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Please teach me how to get along with my girlfriend and what topics to talk about. I really like her. QQ: 654311655 I am here...

Picking up girls--quick guide

The first level of skills. Focus on the chat itself, not the chat topic

Many people don’t know how to chat with girls, and they often run out of topics while talking. And I think: there is no need to prepare topics for chatting! Topic chatting method: When we chat, we always want to focus on the topics we have thought about in advance, but do not pay attention to the chat itself, so we often encounter the following situations:

Examples

Me: Have you eaten? (Bring up a topic)

MM: Ate

Me: What are you doing? (Bringing up another topic)

MM: Internet access

Me: How is your weather? (Bringing up another topic)

MM: It’s okay

Me: Are you busy recently? (Bringing up another topic)

MM: Not busy

Me:. . . . (There is no more topic to talk about, because the topic will always be finished)

Me: Oh, that’s it. I just want to call you and ask what you are doing. Then you can continue to work, bye

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MM: Bye

Because at this time what you are thinking in your mind is always, what should I say? What topics do you talk about with MM? This often leads to a dead end. When you finish talking about the topic you prepared in advance, you will find that you are dumb!

The correct idea of ????chatting is: focus on the chat itself, not the topic of the chat, not what to talk about, but how to chat. Keyword method chat:

Example

Me: Have you eaten? (Bring up a topic, keywords: eating rice)

MM: Did you eat?

Me: What did you eat? (Triggered by the keyword "eating")

MM: Beef noodles

Me: Did you make it yourself? (Triggered by the keyword rice)

MM: Beef noodles

Me: Did you make it yourself? (Triggered by the keyword rice)

MM: I don’t know how to cook, so I bought it (keyword: I don’t know how to cook) Me: You don’t even know how to cook, coming from a girl’s house Home, you don’t even know how to cook, it depends on how you get married (the keyword “not knowing how to cook” triggered the emergence of a new keyword “marriage”)

MM: I don’t want to cook, my mother used to do it ( Keywords: former mother)

Me: The past was before and now is now. You have grown up. Girls have to learn to cook. Are you a wife who doesn’t cook? (Triggered by the keyword "previous" and the new keyword "grow up" appeared)

MM: I haven't decided to get married yet. . . (Keyword: Marry)

Me: Your mother loves you very much, right? (New keyword "pain" appears due to the keyword mother)

MM: My mother loves me very much. . I am the youngest, of course you love me (keyword: smallest)

Me: Are you the youngest? Do you have any brothers or sisters? (Triggered by the keyword "minimum" and the new keyword "brothers and sisters" appears)

MM: My sister is BLABLABLAL. . . . (A lot)

When I got here, I found that the keywords here are almost used. I immediately returned to the keywords in the earlier conversation. You can use the keywords that appeared in the conversation above. Start chatting!

Me: Haven’t you thought about what kind of person you want to marry yet? (Triggered by the keyword "marriage")

MM: I haven't decided yet BLABLABLAL. . . . (A lot) (Keywords: not thinking about it)

Me: So what are your standards? (Triggered by the keyword "haven't thought about it")

MM: That's my standard. . BLABLABLAL. . . .

(A lot)

At this time, I found that there are no keywords in what she said, or the keywords here are not conducive to you to expand the topic. Immediately return to the keywords in the earlier conversation to start chatting!

For example

The keyword buy in line 6

Me: Do you like to buy things, do you like to go shopping? (New keyword shopping caused by earlier keyword shopping)

MM: I like it, I really like it (keyword: like)

Me: Then what else do you like to do? ? (Triggered by the keyword "like") MM: I like singing, swimming, and traveling (new keywords appear: singing, swimming, traveling)

Me: Oh, you like singing. Whose song do you like to sing? MM:. . . . .

Me: Oh, you like swimming. Can you swim? How is your swimming skill? Where do you usually travel?

MM:. . . . .

Me: Oh, you like traveling. Which places have you traveled to? How does it feel?

MM:. . . . .

Don’t dwell on a keyword all the time. Grab a keyword and start chatting. When the chat reaches a certain level, stop! Return to the previous keyword and start chatting. Chat to a certain level. Stop! Return to the previous keyword that was halfway discussed and continue the conversation. Stop! Return to the previous keyword to start chatting. Chat to a certain level. Stop! Return to the previous keyword chat. . . . . .

