Letter from a divorced mother to her children

Sometimes, parents divorce is a helpless thing. Although the children are hurt, the mother, as a woman, is hurt even more. Below I have compiled letters from divorced mothers to their children. You are welcome to read them.

Sample letter from a divorced mother to her children

Dear child:

Although your mother is not by your side, she misses you and cares about you all the time. , bless you!

Whenever I see another holiday coming, my mother hopes that you can come to me and enjoy the happiness of mother and child. However, due to your father's arbitrary interference, he threatened and suppressed you by not giving you living expenses. He even said: "I spent money on you, but you didn't listen to me." ?

In this way, he deprived us of the rights we should have between mother and child, and you are not allowed to come. You are very distressed. Son, your parents' divorce puts you in a dilemma. You listen to your father because you are afraid that your mother will be sad. If you come to see your mother, your father will gnash his teeth and scold you. I feel very sad that your father uses money to measure family affection. Mom understands how much you miss me and how much you care about your mother. As long as you are not wronged and live a happy life, mother will help you with anything. I hope you won't quarrel with your father because of your mother. For the sake of your studies and your future, let's compromise and let him think you are a good and obedient child. As long as you have mother in your heart, mother will be satisfied.

My child, you won the favor of your teachers and the praise of your classmates at school. You are a filial and reasonable child in your mother's heart. Do you still remember? When your father and I were arguing about getting a divorce, one morning, when my mother and father went to the cadres for review, you brought the porridge from home to me with a thermos cup and said pitifully: "Mom?" , you haven’t had breakfast yet, please eat it quickly!?

Do you still remember? When your father and I were separated, you once held me sadly at my grandma’s house and said:? I don’t have a home anymore, mom, don’t leave me?

Son, do you know how heartbroken your mom was when she heard what you said? It’s not that mom doesn’t love you, it’s that her fate with your dad is over, just like If a mirror is broken, it cannot be restored to its original state.

Do you know? I have cried so much that my pillow and quilt were wet on countless nights because I missed you. Sometimes when I saw the scenes on TV, I would be moved by the scene and cry bitterly.

However, because your dad and I divorced, your grades suddenly dropped from the top ten in the class to the twenty-ninth. When I found out, I was so worried that I couldn't sleep all night. The next day, I hurriedly found your class teacher, let her know your situation, and asked her to warm you with more care. I talked to you from the bottom of my heart again, saying: Although your parents have divorced, they will still love you as deeply as before, and you can still get the care and love of your parents as always. I want you to focus on studying.

What pains me the most is what you said: ?I don’t have complete parental love, and the pain is so painful that life is worse than death!?

I can understand from your words You are not happy with your father. You can say such disheartening words at such a young age. I am really heartbroken when I hear it. Thousands of arrows pierce my heart!

I remember the year I had a car accident, you It was summer vacation, and you came to me despite my father's objections. You have been serving me for a week, and you have not shown that you are dirty at all. You have never cooked on the stove, but you will also start to learn to cook for your mother. Mom was so touched, but also felt deeply guilty!

I remember that when I couldn’t think about it and had no courage to face life, once, I came to visit you at school. When you noticed from my words, you were filled with tears. Tears said: "Mom, please don't think too hard. If something happens to my mother, I won't study." ?

I was so bitter and sad at the time, and I felt endless helplessness facing you, because I was helpless to you. I could neither provide financial support nor give you a complete family happiness. Thinking about it all the way, your father and I divorced, and you were the one who suffered the most. You, who were originally lively, became taciturn, which cast a shadow and a heavy blow on your young mind.

You said you didn’t like the home with your stepmother. I know your helplessness and depression, and I also know that you dare to be angry but dare not speak out. I once advised you to be patient, to have a good relationship with your stepmother, and not to embarrass your father.

My child, my mother is sorry for you. She failed to maintain the marriage with your father, which shattered the family that should have given you happiness, and also caused great trauma to your heart. . Sometimes, I think: Why couldn't I bear the grievance for you and not take the path of divorce? My dear son, how can mother make up for the damage caused to your soul by your father and I's divorce?

