Thank you to those mothers who have returned to work after giving birth.

?It is said that women nowadays are very strong, so the word "女汉字" has become a commonly used word in recent years. In order to encourage women, many chicken soups always explain a lot of things that make women independent and self-reliant. Don't wait for such a view that men can live a good life. So now women have to become very strong. Whether it is career or money, they must be in their own hands to show that they are not out of touch with mainstream thinking. Women who are at home caring for their husbands and raising children are usually looked at strangely, so that mothers who have already given birth must conform to this mainstream, and in order to highlight their own value again, they have to rush, Even the endocrine system has not been readjusted before returning to the workplace. In fact, when they return to the workplace, what they have to face are more setbacks and blows, right?

How long will your adaptation period take?

?Mothers are really tired from taking care of their babies in the first few months. When the babies are three months old and their sleeping hours become more regular, they feel comfortable for a few days and their maternity leave is basically over. , so you need to re-invest in another work and rest habit. During the period of raising a baby, when the baby sleeps during the day, you can take a nap with him, and at night the baby goes to bed early. At this time, you can even have a little private time. Even if you just look at your phone or browse Moments, you will feel that Time is precious and pleasant. There is still quality sleep time. But when you start going to work, you will feel extremely rushed about everything. When your baby gets up early, you also need to get up early, wash the baby (the baby also needs to wash his face and breasts), feed her milk, and wash yourself. Sometimes you will find that the time you spend washing yourself can be reduced to one-third of the time it used to take. When you think about it, you will find it amazing. It is probably because your figure has not recovered yet and you can only put it on. Just put it on, don't worry about where it doesn't fit or whether it doesn't look good together, these are out of your mind.

If the preparations before going out are just rearranging the time, then when you return to the company, it is not a question of whether the time is arranged appropriately.

I have returned to the company in the past few months. If it is good, I may still be able to continue working at my original job. But if it is not good, such as business management jobs, usually such positions, You will not be allowed to be absent from your job for half a year. If you cannot be absent from your job, it means that you have been replaced. If you return to the company, this position cannot be given back to you. So what should you do? They can only be transferred to other positions and reassigned. With such a beginning, the gap may not be as small for you.

In a new position, even if you are familiar with the company's operations, and even if you have a few familiar old colleagues who can help you, you will feel that you will be able to adapt to it again soon, I don't know. , you have forgotten that you are a mother now, and you are used to your baby being by your side all the time for a few months, so you will be distracted when you are working, and you want to know whether the baby is obedient and crying when he is not by your mother's side. Maybe even worse, I'm worried that the baby won't have enough to eat. That's it. Just thinking so nonsensically about what's going on with my baby right now? So you start to hope that the time to get off work will come quickly. When the time comes, you are already at the door of the company. You hope to get home and see your children as soon as possible. What next? After you get home in a hurry, the child is fine, but you take over the role of the old man again and start to circle around the child, bathing, feeding, putting him to sleep, eating by yourself, bathing, and sleeping with him. After a day of hard work, you find that you are tired and don’t even glance at your phone when you can sleep.

Because tomorrow is another day like this. With this kind of beginning, do you still think that you can return to the working status before having children? Do you still have that drive? Yes, but the adaptation period depends on how long it takes you to adapt.

Are there any other situations that require you to choose between work and children?

I thought that as long as I kept doing this over and over again every day, I would soon be able to adapt to this rhythm, and work and life could truly be separated, and these things would be easy to handle. However, if the child only needs us to feed him and sleep well, then everything will be fine, then this assumption can still be established.

However, children are young and prone to illness. Whenever I receive a call from home while at work, I will feel inexplicably nervous and feel ready to grab my bag and rush home.

However, you still have a leader above you. Maybe you are doing something very urgent right now, and the leader is just waiting for your things to hold an emergency meeting, but you must go and tell your leader that my child is sick. , I have to go back immediately to take the child to the hospital and so on. Usually the boss will not be so unreasonable and refuse to let you go, but next time he arranges some work, he will think about whether it is safe to arrange it for you.

As a mother, you always stand on your child’s side without thinking at all. But there will eventually be gains and losses, and the loss side can only be endured silently.

It was only after the child was born that you realized that family relationships were very complicated, right?

Whether it is your own mother or mother-in-law who comes to help you take care of your children, in fact, as a new mother, you are very grateful. After all, they have created opportunities for themselves to return to society. As for letting yourself become an old mother prematurely. However, even if we are grateful, you will find that there will still be conflicts that should and should not be there, such as child feeding issues, differences in living habits, emotional communication issues, etc. As a daughter-in-law, if you can really deal with them all If it comes, the speed of the brain will probably not slow down much. Of course, if you don't want to spend this mental energy, the result may be that grandma or grandma walks away, and the relationship will become very simple, so simple that only you and the child are left. Children at this stage cannot have much conflict with you. It’s just a matter of pooping or not.

I am also a mother who has just returned to the workplace, and this is the second time I have returned to the workplace. After returning to work after my second child, I have lost the hesitation of the last time and have been assigned a new position. , it’s starting over again, but the mentality is much better than before. I really understand mothers who have just returned to the workplace, so I wrote this article to encourage each other *** Mian ------- Even if it is still difficult now, it will be fine if you get through it, don't read it Those poisonous chicken soups, we just want to set an example for our children. Thank you for your hard work, dears