You will find that during the entire chat process, you did not prepare any topics, but the chat itself will bring you countless topics! You don’t need to prepare. You can start chatting anytime, anywhere. You won’t be stressed. You won’t be racking your brains to think about what should I talk about? Because you will have countless topics, so many that you don’t know what to choose to talk about. The important thing is that you have something to say and enter a good chatting atmosphere. It doesn’t matter what you talk to MM, the important thing is , in this atmosphere, it is fun and interesting, teasing each other, and humorous chat. Of course, this series of long-winded words seems to have no focus and no nutrition at all. What I want to say is that this is just an example, so that AFCs who only have a few words to talk to girls can have something to say, no As for the cold spot, I won’t just keep asking. This process should be interactive. I can only say that this is just a skeleton of a chat. To make the chat interesting, you must add frames, push and pull, cold reading, and DHV Stories and routines flesh it out and make chatting meaningful.

The second level of skills is to maintain the frame. During the chat, the girl will consciously test you. How should you face the girl's test? The correct way is to give her a trap and ask her to jump in first and then you jump in. If she doesn't jump, you won't jump. The simplest example is this I saw in Mi Nan's video tutorial:

MM :How old are you? (MM tests you)

Me: 28 years old (I jumped into her trap. At this time, her strong frame absorbed my weak frame and I became boring)

MM: How old are you? (MM tests you)

Me: What do you think? (I gave her a trap)

MM: I won’t guess, you tell me (MM won’t jump)

Me: You definitely can’t guess (I won’t jump into MM’s trap) )

MM: I guess you are 26 (MM jumped into the trap)

Me: Actually I am 30 (she jumped first, so I jumped again)

Me: How old are you? (I tested MM and gave her a trap)

MM: What do you think? (MM tested me, and she returned a trap to me) Me: Do you want me to guess lower or higher? (Don’t jump into the trap and continue setting the trap)

MM: Guess the high (MM couldn’t hold on and jumped in)

Me: I guess you are 24 (MM jumps first and I jump later)

MM: I am 26

Extended example

MM: I want to eat hot pot, please treat me (MM tests you)

I : Okay, if you go shopping with me tomorrow to buy clothes, I’ll treat you to it (if you don’t jump into her trap, I’ll give her a trap)

MM: No, I’m very busy tomorrow and I’m stingy. It’s so hard to treat me to dinner. Can you please come down? . (If you continue to set traps for you, if you jump, it will be a weak frame)

Me: Are you busy tomorrow? Then you can accompany me to the night market and buy clothes after we finish the hot pot (if you don’t jump into her trap, I will give her another trap)

MM: I have to go back in the evening. It will be too late after eating. . . (Let’s see how long you can hold on if you continue to trap you?)

Me: No, I’ll invite you next time. I’ll find someone else to buy clothes with me (persistence! Don’t jump into her trap)

MM: It’s so hard to treat me to a hot pot, so when I have time, can I go shopping with you to buy clothes? (Continue to trap you, MM wants to use such vague words to deal with you)

Me: When will you have time? Do you have time the day after tomorrow? Accompany me the day after tomorrow (persistence! Don’t jump into her trap and continue to trap her)

MM: Okay (MM jumped first and MM couldn’t hold on first)

Me: I might It may be a little late for dinner after work. You should reserve a seat and order food first. Then call me (continue to trap her) MM: Okay (MM frame is completely absorbed by you, MM is completely defeated)

Maintenance of the frame

Make the MM feel that she cannot hold you. Your strong frame will eventually absorb the MM’s low frame in the chat, thus making the MM feel dependent and attractive.

The third level of technique is push and pull.

I think the so-called pull means that you like MM, praise MM, and deliberately bring the relationship with MM closer. The so-called push means that you don’t like to suppress and ignore MM, and use it flexibly to make MM’s feelings ups and downs, so that MM feels towards her. You have the so-called feeling

Example 1

Me: When I was in high school, you were so beautiful that you chased many people (pull)

MM: Haha, of course, why didn’t you chase me?

Me: I also liked you back then (pull)

MM: Haha, it’s true, you haven’t always had a crush on me, right?