A few years have passed in the blink of an eye, and now you are a young man. You are very motivated and say: "I want to focus all my energy on studying and prepare for the college entrance examination." ?

Son, how happy my mother is after hearing this! My son has grown up and is more sensible. My mother is here to bless you and believe that you will achieve excellent results and have a wonderful future. The future is waiting for you!

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When this letter comes to you, you will be 11 years old. In fact, my mother thinks of you almost every day. What do you think of my son now? I couldn’t bear it many times and ran to my son no matter how far or how tired I was. But my son, you are already so old, and your mother doesn’t know what to say to you anymore when she comes to your side. The separation between your father and I has caused great harm to my son, and now my mother can’t accompany you every day. You are together, and my mother is also very sad. With your son being so young, you have to solve everything by yourself. My mother does not cook for you at home every day, and she does not take care of my son's daily life every day. Every time I think of this, my mother's heart goes crazy. Like a knife cutting. I really hope that my son will slowly heal some of the scars over time, but the pain of being severed from the mother-child relationship has always been with mom, and it has left a shadow in your heart. I don’t want to tell you and I can’t tell you whether everything my mother did is right or wrong. This is probably the reason why my mother is silent. It would be better for my son to just choose a day when I can be with you now.

There is an article that talks about these two words: "life" and "livelihood". Son, can you tell the difference between them? Life is about pursuing meaning. It is important to understand that how a person lives is the most important, and livelihood is just a means to continue living. The adults ask you to study hard so that your future life will be more exciting and meaningful. However, studying is not just about simply coping with exams. It also requires you to improve your personality when you have the opportunity to get along with classmates, get along with each other in a friendly and generous manner, do not care about small gains and losses, be sure to have high aspirations, and at the same time continue to make progress on the path of knowledge exploration. , have fun. Mom knows that you didn’t do well in the English test last semester, so she chose CC English School for tutoring. Son, did it help you? My son is already very good at communication. I hope that my son will study well in various subjects. The language of the country, when the time comes, you will be able to become a member of the Diplomatic Association. Son, are you confident?

My mother saw a psychology expert on TV talking about her children’s education. He got along with his children. Very good, respect your children very much. Their children are nearsighted, and they are very worried. They want their children to watch less TV and not be in front of the computer all the time. However, at the age when children are seeking knowledge, they need a lot of cultural information. Where does it come from? They thought of the radio. , so they bought the best radio at that time for their children. The children heard their favorite historical stories, current affairs news, foreign language teaching, etc. from the radio, and gained a lot. This incident also inspired my mother to use less eyes and more ears, so she also decided to give you a portable repeater that can listen to words in various languages. Ask him to spend your free time with you and increase your knowledge.

But there is a premise: you can’t listen on the road, it’s not safe, you can’t listen in class, and you can’t listen before your homework is completed. It can’t affect your study, you know?

Son, don’t you know that you listen carefully in class? Regardless of whether you already understand what the teacher is saying in class, you should still listen carefully and don't make any small moves, you know? When a teacher teaches students, it is the teacher who is working and laboring. If you listen carefully, you respect the teacher. The embodiment of cherishing the fruits of teachers' labor. When each of us lives in this world, we have to deal with others, and we must have the concept of respecting others to gain respect from others.

Mom hasn’t written to you for a long time and it’s hard to be with my son every day. Mom has been very busy at work. You are my mother’s son. Don’t doubt your mother’s love for you at any time, because you don’t Being by your mother's side makes her very concerned and worried about you. She is afraid that you will be unhappy, afraid that you will be wronged without anyone to tell you, afraid that you will lose interest in learning, and even more afraid that you will get sick and suffer.

