After a relationship breaks up, how to resolve the situation when your ex does not reply to messages?

1. Unable to face the past

It doesn’t mean that your ex doesn’t reply to your messages, which doesn’t give you any room to save yourself. Many people have also been deleted and blocked after breaking up. The main reason is that you keep sending messages to disturb the other party, but even though your previous ex did not reply, he was still harassed by you and did not block or delete you. This also shows that he still has some expectations for you and does not want to send you messages. The road is blocked. Friends who need help with emotional problems, please leave me a message and I will help you.

But he doesn’t reply to you because he is still indifferent to you. Maybe some of your words and actions have hurt her in the past, making it difficult for her to let go, unwilling to pay attention to her, and unwilling to deal with the pain. memories.

At this time, you are like a mirror. Every time he sees you, he will think of his own grievances and unsightlyness, so he chooses to avoid it. This is a natural reflection. In fact, I also think of him. I don't know if she should do this, let alone how long she will hide. So at this time it all depends on who can persist to the end.

Perhaps one day you finally arouse the other person's negative emotions, and the other person will vent everything. This is actually a very important turning point in retention. If you can properly comfort the other person's feelings, that will be a good opportunity for reconciliation. If you are led astray by your mentality again, your conflicts will worsen, and you may lose your last chance to stay.

2. Worry after making the same mistake again and again after breaking up

Not all the parties who actively initiate the breakup will get rid of it. Sometimes they will also doubt whether it is right to break up, and they will also consider it. Do you want to get back together, and the other person also knows that he wants to reconcile, but he is cold to you, rejects you again and again, and still can't let you go. But the girl's mentality has not changed because she still hasn't seen your change.

She can’t see any expectations from you, or feels that your changes are just hidden. She doesn’t know if you have thought about your own problems, and she is not sure whether the two of you will be together after giving you a chance. Wrong again and again. So I don’t want to give no chance at all, but I am also afraid of giving a little chance. This is the conflicting psychology of the other party in the retention process.

It is true that there are many people who are unable to change the status quo from the source and have a complex approach to solving intimate relationships. After all, they still cannot understand each other and cannot find a better way to get along. In the end, they may torture each other. Of course, if you want him to open his mouth, you have to reassure him first.

3. If you push too hard, everyone will feel too demanding.

Put too much pressure on girls. Many retainers chat with their exes and always show an excessive sense of need. This sense of need can give the ex a signal that as long as he relaxes a little, he will face the endless entanglement again.

If this is the case, then he will be very cautious when replying to you, and may even refuse to reply to you because he is afraid that you will get entangled. All information. Therefore, you must control your sense of need and change the chat topics from shallow to deep, which will be much better.

Currently, many people are confused and just can’t figure out why their previous ex didn’t reply to messages. After a period of waiting, they will finally give themselves a seemingly reasonable explanation: He doesn’t like me anymore, he’s bored. I. This is essentially asking for self-disgrace. Speaking of which, if you still don’t understand, you can chat with me directly in private. I will use practical experience summarized from thousands of examples to tell you what to do.

Therefore, many retainers subconsciously think that their ex’s failure to reply to his messages means that they don’t care about him, and that she is no longer important. However, in order to protect themselves from being harmed by others, many retainers will form a self-protection system in the form of complete denial. But pretending not to care, but really caring about the relationship is also a kind of harm.

First of all, you have to realize that if you don't reply, you are not important. Not replying doesn't mean that he doesn't love you anymore. Not replying was an interactive behavior that I couldn't accept. There is a word called trauma. The formal understanding of trauma by psychologists and psychiatrists is that it is an important life-threatening event caused by an emergency that exceeds the scope of daily experience and can cause serious distress to almost anyone.

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