On Xi's Fortress Besieged

I really want to go to Xi 'an for a year. It happened that a friend from the dormitory next door came to see me. She wanted to go, so we went together. We usually go to the city to play together, and our hobbies are similar. This trip was supposed to be a great experience.

Let me change her completely. When staying in a hotel, we stayed in a cheap hotel chain, a standard room. In the evening, she takes a shower first, and then comes out to blow her hair. When I finished washing, I found her burning an electric kettle.

Thinking that she was thirsty and wanted to drink water, I handed the mineral water in my bag. "Drink this, the kettle may be a little dirty." She replied, "Never mind, I use it to cook underwear".

Earlier, I saw someone cooking underwear in a hot kettle in a hotel online, but I didn't expect to meet the live broadcast. At that moment, I knew that she and I could only be friends who ate and drank, and no matter how much.

02

My friend's department recently went out to travel, in Luoyang, the ancient capital of the 13th Dynasty. The company's administrative sister prepared a strategy in advance. On the second day of arrival, everyone prepared to punch in according to the raiders. Unexpectedly, a female colleague suddenly jumped out and refused to follow the set itinerary.

Everyone asked her where she wanted to go. She just wanted to go to the antique market, and she stayed all day. In fact, the antique market was arranged for half a day during the trip, and it was on the last day of the trip.

However, this female colleague can't wait, she must go on the first day and go shopping all day. It was cold, and seven or eight people were ready to take a taxi at the gate of the hotel, but they went back to the hotel to discuss it. Others really didn't want to go to the antique market for a whole day, so they let her go alone. Because they are strangers, they are worried that something will go wrong. Finally, they had to draw lots to find a male colleague to accompany her.

A friend said that at ordinary times, I can't see that she is such an unreasonable person. The power of playing was originally formulated by the administrative sister collecting everyone's opinions. Even if most people have any opinions, they will take care of the overall situation and take care of most people's ideas. Now the male colleagues in the department talk about constipation after a day's walk in the cold wind.

03

On the Zhihu, I saw a girl complain that she and her boyfriend went to Sichuan to play and broke up when they came back from a trip.

Before leaving, her boyfriend told her that he would do all the trips and the girl was waiting to enjoy it. The girl was not at ease, but also specially looked at the itinerary to make sure there was no place to step on the thunder. However, it is still thundering. It's not the scenic spots but people who step on the thunder.

Because some scenic spots are far away, you need to take a bus. The girl wants to go to the supermarket with her to buy some snacks. Her boyfriend volunteered to go and bought some energy bars and two bottles of mineral water. She wanted to buy some snacks such as melon seeds and chicken feet, but he didn't think it was necessary and wouldn't let girls buy them.

Usually play in the urban area, either on foot or by bike, and can only take public transportation in distant scenic spots; The girl said frankly, "I'm not going to travel, but I'm obviously going to suffer."

On the way back, two people were waiting at the boarding gate, and the girl was going to buy some special products to take home. Before leaving, I asked the boy to wait at the boarding gate and keep in touch. As a result, I bought a specialty and went back. No one was found at the boarding gate and no message was returned. I was about to board the plane, and I didn't know I had changed the boarding gate until I asked the staff. I hurried to find my boyfriend playing games. Ask him why he didn't return the message and answer "forgot".

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So you see, compared with daily life, travel can let you see clearly whether the other person's behavior, TA's living habits and even moral concepts are contrary to you. Travel is a process of trial and error. If the problems exposed to each other along the way can be tolerated, then both friendship and love will go further.

Qian Zhongshu also said in Fortress Besieged: Travel is the most experimental way to acquire a person's character. The most troublesome thing about traveling is that people who don't hate each other after a long journey can make friends. If the order of honeymoon trip after marriage is reversed, you should travel for one month first. After a month's travel, the two sides have not seen through each other and hate each other, but they still have to maintain their original engagement. This kind of couple promises not to divorce.

See, when traveling in a strange environment, all kinds of external and internal contradictions will break out. When you can solve problems together and tolerate each other, you are suitable.

Remember Mr. Qian's words: "If you want to get married, go first." Travel, find good scenery and find the right person at the same time.