Son, there are ups and downs on the road of life. Everyone has to go through it and experience it. Mom told you that you preached in Bing Xin’s collection of essays. Bing Xin once wrote this sentence in the article "Lotus": ? Mother! You are the lotus leaf and I am the red lotus. When the raindrops in my heart come, except you, who is my shelter under the unobstructed sky? Yes, son, although your mother is not by your side, when you are sad, you must know that your mother is always watching you. No matter how you are, no matter when, your mother will always be your protector.

Son, your mother left you, but you have a father by your side. He took care of you since you were a child, and his love for you is no less than that of your mother. I often see you and know that you The relationship is also very good, which is the most gratifying thing for my mother. You are about to grow up to be a man. You must learn to respect and love your father and speak to him well. If your father finds another mother, you must also respect her. If there is a family together, they must love each other so that everyone can be together. will be happier.

Every thing has two sides. Life gives you hardships, but it will make you more mature. Maybe you still can’t understand these truths. Mom, as long as you know, nothing will be so bad. , it’s not a big deal, I didn’t handle this matter well, I had a conflict with my classmates, I failed in my studies, it doesn’t matter, I know what aspects I didn’t do well, I will definitely do better next time than this time, it’s me Correct the mistakes. This is how people progress and grow little by little.

Okay, that’s all for this time. Remember to ask for leave on the afternoon of your birthday. Mom is waiting for you in the office!

I love you, mom

20xx May 31

Sample letter from a divorced mother to her children Part 3

Dear son:

At 10:40 pm, you finally fell asleep and watched Your childish, cute and thin face reflects the difficulty in falling asleep and myopia caused by your poor congenital constitution. . . My mother said in her heart ten thousand times: I was wrong, I was wrong, I was wrong. . . . . .

Where did I go wrong? Maybe I shouldn’t have quarreled with my mother when she was 7 months pregnant with you, which caused me to have a fetal movement. Do you remember? You were in your mother’s belly that night. You kept moving, and your mother was frightened. She quietly talked to you alone, sang to you, touched you gently, and told you that she loved you. It wasn’t until the early hours of the morning that you slowly became quiet. Fortunately, we were all fine. Should my mother leave this person as soon as possible who conceived and gave birth to a child but didn’t know how to cherish him?

Where did I go wrong? Maybe I shouldn’t have quarreled with him during confinement. My mother’s milk was not enough in the first place. , this quarrel makes you angry, your milk supply is less, and you cry often, probably because you haven’t eaten enough. But my mother is also a stubborn mother. After listening to the doctor’s words, she stubbornly wanted to breastfeed exclusively, but he laughed at me and said that I was reluctant to part with it. Giving you milk powder, maybe only he can say this. Mom will give everything including her life for you, let alone milk powder. . .

This is a man who doesn’t understand his mother so well, and he is your father who has lived with me for so long! Mom should leave this man who doesn’t understand his wife so much and quarreled with her during her confinement period over a trivial matter. Human?

Where did I go wrong? Maybe I shouldn’t have harmed your five brothers and sisters, five of them, and my mother also suffered from the disease. Mom deserves it, she is an executioner. But my mother misses them so much, loves them as much as she loves you. She really wants to have another child of her own. When she was lying on the operating table with tears in her eyes for the last time, she even thought that if someone could give it to me. Promise: Give birth to the child and I will solve other problems. Mom has no hesitation once defined, fuck Planned Parenthood, and fuck men who don’t take on the role of cowards. I will use everything I have to repay the people who saved my children and me. Unfortunately it's just imagination. Should my mother leave this person as soon as possible?

