A female classmate made love to me. What should I do?

Let's wait until graduation to avoid embarrassment. Send him a text message or email and tell him I love you.

To solve this problem, we must first understand the reasons and characteristics of puppy love. Teenagers' puppy love behavior has the following characteristics: first, their will is vague: they are not clear about the development outcome of puppy love relationship, and only desire to contact the opposite sex alone. Second, inner contradiction: I want to contact but I am afraid of being discovered. Pleasure and fear coexist in the process of puppy love. Third, impermanence: one-on-one puppy love relationship lacks persistence and generally does not last long. Fourth, the difference in choice: in behavior, some teenagers' puppy love behavior is very hidden, and they convey their feelings through letters and telephone calls. But some teenagers are very open, and many occasions are like lovers. In the aspect of relationship, the main activity of most teenagers in puppy love relationship is to chat together and exchange unrequited love. Other people talk about feelings and even have sex. In terms of age preference, girls like more mature men. Boys like girls younger than themselves and show their masculinity in communication. The types of puppy love can be summarized into eight types: adoration, curiosity, imitation, conformity, pleasure, compensation, anti-transformation and morbid.

Physically, the primitive reproductive instinct of human beings is hidden behind the puppy love of teenagers. At present, there is an obvious time gap between human sexual maturity and the actual possibility of giving birth to offspring. It is characterized by early sexual maturity and late reproductive activities. We must face up to the influence of sexual maturity and sexual instinct impulse on teenagers' psychology and behavior and clearly understand the essence of puppy love.

From the psychological point of view, after teenagers enter adolescence, with the changes of sexual physiology, complex changes will inevitably occur in sexual psychology. In middle school, from 13 and 14 to 17 and 18, they experienced the "second birth" in life and psychologically accepted the second "weaning". The germination and gradual maturity of middle school students' sexual physiology have caused changes in their sexual psychology. I feel mysterious, sensitive and wonderful about the relationship between men and women. Emotion has become warm and fragile, coupled with the lack of analysis, judgment and self-discipline, so some young students are easily tempted by some bad influences and bad consciousness in society. Some students read books and periodicals about the physiology of the opposite sex, from which you can imagine; Some boys are keen to play the role of "protector" and show their "heroism" in order to win the favor of girls; Some girls have an embarrassing initial impulse, and after a psychological process of surprise, shyness and hesitation, they have a vague desire to make friends From these phenomena, we can see that students are not only fresh in adolescence, but also begin to pay attention to the opposite sex and get close to the opposite sex, which is easy to generate goodwill and pursuit, thus producing a series of ideological problems. If there is no guidance from parents and teachers during this period, it is not surprising that puppy love occurs.

The author believes that puppy love will do some harm to the healthy growth of students if it cannot be guided correctly. The main manifestations are: 1, distracting energy and affecting learning; 2, emotional impulse, planting bitter fruit; 3. Dissipate the will and influence the atmosphere. Someone has done a follow-up survey and found that the success rate of puppy love marriage is extremely low. In middle school, few people who love each other can finally form a family. It's a pity to spend the best time in life on this kind of love with more bitter fruit than sweet fruit.

The phenomenon of puppy love is inseparable from social and family factors, as well as psychological and ideological factors. Therefore, to solve the problem of students' puppy love, we should start with psychology and thought, and do a good job of prevention and guidance first. Prevention should start from the following aspects: do a good job in adolescent education for middle school students.

Strengthen youth, ideals, future education and legal education. Guide students to cultivate healthy and noble sentiments. Cultivate and establish a serious, lively and positive school spirit and class collective. Establish a good relationship between teachers and students. Make proper use of the opposite sex effect. Guidance is to guide and adjust students' thoughts and emotions. In the guidance, we should grasp the following three principles: 1, and we should find out the details and know fairly well. 2 we should distinguish between situations and treat them differently. Pay attention to methods, guide them correctly, and avoid rough suppression to force them to submit. In the specific operation process, the following methods can be adopted: 1 "jump out" to guide students to overcome their emotions with reason. 2 "Freezing" allows students to freeze their emotions and bury them, so that they can "hibernate" and concentrate on their studies. 3 "separation", create a good environment for them and try to avoid being alone together. As long as we treat students sincerely, put ourselves in their shoes, influence them with love and give full play to the strength of the group, the problem of puppy love among middle school students can be properly handled.