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Me: That was before and not now (pushed away)

MM: Oh, how are you doing recently? We have time to sit out and chat. Me: Haha, I’m very busy recently, maybe I don’t have time (pushed away) Open)

MM: Let’s talk about it later when we have more time. Then use the obedience test to see if it has any effect after pushing and pulling.

Me: If you treat me to something delicious, I might go. (Compliance test)

MM: Then I’ll treat you tomorrow

Example 2

I don’t know if you have seen Du Lala’s promotion record. Wang Wei (Huang Lixing) is a master of pushing and pulling. In the scene at the beach, he and Du Lala (Xu Jinglei) were walking very intimately, chatting and watching the sea. He and Du Lala cuddled together to catch fireflies and had an intimate fight (Wang Wei used pull). technique) and then suddenly pushed Du Lala away when they were about to kiss and ignored Du Lala's intimacy with other beauties in the following party (Wang Wei used the technique of pushing). At this time, Du Lala felt something in her heart After the emotional turmoil, Wang Wei sent a text message to Du Lala: "I'm outside, come out!" (Wang Wei used the obedience test technique) Du Lala came out and took Du Lala's hand and went to check out the room (Wang Wei The push before was for a deeper pull with the purpose of getting a room, not a kiss).

The fourth level of skills. Tell stories

1. When telling other people's stories, I think the key point is to tell them with a sense of humor and pay attention to the way you tell them. I won’t go into specific examples. You can read Puppy’s post about Lao Wang. Carefully appreciate the way Lao Wang tells stories.

2. Telling your own story Telling stories undoubtedly plays an important role in chatting with girls. Everyone has many, many stories in their own experiences, but if you just tell stories and tell your own experiences, there will be no When adding any DHV elements to the story, it can only bring you into the friendship zone. As for people who tell stories well, you won’t be able to tell that there is any intentional “bragging” in them. In a story, cleverly tell your DHV points.

The fifth level of skills tells about ideological viewpoints and speech conventions

You can look at other people’s understanding of the source of your ideological opinions, or you can understand it yourself and form your own opinions on some things. This requires me to think a lot and form my own opinions. In fact, in the process of interacting with others, I can absorb good opinions and use them for my own use. Read more newspapers and some comments on the Internet. After thinking and absorbing it myself, I can discuss it with others, absorb other people's good opinions and use them for my own use, and gradually improve my own opinions.

For example

Song asked Haizao on the way to Dingshan Lake

Haizao: "Secretary Song, can I ask you a question? Why are you taking this car? I think when riding in a car, a slave has to stand on tiptoe to get up.”

Song Siming: “I’m talking about seaweed. This is a special car for the British royal family. It’s called LUHU. You think it’s ugly, but I think it’s ugly.” It's the best-looking one in the car.

——Telling the point of view

Song Siming:” “The men who drive are passionate and want to own a LUHU. After holding back in the city for a long time, they all want to own a LUHU. Like a group of wild horses, with a mane that blows in the wind and grows up on the grassland, LUHU is a man's leg, the wind blowing in the air."---

--Talk about the point of view

Song Siming: "This car is hard to see in the city..."

Song Siming: "This man needs a good car, a confidante, and a... ”

————Talk about your opinions. When you express these opinions, MM can only look up to you.

The sixth level of technique is to arouse MM’s curiosity

I think that in the early stage of meeting MM, the first feeling that should be given to her is curiosity, so that she has curiosity. This What is the story of the man?

Example 1

Song Siming and Haizao met for the first time

Song: "Have you gotten married yet?"

Hai: "Not yet?" "No"

Song: "The future is boundless"

This is the key point. What did Song Siming want to show during the first meeting with Haizao? humor? No, when you meet a girl for the first time, I think you need to give her a mystery and make her curious. You can say some wonderful words. . . , curious about you, why would he say such a thing?

Strange example 2

Everyone has a secret (Korean PUA movie) When the male protagonist meets the third sister, his first sentence is: "Hello, I have heard a lot about you. Everyone will say hello, but what about the next sentence? The curiosity aroused makes every woman think about what happened when she met this man for the first time and he said he had heard many things about me.

