I received a text message from my father at four o'clock in the morning, telling me to stay away from Phoenix Man. What should I do?

"When you grow up, you will find that the so-called quiet years are just the bowl of hot soup at home and the lamp that is always on for you."

When you reach a certain age, see the truth of life clearly and taste the coldness of the world, you will understand that home will always be your safe haven.

What is home?

Home is where parents are.

0 1

During the Spring Festival, hi, mom caught fire in Jialing and Zhangjia.

The film tells an ordinary family story about the love and regret between mother and daughter.

However, it is such an ordinary family story that makes countless people scream and cry.

Why?

Because most children have deep regrets for their parents. The repeated bridge in the film touched the pain point that people are eager to make up.

In real life, many young people can't understand their parents.

Because everyone's cognition has limitations. A lot of things are hard for you to understand before you are really moved.

Parents say that the truth of life needs you to experience something before you can see clearly.

When you were young, you always thought your parents were snobbish, vain and pedantic.

You are tired of their preaching and disgusted with their control over your life. So, you resist, break free, swear. ...

When you have experienced something and become mature, you will find that most of what your parents said is right.

Only then do you really understand your parents. A person always has to experience pain to understand the love of his parents; You have to hit the south wall to understand your parents' good intentions.

02

In Zhihu, a girl asked: My mother always wants to control my life. She won't let me marry for love. What should I do?

The following someone replied:

"Do you think your life is under control? In fact, on the contrary, my mother wants to make your life out of control. Mother's control, many times, as long as you cry, as long as you make trouble, or even as long as you coquetry, will disappear.

However, once you don't listen to your mother, the ups and downs of life in the future will hit you mercilessly. "

Others replied:

"I didn't understand why my mother wouldn't let me get married. Now I understand that my mother doesn't want me to go to Wan Li Road, but she knows that love is the most unreliable thing in the world and she doesn't want me to take risks. "

Some people say that if a woman marries far away, it will be miserable if she marries ten times. Others say that good women don't marry phoenix men.

Some people say that marriage needs to be appropriate; Others say that a marriage without parents' blessing will not be happy.

Although these statements are not necessarily correct, they are said because these things are consistent with high probability events.

However, there are always some young girls who disdain such a statement. They feel that with love to protect themselves, they can overcome all the difficulties in the world.

But the result is often counterproductive.

03

I saw a post about long-distance love on the forum.

Netizen Ye Yao (pseudonym) said that she married Phoenix Man for Ehime. After three years of suffering, she finally found the courage to end her marriage in her father's text message at 4 am.

Ye Yao and her husband Yang Kuo (a pseudonym) are college alumni.

After graduating from Ye Yao University, I returned to my hometown to work. Two years later, Yang Kuo, who worked hard in a big city, defected.

While helping Yang Kuo find a job and rent a house, Ye Yao began to fall in love with him. After more than two years of communication, their relationship gradually stabilized, and Ye Yao took him home to meet his parents.

Ye Yao also has a younger brother. His parents are doing business in the local area, and his family is not bad.

When we had dinner together, my mother was firmly opposed to their continued contact when she learned about Yang Kuo's family background. My father, also from the countryside, had a general impression of Yang Kuo, but he didn't say anything.

Ye Yao doesn't have a good relationship with her mother at ordinary times. She always thinks her mother is eccentric.

After his mother objected, Ye Yao had a big fight with her. Later, my mother said that marriage was ok, and Yang Kuo must have a wedding room, and then she received a bride price of 6,543,800 yuan+8,000 yuan.

Ye Yao was furious. She thinks that her mother doesn't like poor families in Yang Kuo, and she deliberately makes things difficult for her.

What makes her even more angry is that her father, who has always remained neutral, has also been drawn into the same camp by her mother. Father said, we are against you to associate with him, really not because he is "poor", there are many reasons.

Even my brother objected.

04

Ye Yao and his parents were deadlocked for a while, but Yang Kuo didn't want to spend time. He decided to go back to his hometown and develop in the provincial capital.

So Ye Yao married him without hesitation, and resigned to leave with him.

Mom said you would regret it, and then you had to break up with her.

When my father saw this, he could only sigh, privately transferred 50,000 yuan to her, and then watched her embark on the road of distant marriage.

Zhou Zeng said: "A good marriage is a person, and a bad marriage is hell."

Unfortunately, Ye Yao, who is far away from home, has an unhappy marriage.

Yang Kuo is ambitious, but he has made slow progress in his career. After the failure, he blamed Ye Yao for letting him down and often used "cold violence" against her.

Especially after my mother-in-law came. All kinds of bad things followed. Poor days and different lifestyles made Ye Yao want to cry.

There is a saying that your life now may not be what you want, but you definitely asked for it.

Ye Yao know, chose this road, kneeling also want to go on. What's more, she has broken her retreat.

But something even more devastating happened to her.

05

When they first got married, Ye Yao and Yang Kuo had unstable jobs, and they had no plans to have children. However, in the past year or so, urged by her mother-in-law, Ye Yao, who is actively pregnant, has never been pregnant.

Ye Yao really can't stand it. Mother-in-law cooks bitter herbs for her every day, and she goes to gynecology for a physical examination. No big problem.

I want Yang Kuo to have a check-up, but he always refuses to go, just asking her to drink a few more courses of herbs.

However, her mother-in-law's face became more and more ugly, and finally she couldn't hold on.

One night, when she had a nervous breakdown, she couldn't help dialing her father's phone.

Father heard her sobbing and understood everything at once. At four o'clock in the morning, her father sent her a message:

"Dad didn't sleep all night. After careful consideration, I gave birth to you, brought you up and advised you to get married, not to let you taste the hardships of the world, nor to let you continue the incense, but to let you experience your own happiness.

I always thought that the baby was happy, but I didn't expect my daughter to learn to report good news and not worry. Dad is extremely guilty that he didn't take good care of my daughter and didn't always pay attention to your state.

My daughter, who was pampered and brought up by me, has seen the ugliness of the world in just three years and suffered for more than 20 years. Ask dad to come back to pick you up after waking up. "

At 4am, his father's short message gave Ye Yao the courage to go home and end his marriage.

Early the next morning, her parents and younger brother drove to pick her up. Mother hugged her, tears streaming down her face.

Ye Yao also cried his eyes red and said, "Mom, I was wrong. He is really not a potential stock. "

Mom said, "Silly girl, even if he is a potential stock, mom is not rare. Compared with your future prosperity, my mother hopes that your life will be safe and smooth. "

06

Most mothers in the world are the same.

In Hi, Mom, Jia Ling thought that his mother Li Huanying would want a daughter who "went to the United States to study and be a director with a monthly salary of 80,000".

Unexpectedly, Li Huanying said, "My future daughter, I just want her to be healthy and happy."

Parents' expectations of their children are simple. They want their children to live a happy life.

In order to make their children live a smooth life, they will try their best to make their children walk on the road with a high probability of stability.

Although they may have hit you, scolded you and said hurtful things to you because of your rebellion, they will certainly protect you when you encounter wind and rain.

Parents will always be your best and most solid haven.