Where did I go wrong? Perhaps the root cause is that my mother was young and ignorant, didn’t have a pair of discerning eyes, and didn’t choose the right person. . The environment in which my mother grew up determines that she is a stubborn or even paranoid, innocent or even ignorant, competitive and selfish little woman. At that time, my mother should choose a wise, broad-minded, tolerant, responsible and capable woman. Unfortunately, I chose to be a narrow-minded, unforgiving, irresponsible, thoughtless person who is as ignorant as my mother. That's why my mother has been so miserable for the past 10 years. When we were very poor and had nothing, my mother chose to go to work. She would leave early in the morning and come home late every day while squeezing the bus and being eaten by others. . . When I was working in the company, I was framed and wrongly accused because of jealousy. . . At that time, I was only thinking about this family. At that time, I should have thought that men should be the backbone of the family and the ones who work hard should be men. It's a pity that my mother didn't understand at that time, she only knew that she had to be strong. After having you, my mother doesn’t want to or can’t fight anymore, so just leave it to him and let it be fate. No matter whether you are rich or poor, I will be happy as long as I watch you every day. My mother is a traditional little woman who couldn’t be more ordinary. But he thought he was very busy recently and I was very free, so he just cooked the dumplings. Should my mother leave this irresponsible, self-righteous, narrow-minded and stingy person earlier?

Maybe we are not wrong, but the marriage between these two people is wrong. In the past, when you were younger, we also had a divorce. By then you were already very sensible. You cried and asked us not to divorce. You said that you loved your mother and your father. You know? When you speak so sensibly, my mother feels that she is really wrong. This time my mother made up her mind. Leaving him was a relief for both him and me. There was no need to get into trouble over trivial matters, or to fight in a cold war and delay each other's lives.

However, my dear son, my mother is going to hide it from you this time because she doesn’t want you to be too sad. She will tell you slowly when you are older. Mom also wants to tell you that no matter how the world changes, her love for you will never change!

　XXX

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Divorced mother gives her children Letter Sample Part 4

Egg:

Long time no see, I miss you very much.

This word is so familiar. When I was thirteen years old, I wrote a letter to my good friend who transferred to another school, and I started with the same sentence. It's just that when I wrote this sentence, I was still a little proud and felt that I was so talented. It's completely different from the mood I am writing to you now. My understanding of the world at that time was completely different from what it is today.

That year, my deskmate asked me what kind of boyfriend I was looking for. I shyly and honestly told her that he should be tall, handsome, melancholy and talented.

Ten years later, I met your father. Except that he was not melancholy enough, he met all the standards. So we fell in love, five years later we got married, and another five years later, when you were three, we divorced.

It sounds quite calm to say this, but how should I describe the thrilling process? It’s like I carefully built a castle on the beach and regarded it as the most important work in my life, but a The tsunami swept it away with a roar, and all my hard work was in vain. More importantly, my favorite doll in the castle was also washed away. In a blink of an eye, it disappeared without a trace.

That doll is you, Dandan.

The original agreement between me and my father was that your custody rights would belong to him. You would stay with him during the weekdays, and I would take you back during holidays. This was the only foolproof plan that a stupid mother like me could think of at the time. I thought I could bear it without seeing you for five days at most.

But less than a month after the divorce, grandma took you to your hometown in Xiamen. If I want to see you, I have to fly three thousand kilometers. This distance is too far, so far that I haven't seen you for almost seven months.

Seven months is an unimaginably long time for you and me who have never been separated for a day before.

I often have hallucinations these days. When I am cooking, I will hear the sound of you playing with toys in the living room. When I pass by the bathroom, I feel like you are curled up into a small ball and sitting on the toilet. When I see snack bags in the corridor, I immediately wonder if you have come back to see me.

For these two hundred nights, I needed the help of sleeping pills every day to fall asleep. However, even though the dosage gradually increased, I would still wake up in the early morning, thinking about you in a strange city and eating strange meals. , go to a strange kindergarten, surrounded by strangers who speak a strange language, will you be happy? Will you miss your mother?

I put the smiling bear you left behind when you left. Every time I wake up late at night, I vaguely see it smiling at me in the dark. I seem to see you holding my face with your fleshy little hands and saying, Mom, be happy. oh.

Dandan, my mother is not a weak person. For more than half a year after the divorce, my mother has been trying to make herself happy and start a new life. She has done many things. Mom, I haven’t seen you for a long time and miss you very much.

Last month my colleague went to Xiamen on a business trip and promised me to take time to see you. I thanked her profusely, then visited a dozen toy stores and bought you a set of genuine Pooh Land models.

