Li Lianglei's thousand-character book

First of all, I want to thank everyone who is willing to take the time to write warm messages and care about me. With a heavy heart, I have not been able to reply one by one. I want you to know that this may be just a small move for you, but it means a lot to me. Thank you for giving me great comfort and strength in the most difficult time of my life.

Writing this letter is the most difficult decision I have ever made. . . Life is really hard. I think, only in this brave and frank face can everything return to zero and we have a chance to be born again. I also hope that my sharing can bring some reflection to you who are deeply involved or about to embark on this journey. When I got married, I thought we would be a family all our lives, so I put all my heart into our family. Because you are ten years older than me, you really want to have many children.

One child after another kept giving birth, so I gave up my job and personal life, and everything was centered on you and the children. Most of the time we were married, I was either pregnant, pregnant or breastfeeding after delivery. In this process, my body and mind have undergone many changes, and most of these changes are my own. Of course, I like children myself.

I promised to have children by myself, but if I had known that you would leave our house because you wanted to live a "single" life after I gave birth to these three children, I would have lived a pseudo-single life and raised the three children by myself, I would not have promised. You know very well that my biggest dream since I was a child is to form a harmonious family and let my children grow up in a complete and loving family. However, I don't regret it, because our three children are everything to me and the best gift from God.

Different from previous women, modern women have no chance to receive education and have no choice but to play the role of a good wife and mother in the family. We are fortunate to have the opportunity to receive higher education, knowledge, knowledge, the ability to make a living and the ability to contribute to society. Whether in the past or in modern times, women choose

The whole family is committed to being a housewife, although it is essentially a "unpaid" job. But the role assignment of this family member is also an important support in the family, even multiple roles (such as nanny/teacher/cleaning aunt/driver/manager/partner/special assistance, etc. ) all year round. The salary of this job should be added to the opportunity cost of your ability not to go out to work. This should be the salary that all housewives deserve through their own efforts, rather than being given alms or alms. The person assigned to this role should not have no financial ability and savings forever, and the party who works outside gets all the benefits and rights. This will form an unequal relationship and put women in a weak position. Even if boys cheat or have domestic violence, it is difficult to have the right to speak. I think this is a problem that our generation needs to reflect on together. Many housewives around me have no savings or income in their accounts. Usually, they are embarrassed about the money their husbands earn. They will also look at their husbands' faces with money and never dare to say that they want to take care of their parents. If women talk about money, they will be condemned as philistines by our society, or questioned whether they are money worshippers, just to find boys' money. For women who put family first for a long time and have not gone out to work, if they have done nothing wrong but are forced to divorce because the man has no justifiable reason, they will usually be at a loss. So girls! Be sure to nip in the bud. I never thought I would go through this, and you may think it impossible as I do! But it must be right to plan for yourself and your children's future in advance!

I've been married to you for so many years, and I'm constantly suspected by you and your family. . Humiliation and cold violence. From the beginning, I was forced to sign an unequal prenuptial agreement. I can understand and fully accept that you want to protect the property before marriage, but the property after marriage is our joint efforts and our own efforts. The house is in your name and the car is in your mother's name. The property transfer is very clean, I'm afraid I'll take you "cheap". Of course, you usually feed and clothe your children, but over the years, I have never bought any luxury goods with your money and lived a simple life. Even I am the only person around you who encourages you. Don't make money from Shang Yan, programs or advertisements. Life is too short to do what you like. Spend all your time making music to cure everyone. . Changing the world is your mission, and only you can do it. Our family is not short of money, nor does it need a more luxurious life. Why should I be suspected and humiliated by you and my family for a long time?