The seventh level of skill is to maintain a certain degree of mystery about MM

When a woman is curious about you, then congratulations, you are going to have good luck. After having curiosity, the next thing to do is to keep working hard and keep this curiosity until. . . . The best way to keep a girl curious is to maintain a certain degree of mystery about her. Pay attention! To a certain extent! It can't be too light or too light. If it's too light, it will completely know everything about you in three or two days, but that's it. OVER, I don’t feel it anymore. Of course, it’s not okay to go too far. That will make her feel that the distance between you is bigger than the river between the Cowherd and the Weaver Girl. What’s the point of playing in that way? There’s no point in playing.

Topics

1. What kind of work do you do? (Why do you like this job? What are the biggest challenges? What are the biggest setbacks? What are your hopes for work and the future?)

2. What achievements have you made in your life so far? (Are there any major setbacks?)

3. What do you love most? (Why are you interested?)

4. What was the most impressive happy event last year? (Or something unfortunate?)

5. What do you do at work?

6. How do you like to spend your vacation?

7. Do you want to become famous? (Why)

8. If you had one million, how would you use it?

9. What was your growth like in the family from childhood to adulthood?

10. What personal strengths did you have while growing up? (Are there any shortcomings of fear?)

11. What kind of relationship do you want to develop?

12. Are you romantic? (How to be romantic?)

13. What do you think are the differences between men and women?

14. What makes you happy?

15. What makes you sad?

16. When you were a child, what did you hope to do when you grew up?

17. What do you think is different from others?

18. Do you believe in gods? (What are your views on gods?)

19. To what extent do you think your personal actions have an impact on changing society?

20. What do you think are the important events in society right now? (If possible, what action would you take?)

The first step: Focus on career pursuits and look for the “sparkling point” of the topic

Career is the foundation for a person to settle down and live his life. Any young person who is diligent in his career and pursues life without slacking off will become very cheerful once he talks about work and life with others. So grab some of his "sparkling points" in this area to explore the topic, and you will definitely have a lively conversation.

Su Xin is a career-minded girl, but she is introverted and not sociable. Therefore, she is already in her twenties, and she still "lives alone without a husband." One day, a colleague introduced her to a police officer named Li Ming. When we met for the first time, the introducer said a few words in a routine manner and then left. Neither of them spoke, and they were in an awkward situation.

When Su Xin saw something fishy about this scene, she quickly became wise and said casually, "Not to mention that your job as a police officer is difficult, and you are always in danger of your life. Your family and relatives are also affected. Ordinary people It's really hard to accept." After hearing this, Liming became anxious and immediately took over Suxin's words, explaining the greatness and pride of her profession in terms of career and ambition, life and pursuit, dedication and demands.

The two-hour date passed unknowingly as they chatted and laughed. At the end, Suxin gave Liming an affectionate smile. During the "critical moment" of her first date with Li Ming, Su Xin clung to the bright spot of the other party's love for her job to find a topic. It seemed "accidental", but in fact she deliberately raised the proposition "Which is more important, family or career" to him? Let's examine his pursuit of career and life. It not only effectively solved the problem of having nothing to say when meeting for the first time, but also achieved the purpose of enhancing mutual understanding and communicating ideas.

Second move: Focus on hobbies and look for the "hot spots" of the topic

Everyone has their own hobbies, even a taciturn person, as long as he talks with you He will also be eloquent when people talk about his hobbies. However, what should you do when you meet him for the first time and you don’t know what his hobbies are? It doesn't matter, you might as well talk about your own interests and hobbies first, and then seek out the hot spots in each other's interests and hobbies, so as to increase understanding and deepen feelings.

Ah Yue met Ah Tong through the marriage notice in the newspaper. Both of them felt uncomfortable when they met for the first time. They briefly talked about the wind, rain, sun and moon for a while, as if they were reciting lines, and then they ran out of words.

After a moment of silence, Ah Yue had an idea and proactively suggested: "How about we go to karaoke?" "Karaoke?" Ah Tong asked hesitantly. "Yes, sitting in the booth, savoring the fragrance of tea and coffee, while listening to passionate or affectionate music, the worries and sorrows of life, the tension and fatigue of work will all disappear like a wisp of smoke in the wind. You will be relaxed, comfortable and happy." Ah Yue paused and stared at Ah Tong affectionately, "Are you right?" "Although I don't like singing and dancing, I listened to your insightful remarks. I feel the inspiration and power of music in life.

