then, he had built a new house for his family and sent his brothers and sisters to college. Later, his two brothers were also called into the company to help. It can be said that their whole family followed us out of the original poor family.

My mother-in-law treats me like a baby. She said that everyone said that I had a rich face, which not only gave birth to a grandson for their family, but also made my husband developed and made the whole family look up to it.

From poverty to wealth, I became rich after I married Li Yanwen, which is the good luck I brought to this family.

My family, old and young, are very kind to me. Never encountered problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, disputes between sister-in-law and young aunt, and family harmony.

I often call home and tell them not to worry. Li Yanwen and I have a good life, without pain or suffering, enjoying everyone's respect and love.

Of course, my husband treats me as a treasure, and he often educates his son to treat me as a princess, so that he can put me first in everything. Their task is to take good care of me all my life.

On the third day after the wedding anniversary, Li Yanwen came back. I drove to the airport to meet him. When I came back, he insisted on driving by himself in order not to make me tired.

It was on the way back from our car that the cell phone next to his handbrake rang, so I naturally picked it up and took a look. It was like a bolt from the blue.

On the short message, there is a woman's message: Husband, are you at home? I miss you so much.

I could hardly breathe and patted my chest hard. Li Yanwen looked at me with a worried face and asked, Wife, are you all right?

I saw the panic in his eyes, and it was his panic that completely disappointed me. My husband, Li Yanwen, who always said that he would spoil me all his life, was not immune after all. After we were married for 20 years, he cheated me.

Or earlier, he had another woman, but I never thought of it.

It can also be said that he has been very kind to me and deceived me, which made me relax my vigilance against him. Maybe his kindness to me is true, but it is also an indisputable fact that he cheated.

I calmed down for a while and quickly replied to the message. I said, my wife is here!

There is no answer on the other end of the phone.

Although I have been with him since I was 0/8 years old, I am still the lucky star in their family. I have been with him for 20 years. Because he has nothing, he has a car, a house, a company and money. Although he looks younger and more fashionable than his peers, he is old after all. As can be seen from the content of the short message, it was sent by a young woman.

My seemingly perfect marriage was not easily hollowed out by a little girl. Maybe one day, she will consider legally replacing me as Tang Huo, and maybe she is ready to let Li Yanwen dump me as a yellow-faced woman in a coquetry way.

I was silent all the way. Maybe Li Yanwen could see that my heart was already surging, so he took the initiative to coax me that night, saying that my wife hadn't seen you for a few days and was beautiful again. I bought you a necklace. You can try it later. I won't go to the company tomorrow. Do you want to go shopping with you?

If he had said that before, I would have laughed from ear to ear.

But I really couldn't laugh that day.

When I sleep at night, I still can't help it. I said, Li Yanwen, did you see the message I sent to your little lover? If you have anything to say, don't pretend it's useless.

His face sank and he said, wife, believe me, I really have nothing to do with that woman.

I snorted. It doesn't matter. She will call you husband. You think I'm stupid?

Li Yanwen looked at me, then walked over to me, sat on the bed and held my hand tightly. He said, wife, look me in the eye. Do you believe me?

I can't even look him in the eye. What is wrong with me? It was he who made the mistake, not me.

He said that you looked up at me, and I just looked at him after listening to his words. Just like the night I got married with him, we were face to face, sitting on the bed in the rented cabin, and his eyes were still full of friendship. But at this moment, I am not sure whether this friendship is true or false, and whether it is deliberately faked.

Looking at it, I actually cried, and I don't know why I cried.

He hugged me and said, my wife, please believe me. I am still the husband you married, and I have never done anything wrong to you. I really have nothing to do with that woman. The reason why she sent that text message was to let you see it on purpose, make you misunderstand it, and then make trouble with me.

I don't look well when my son comes back at the weekend. I haven't slept well these days.

He soon found out that I was wrong and asked me what had happened. He said he was an adult and I could tell him everything.

I told him everything.

Then the son smiled. He said, mom, although you are almost forty years old, you still think like a little girl. Don't! Little girls nowadays are so thoughtful that you can't compare with them.

My dad was right. That short message was sent at that moment, just for you to see. I'm sure my dad didn't do anything wrong to you. He didn't look for other women outside.

I paused and asked my son how he was so sure.

Then my son mysteriously called me aside and showed me his mobile phone. I don't understand what I said.

The son said, mom, I was born and raised by you. I am the closest person to you in the world. I know that one day you will doubt my father. With my dad's condition, he doesn't take the initiative. Those girls who worship money outside can really jump.

Of course, I'm also afraid that my dad can't do anything if he makes a mistake, so I have already installed a monitor on his mobile phone. Of course, I won't monitor him all the time. I set a sensitive word reminder.

I asked my son what a sensitive word reminder was, and he said that once the words he set in advance appeared on my husband's mobile phone, his mobile phone would receive a reminder, telling him that my husband might have a problem.

I smiled, this prodigy, I asked him what words he set up, and he said, for example, dear, husband, I miss you and so on. I said you know a lot for a child.

My son went on to help me analyze that the number I texted last time was the first time, and my husband had never been in contact with him before, which was enough to show that there was really nothing between them.

I made a quiet investigation when I was idle. The girl who texted my husband is a new employee in their company.

I met that girl once. At first glance, she is a restless girl. Her eyes are full of longing. She wants to rely on her youth and some beauty to rely on a man and let herself live a rich life.

Of course my husband knows that she sent the news. She learned about his itinerary through her husband's assistant, and investigated the situation between my husband and wife in advance, knowing that I would pick him up that day, and deliberately sent that message.

My husband told me with a guilty face when he knew that I went to the company. I feel sorry for my wife, but I haven't had time to fire her yet. Don't worry, I'll arrange the personnel department to let her pack up and leave tomorrow.

I told you what I know, and I don't mind. If you think she is good at her job, you don't have to fire her. My husband said seriously, no, it was his fault that he didn't polish his eyes before. This time, he will definitely not keep her. In addition, people with poor working ability can't do anything well.

I nodded with satisfaction.

At the end of the year, my husband's company held an annual meeting, and I also went.

I sit at the same table with the lovers of several department heads in their company. We had a good talk that day. We chatted, and someone mentioned that the company had recruited a beautiful girl and sent an ambiguous message to her husband. The general content is: good night, dear, I miss you!

She also said that the couple had a quarrel at that time, and finally her husband repeatedly explained to her that she followed her husband for several days and really didn't find anything before giving up.

She also called that number, but she was hung up every time. As she spoke, she took out her mobile phone and said that I still had her number. I don't know who this fox hurt.

Everyone leaned their heads together one by one, and several people said that they had seen this number in their husbands' mobile phones, and there were similar ambiguous text messages.

One of them was very excited. She said it was really a misunderstanding of my husband. I argued with him for a long time because of this information. To tell the truth, we are both going to divorce recently. He said I didn't believe him, and I said he lied to me.

After listening, I was shocked. I looked at the number, too. It was hers.

It turns out that there are some immoral women in this world who send ambiguous messages on a large scale. If someone takes the bait, she will take the bait. She doesn't care if no one takes the bait. As for the consequences to others, she doesn't care at all.

I learned a lot this time. I still have to believe that my husband's feelings for me and my own feelings are not affected by the outside world.

There is always a beautiful marriage, there are always men who are loyal to their lovers, and some women are just floating clouds.