I'm not the one who has all your money now and won't let you use it to provoke us. I know this sentence will make you angry, but I really hope you can open your eyes and see clearly. I know you are depressed, because you want to be smooth, so you can't move on the ground for several days. I also see that you have lost many important things in your life because you want to be smooth. At the age of 37, you still can't make any decisions for yourself. You feel very depressed and powerless, unable to do what you want to do, unable to control your work, feelings or economy. You complained to me for help, and I extended a helping hand. I simply thought that I was saving the person I love in from the mire, but when I turned around, I found that I was just a pawn in your hand. You use my sympathy and love to make me your shield. You hide behind me and use me to help you get back the rights you want bit by bit. In this process, you are the white face and I am the black face. Seizing power is not good for me, only you will benefit. You are the boss, and all business decisions are made directly by you, because people who are willing to help you when you need them are just carrying out the plan. Sadly, in the end, you said you wanted me to believe you, you could talk, you would protect us, and you and your team were fully prepared for marketing/criticizing/operating media and theory. What was the result? You, only protect yourself. You use your relationship and media relationship to protect yourself and attack me. You are the one who did the wrong thing, but your mother and I bear all the arguments and negative news, but you are alone. I asked if you could help me clarify that these news are not true. You said it was not convenient to make any response, because you said in the statement that you would not respond. I see. Result. . . . Brush the news for an hour, see you cheating, you immediately clarify for yourself. It turns out that I'm the only one you talk about, and there are no children. You said your reputation was precious. Have you ever thought that a woman's reputation is also very precious? There is still a long way to go in the future. You rely on me to protect you most, and I will never speak ill of you, even my family and friends. However, in order to preserve your high-quality image, you do not hesitate to slander me. You use the same routine to hide behind relatives and friends and bully me through them, just because if the problem is not with me, but you decide to leave irresponsibly, your high-quality image will be lost. I won't carry the cross for you anymore. At that time, Wu xx was also a big move to clarify, and the result was obvious to all. Do you have an unusual relationship with her? You two know that. The relationship between men and women in the entertainment circle and your three views have also subverted my understanding, objects/ex-objects/and their friends, everyone. . . They are all "good friends". /kloc-I met you at 0/6 years old. Looking back on everything in the past 20 years, I suddenly realized that everything was traceable, but I turned a blind eye. At that time, I was a minor, and you were 26 years old. You called me and said I was beautiful and ambiguous. It took more than an hour to call and chat with me. In the following years, you and I often flew and occasionally met in the same city. I remember one time you asked me to go to the movies and we sat in the front row. After that, we found your gossip girlfriend sitting at the back of the cinema, and we watched the same movie together. Later, when you were dating your ex-girlfriend, you called me at 2: 00 in the morning and asked me if I wanted to come to your house to accompany you.

Go to sleep. . . I thought it was strange to refuse, but I didn't think much about it. You said you were coming out to see me, and we talked outside until dawn that night. Only to find out later that you are still with your ex-girlfriend. Later, after you broke up, we met again in the same city. It's considerate of you to help me with my bag and take me out to play. We were very happy together, and then you held my hand. Because you are a high-quality idol, I have no vigilance. We naturally had sex together. The next morning, you said you didn't want to talk about feelings. This has never happened to me. I was surprised at that time, but at the same time, because you also sincerely shared many of your loneliness and inner secrets with me. At that time, I thought, your image is so high, you should be hurt. So, we are actually in love like ordinary couples. If we can be together, we will be together. If we are not in the same city, we will keep in touch all day and spend many wonderful times. We will also say I love you, but we are not famous. You said that you are not with others, but you just don't want to talk about feelings for the time being. It turns out that for a character like me, you are in many cities.

This city has such friends. I was also photographed taking girls for the night, and I was also photographed calling prostitutes. Actually, these are real hammers.