No wonder readers criticize my works for lacking passion. With writing, culture and art, they are a 'family'." When A-Yue and A-Tong couldn't continue talking, smart A-Yue found an opportunity to introduce her interests and hobbies to A-Tong first, so as to test him out. of interests and hobbies. When her interests and hobbies conflicted with those of Ah Tong, she once again cleverly expanded their interests to a broad field, thus finding the brilliance of "a family".

Third move: Focus on the environment and atmosphere and find the "focus" of the topic

The environment and atmosphere are a topic that is dynamic, random and rich in connotation. It is not just a play on the occasion, but it reflects a person's level and taste in terms of thoughts, moral character, wisdom, and behavior by capturing this kind of topic.

It can be said that as long as a person who is good at observing things, analyzing problems, and handling conflicts focuses on the environment and atmosphere when looking for topics, there will be an inexhaustible supply of topics.

In Jiangsu and Zhejiang, it is customary for the man to go to the woman’s home for a blind date. On this day, Yi Qun left his family to have a date with Chunhui alone at home. Chunhui walked into the house and commented casually about her home. However, Yiqun was a typical conservative and introverted girl. When Chunhui finished speaking, she did not continue the conversation.

The conversation reached a deadlock, and the only sound in the room was the chirping sound of "Huan Zhu Ge Ge" on the TV. Both of them looked at the screen quietly, and no one said anything. At this time, Yi Qun was anxious. However, she really lacked the courage to face Chunhui head-on, so she faced the TV and muttered to herself: "Now that there are more TV channels, there is a lack of exciting programs. You can watch this "Huan Zhu Ge Ge" , the whole plot is slapstick, without any taste, and without much practical significance. ""That's right, look at that little swallow..."

The missing topic suddenly aroused Chunhui's interest in talking. . "What do you think of Ertai taking on the crime of robbing the prison to save Xiao Yanzi and Ziwei on his own?" "I admire Ertai very much for his uprightness and courage. There are too few such friends nowadays..."

佽qun When there were obstacles when talking to Chunhui for the first time, she used local materials and focused the topic on the TV program that was being broadcast, making it sound natural, casual, and relaxed. At the same time, she was good at using topics to find what she needed to know. On the surface, it is to listen to Chunhui's evaluation of Ertai's behavior, but in fact, it is to examine Chunhui's own principles and level of behavior.

The fourth tip: Focus on social life and look for the "exciting point" of the topic.

Social life is all-encompassing, and you always have some of your deepest experiences and things you most want to say in your life. , the people and things you hate or like the most, what you care about the most or hope for the most. Then, when your conversation with your friends gets "stuck", just pick one of the "points" that you are most excited about and talk about it. .

According to the introducer's arrangement, Xiaoqing walked into the park holding a magazine in her hand and met another boy, Ayi, who was holding a magazine. After the two of them registered for their respective homes like a recruitment examination, they wandered along the lakeside of the park in silence.

Xiao Qing felt that since the two of them were on a blind date, they should talk to each other to improve their understanding of each other. What's the point of not talking? She frowned, thinking about it. "What magazine are you holding in your hand? Can you read it?" "I just bought "Chinese Cosmetics". This magazine is quite good and tasteful.

"Ayi gave the magazine to Xiaoqing while giving a brief introduction. "Wow, I can't tell that you are quite knowledgeable about beauty and fashion. "Don't praise me like that." It's just a hobby.

Think about it, in the past, beauty and make-up were only a fashion for women. Now that people’s living standards have improved and their pursuits have changed, why can’t men live a more glamorous life? "They revolved around fashion, from makeup to fashion, from pretending to be "cool" to darkness. By the time the two broke up, they had already resembled a pair of lovers who had been in love for a long time.

Xiaoqing's cleverness The thing is, she thought that a book will always lead to many book-related topics. Even if Ayi is just pretending to hold the book and is not interested in the book or a certain topic, then there will be many social issues surrounding the book. He must be interested in life topics, so their first conversation was very successful and well understood.