I have studied more than 100 divorced families, and finally understand that single-parent children lack more than love.

A few days ago, on Children's Day, Jerry and Li XiaoLu were in the same box for the first time!

Just 200 days after the divorce was officially announced, the divorced couple, who had made a lot of noise because of the "marital infidelity" incident, first appeared in public view because they spent the holidays with their sweetheart.

In the media lens, Jerry and Li XiaoLu are in a very comfortable state. People who don't know the situation will definitely think that this is the ordinary daily life with a baby. While chatting, they watched the children feather in the open space. This kind of scene is really common.

Even if Tianxin went to play by himself, they still communicated face to face, and their expressions and postures were still relaxed.

People can't help feeling that after all the storms, for the sake of children, no matter how much love and hate they left at the beginning, everything will still be dull.

Jerry and his daughter sweetheart are as close as ever.

As can be seen from the details, dad Jerry picked up sweetheart and she immediately ravaged dad's face.

This kind of warm parent-child time has embarrassed many netizens. Once turned upside down, now everything is in the past.

For the sake of children, we can shake hands and give them a happy atmosphere, not noisy and silent parents.

More and more people know that marriage can end, but love for children will not end.

In terms of divorce, Faye Wong and Li have always been models. Li Yan's birthday was 14 a few days ago, and Faye Wong accompanied Li Yan in Li's hotel.

Here, I really can't help feeling the face value of 5 1 year old Faye Wong.

Then a few days later, Li Yan was photographed running with her father. Because Li Yan recently studied in Switzerland, she may return to China, and her parents want to spend time with her.

After Faye Wong and Dou Wei divorced, Dou Wei's mother and sister will also attend Leah Dou's birthday.

But also because of love and reason, under the treatment of Faye Wong,

Even after the divorce, the family can dance together and live in harmony.

Even before we wrote "Divorced twice, gave birth to two children, 565,438+0 years old. Why is Faye Wong's parenting style enviable? Faye Wong and Li will still participate in the activities of the Foundation.

Faye Wong, then 50 years old, played like a 15-year-old child.

Two days ago, there was a couple who were in the same boat because of their children's birthday.

Dong Xuan gave dimple a birthday wish on June 2nd!

Gavin Gao also bought a birthday cake for her daughter. Many people think that Gavin Gao should go to dimple's birthday party.

2065438+March 2008, Dong Xuan's ex-husband Gavin Gao was arrested in Australia on suspicion of sexual assault.

In April, Dong Xuan went to Australia. Since then, Dong Xuan has been traveling in China and Australia for her ex-husband.

During that time, Dong Xuan was haggard and weak.

Just after Dong Xuan spent14.65 million RMB to bail out of Gavin Gao, netizens directly dubbed her "forgive religious leaders", which was full of irony.

Sure enough, when all the troubles settled temporarily, Dong Xuan chose to divorce, get together and break up, and stop loss in time.

And the next development of Dong Xuan is also gratifying. She didn't complain, she didn't collapse, but she got better and better!

She runs a parent-child restaurant, plays a stage play, plays a TV play and is a producer. Her life is busy and full.

My daughter's dimples continue to grow happily under the perfect protection of Dong Xuan.

A typical case is Ma Yili, right?

After the divorce of Heping Guan, a few days ago, hot search suspected that she had a new lover, and everyone was actually very happy for her.

Because this hardworking woman deserves a new life.

If you can't be a good couple, you can at least be a good parent, no matter how many grievances your parents had before.

Despising and humiliating each other in front of children will only make children more afraid of marriage and love!

For example, the following couple really make people feel sorry for their children!

Do you remember Li Guoqing?

A while ago, he took several big men and directly broke into the office area of Dangdang.

Grab dozens of official seals and financial seals,

Such a fierce performance once made the current president go on a hot search.

The chapters that Li Guoqing took away.

He and his wife, Yu Yu, tore at each other and became a joke of the whole network!

Although their children are not in China, in today's information-developed society, the parents of an adult child have become the jokes of the whole network, and their psychological influence is immeasurable.

Things should start with 20 19 10.

In a talk show, Li Guoqing angrily smashed a cup and accused Yu Yu of forcing the palace, which marked the beginning of the break between the two.

10 On the morning of June 19, Li Guoqing released a circle of friends. Yu Yu, who remained silent, seized the opportunity to fight back in time, exposing Li Guoqing's "brilliant unofficial history" in his comments. Later, Li Guoqing, not to be outdone, wrote two Weibo letters to Yu Yu.

The two sides broke out one after another, and showed no mercy to each other, and gradually developed into an epic annual melon-eating event.

Dangdang was originally a company founded by husband and wife, but the tug-of-war between Li Guoqing and Yu Yu is essentially a struggle between husband and wife for the benefit of the company.

It is hard to imagine that two partners who have lived together for half their lives and started a business together have lost their dignity and past because of the power struggle. With the most embarrassing words, the most hurtful words, I just want the other party to ruin and disappear completely.