Later, my colleague came back and said that the gift was delivered and that you liked it very much. My heart almost jumped out of the building and I asked her how you were. She said with a smile: Very dark, very fat, like a little bandit.

I also laughed, and I couldn’t stop crying while laughing.

I sent a text message to my father, please, if you come back, let me see you no matter what.

He agreed.

Yesterday, my mother went on a blind date again. He is a very good uncle, young, sunny and cheerful. I listened to him talk about zodiac signs and luxury cars all afternoon at Starbucks. Although I felt something was wrong, I remained patient enough. At the end of the conversation, a child stood outside the window curiously and looked in. I carefully told the uncle that you are about the same age. He was stunned for a moment, his eyes showing some vigilance and confusion.

What was wrong in my heart gradually became clearer and magnified. Yes, he is still young and does not understand what it means for a mother to throw her child away. It is a wound that will never scar, it will sting at any time, fester at any time, and bring tears to my heart at any time.

I have met many people these days, lawyers, police, professors, bosses, poor, rich, high-quality and low-quality. I feel that something is wrong. When facing them, I am always inexplicably picky and wary. I'm afraid that they won't treat me well, or that they won't treat you well. Subconsciously, I always regard the other person as an opponent instead of a partner. I can't find the feeling of falling in love with my father back then. Maybe I'm getting old, and no matter how good my wishes are, an old tree in autumn can no longer bear as big a fruit as it does in summer.

But I still patiently went to see them one by one. I had to build a stronger castle again. This time, I couldn’t be hasty.

Finally, after 222 days of separation, I have been waiting for the biggest good news of the year: you are back.

When my father asked me to go to the playground to meet you, I felt all the blood in my body rushing to my head. I put down everything I was doing and drove to the amusement park. Driving to 100 miles in the city is my new record.

You were standing on the top of the slide, preparing to slide down. When you saw me, you were stunned for a moment, as if you were facing the most familiar stranger.

Dandan! Come down quickly! I shouted to you, but my voice was shaking badly.

You slid down a little doubtfully and walked towards me consciously. You have gained weight and walk with your head held high, like a little fat duck. I hugged you and burst into tears.

About a minute later, you finally found the feeling of mother. You became happy, extremely happy, lying on me and biting me. You said, Mom, I thought you were dead.

I grinned and said, I’m not dead.

Then when will you die? You ask seriously.

If nothing happens, he won’t die in a while. I said.

Then I can always be with you? You asked happily.

I smiled at you with difficulty, speechless.

In fact, I really want to tell you like a foreigner, your father and mother just live separately, you just have an extra family, and there will be another father and another mother in the future, and we will all love you very much.

But to be honest, I can’t even deceive myself with these words. This is not in line with China's national conditions. The education of the elderly, the comments of neighbors, and the eyes of classmates and teachers will always surround you in an unusual atmosphere.

I owe you so much, and this debt can never be made up.

I thought of this when I got divorced, but in the face of my grandma’s harshness and cunning, and my father’s laziness and indifference, in those days when I was chopping wires with a kitchen knife, sparks and lightning all the way, I lost the courage to continue.

When I got home, I reported to my grandma as soon as I entered the door: I saw Dandan.

As expected, grandma’s eyes immediately widened and she didn’t recover for a long time. She stared until her eye circles were red. She opened her mouth several times before she uttered: Eggs, are they growing?

I feel very sad. She is grandma, why doesn’t she miss you? She has made so many quilts for you and wiped your butt so many times in the past three years. If you have a little red spot on your face, she will be so worried that she can’t sleep all night.

She just didn’t say it. She thought that if she didn’t say it, my life would be easier.

I described your current situation in detail, from the style and texture of your clothes to the length of your hair and nails. After talking for a long time, grandma was still not satisfied. Finally, I finally plucked up the courage to say with a little embarrassment, can you tell me? Talk to his father, let Dandan stay here for a day tomorrow? Even the whole morning is fine.

With the thought that risking my life would result in rejection, I called my dad. He hesitated and said, let me try.