In the film, the girl made clear your floor and account name, left the elevator and entered your home. You also admitted these things to me. You admit that these are your problems, and you can't control yourself. I broke up with you, and you've been calling for weeks and saying you won't do it again. I will be your "only" in the future, and we will slowly move towards the road of forming a family together. One day you didn't call me after your concert in Shanghai, so I couldn't find you in the morning. Later, I found out that you had a night of drinking and partying with your booty friends, and you took pictures of all kinds of milk stickers and licking your lips. We have been seeing each other since we got married. You already have me. I received a series of nude photos from her to congratulate you on your birthday. This is also a happy response. I promised that I would never see you again, but I still found you coming and going from time to time and continued to send some ambiguous messages. Once Shang Yan was with her and didn't want me to go. Then she sent an ig about you, calling you "red" and deleted it. There is a girl who is also your booty call. She is married and has children, and wants you to lie to her husband with her. I feel uncomfortable about your past dates, because the girls you got along with after we got married were all kinds of coquetry and seduction, and you responded enthusiastically. If you are honest, you really don't need to lie to her husband. I said I wasn't feeling well, and normal social interaction was acceptable, but I would feel uncomfortable inviting her to our home. Can I not go? You are very angry about this, saying that you should not do it after the Christmas party, and even fly to her house to find her for a party knowing that it is illegal. I am pregnant and about to give birth. Your dance teacher "friend" summoned you and said that he felt very sad and thought you were together. Another female "friend" also heard us cry in front of me for an hour, saying that she thought you were together. Later, I found that you recorded the characteristics of various prostitutes, including several staff members who looked like us. What am I ashamed of? Even after all this, I am still willing to forgive you and accompany you, but in another way, I don't expect to change you and let you live the lifestyle you want freely. I quit your life and wait for you at home with my children. You want to come back, I'll come back and pick us up, and I won't quarrel with you. But you still have to leave selfishly. The reason is that I met a girl I like and didn't want her to be wronged. I was called a mistress, so I resolutely divorced. I don't want a divorce, so you try to bully me, even humiliate me, and fabricate facts to slander me in front of relatives and friends. I've given you everything you want. No matter how irresponsible and ridiculous you are, I haven't even said much to my relatives and friends around me. I just smile at people and guard our family gently and firmly. I only hope that my forbearance, concession and forgiveness can bring family harmony and children can grow up in a harmonious and happy family. So you weren't here. Children's birthdays are absent, and important festivals are absent. Every time I leave for a few months, it breaks my heart to see my child fall in my arms and cry. I found that my forbearance again and again was just a bad demonstration for our daughters. . The happiness I thought would bring to children turned out to be just a gain and loss for them. . Disappointed again and again. As long as it is something you care about, you will definitely have time. To paraphrase Mrs. Science, people who are absent always have an excuse. Love and care should be expressed by actions. You said you loved me then, and now you say you love children. I heard you, but I didn't see you. Love and care are embodied in behavior, not in language. One of the reasons why I decided to stand up is that I don't want any more girls to experience the same thing as me. I think the world needs more reflection. For a long time, powerful people have manipulated the media and the media has manipulated the public, leading to the deviation of social values and the control of argument thinking. Although this industry is very big, I sincerely hope that in the future, powerful people will be prohibited from controlling, guiding and maintaining their personal settings through marketing, so that public figures can be presented to the public in their true colors and the facts can be seen by people. I also feel that I have a social responsibility to make sure that others will not unconsciously follow in my footsteps and have the same experience as me. Finally, regarding crowding out people, I will not choose to be friends or not because of who I am, and I don't get my present life by "relying on him". In the future, I don't need and won't suffer any humiliation in order to get the living expenses from him (although I deserve it, no thanks). I can raise my children by my own efforts. You said you hoped I wouldn't ruin your acting career. What I want to say is that I never thought of doing this, so it makes me sad to have to go this far. However, if your acting career is affected, it is your own choice, not mine. I hope we can all be reborn and be well. You can get rid of unhealthy habits of body and mind and concentrate on making music. Fame and objects can't bring you real happiness, but only lead you to the bottomless abyss. . . I hope you can be honest with yourself, don't care about the worldly vision, and be with the right person. From now on, I will be kind to myself, I will be reborn, and I will be the strongest support and the best example for the children, so that they can know that even if their lives fall to the bottom, they can stand up again on their own. Sometimes go to the end of the water to seek the source, or sit and watch the ever-changing clouds rise. In the abyss, every day after today will only get better and better. This sentence encourages yourself and all you who are experiencing the hardships of life. May we believe that life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of your reaction to it, no matter what we have experienced.

? The next days will not be easy, but I will rely on God and the light in the depths of the tunnel, as well as everyone who is with me, and walk bravely step by step. If you are experiencing it, I hope we can share it and give each other strength. Thank you for taking the time to read the whole article. I hope this article can inspire and make sense to your life. Maybe this is also the meaning of my experience.