Moreover, in the process of tearing, they don't seem to want to avoid children, and even want to use children as their own chips.

Li Guoqing said in a circle of friends: "I have endured for my son for 23 years".

After the robbery, he made public the chat records with his son.

Obviously, the child has no intention of taking sides. On one side is his father and on the other side is his mother. It hurts to stand on either side, and he can't choose.

But Li Guoqing hoped that his son could play a mediating role and persuade Yu Yu to make concessions.

In his view, maintaining dignity is far less important than immediate interests, and the feelings of his son are naturally less important.

Similar to Yu Yu in Li Guoqing, divorce war hurt children's feelings.

And angels and Pan Yueming.

Angel married Pan Yueming at the height of her career in 2008.

At that time, countless people envy this pair of "golden couple".

The next year, my son was born on it, and the family of three was happier.

Unfortunately, after tearing off the beauty on the surface, all that remains in life is a chicken feather.

On 20 12, Angel divorced Pan Yueming, and Angel accused Pan Yueming of gambling addiction, heavy debts and domestic violence. At one time, Angel, who had already left the impression of innocence, gained the upper hand.

In everyone's mind, Pan Yueming became the "guilty party" in marriage. His public image plummeted, and he didn't receive any notice for a long time, and his career fell to freezing point.

It was not until Angel's marital infidelity was discovered that the divorce between them reversed again.

Pan Yueming-white washing.

From liking to smearing, the former relationship turned into a loud slap in the face, but in just a few years.

After the divorce, her son returned to Angie, but Angie still didn't want to go to Pan Yueming's house to visit her son.

Even if it is Dingding's birthday, Pan Yueming can only bless in Weibo every year.

For seven years, he can only miss his own flesh and blood relatives through symbols, which really makes you sigh.

Innocent and lovely children who don't understand the world are simply dragged into complicated grievances by adults, while the simplest ideas of children have become irrelevant issues.

Angel topped the program "Mom is Superman".

In the program, she can clearly feel her insecurity, and she always wants her highest attention to be on herself.

Once at dinner, Dingding went to say hello to others, and Angel was unhappy at once.

Once in a program, Dingding was asked:

"Why are all the other children brought by their fathers, and you are brought by their mothers?"

Top back:

"Because my father has been working for a long time, he can't see me. Only my mother, grandmother and grandfather take care of me at home. "

In the child's mind, he doesn't really understand what divorce is, but it is very important for his family to describe the reasons for his father's absence!

When one party cuts off the contact between the other party and the child, it will really affect the child's psychology!

So you see, it's not the parents' divorce that hurts children, but the parents' improper handling of divorce and their emotional relationship.

After all, even if you divorce, you should not leave your feelings.

If a child's childhood is incomplete because of his parents' selfishness, it will really make parents regret it.

After divorce, it is easy for someone to pin their emotions on their children and seek a sense of security.

Angel, for example, does have this situation.

Some people, in divorce, do a lot of excessive behavior for the sake of temporary quickness, which will also indirectly hurt their children. For example, Mr Ma and his wife Rong Wang Bao Qiang.

After that, it was another two years of mutual tearing.

Speculation, cheating, domestic violence ... this marriage has been staged one after another.

Fighting, making trouble, and throwing dirty water at each other have contributed to the news that shocked the whole network.

But I don't know if Ma Rong has ever thought about what kind of eyes the world will face when a pair of children sandwiched between husband and wife are wearing various drama queens.

Such an influence may accompany them all their lives.

This year, our son Wang 10 is an important birthday. Weibo and photos sent by Wang are only children and him!

Ma Rong, the mother of the child, can only send three expressions from a distance, a little boy, a cake and love.

? How similar this scene is to Pan Yueming's blessing in Weibo every year!

I don't want to see my children, more because the relationship has reached freezing point when I left.

Both sides can't and don't know how to face it, so it's better not to see it at all.

If I know now, why should I know? It's just that a few couples are very thoughtful and open-minded.

In fact, what single-parent children lack most is not just love!

In the past, every time we sent out a special topic on single-parent education, parents always asked us, and children always asked, "Where did mom and dad go?"

In fact, I really suggest that everyone and their children say, "Mom and Dad don't love each other, so we don't live together, but Mom and Dad still love you."

Japanese child psychologists put forward in the book "Single-parent families can grow up happily":

Family can be incomplete, but love for children should be complete. Love can heal all wounds.

"Child Psychology" also mentioned that whether it is a two-parent family or a single-parent family, the biggest factor affecting children's psychology is conflict.

Children who have personally experienced parental conflicts are more likely to have bad behaviors than other children, even if their parents are not divorced.

Children whose parents are not in conflict, children who are separated or divorced, are no more dangerous than others.

Therefore, single parents are not terrible. The terrible thing is that there is no love, only harm.

I hope that this generation of parents after 80 s and 90 s will no longer "because their children don't divorce."

Be cautious in marriage and cautious in divorce!