I know that he is afraid that grandma will disapprove.

That night, the sleeping pills stopped working again. I listened to my grandma going to the bathroom every ten minutes, and I felt extremely uneasy. The next morning, we got up as usual, tidied the room, and had breakfast, but no one dared to mention you.

Finally, dad called and asked me to go downstairs to pick you up. I ran downstairs in ecstasy, thanked my father sincerely, and hugged you. I was happier than picking up a gold bar.

You haven’t been to grandma’s house for a long time. As soon as you walked in, you felt like Sun Wukong back in Huaguo Mountain, jumping around like a fish in water. Grandma couldn't get enough of you, and she was tired of it all morning. When she was cooking at noon, she was still twisting her head at a right angle toward the living room, looking at you.

During the meal, she said, I really want to thank dad for sending you back. In fact, dad is a good man.

I also admit that my father is a good person. When I married him, I thought he was kind. However, for a marriage, kindness alone is not enough. He also needs to be good at handling the relationship between his wife and mother, know how to shoulder a man's family responsibilities, and learn to communicate and resolve various conflicts in a timely manner.

When the old sesame seeds and rotten millet turned over, my grandma criticized me again, saying that I had a bad temper and was too serious about small things. I admit this too.

After the divorce, I never stopped reflecting. I knew that the failure of this marriage was not my father’s fault alone.

In the evening, when I handed you back to your father, I found him sleeping in the car. It turned out that he hadn't left since morning and had been waiting here all day.

I suddenly felt a little moved in my heart, but I still teased him: I thought you were going to meet Chaihuo Girl. ?Chai Huo Niu is my father’s colleague and a young girl from Xiamen who just graduated. The trigger of our divorce was the text message she sent to my father: “I miss you so much.”

Dad smiled bitterly and said, "There is really nothing wrong with us. It's really just her wishful thinking."

I somewhat believe it. Now that things have happened, there is no need for him to lie to me. Maybe I really misunderstood, misunderstood him and Chai Huo Niu, misunderstood the few times he stayed out all night, and misunderstood the smell of perfume on his body.

After careful consideration, I decided to talk to my grandma and ask her not to take you to Xiamen again. If she is just angry with me, there is really no need to punish me by tormenting you.

Grandma’s attitude was beyond my expectation. She said, for the past six months, you have been clamoring for your mother all day long, and your father is always sighing, which makes her feel really uncomfortable. In this marriage, she is a mother-in-law for the first time, and I am a daughter-in-law for the first time. Both of them are inexperienced, and both have their own imperfections. If I am willing, she hopes that we can get back together, sum up the experience and lessons, and have a good time. Live life.

I was shocked. It’s not that I hadn’t thought about getting back together, but no matter how much I thought about it, I felt that it was completely impossible.

Of course, I am also very happy because grandma promised not to take you away again.

I searched hard to find the best kindergarten for you. My father and I both went there on the day of the report. When filling in the parents’ information, I hesitated and wrote down both my parents’ names. I don’t want the kindergarten teachers and children to know that only half of your home is left.

Dad took the form to hand in, and I noticed that he was staring at that column the whole way.

This time, Dad’s behavior was very different from before. He took the initiative to take on most things. In the past, he would blame all these things on me.

We invited your teacher to dinner at noon. She repeatedly praised you for being smart and sensible, your father for being excellent, your mother for being beautiful, and that we are an enviable and happy family. I was in a daze for a moment, as if time had returned to a year ago. Well, it’s been almost a year and this is the first time our family of three has sat down to eat together.

But why do I feel so familiar, so solid, so intimate.

On the way back, you fell asleep in my arms. While driving, my father pretended to be casual and asked me if I had found anything better. I said that this time I wanted to find someone who was close to me. It didn’t matter if he was ugly or poor. As long as he knew how to be cold and hot, he knew how to love others, and he wouldn’t be arrogant and be the boss of the family.

Dad was silent for a while and said: I did not do well enough before and did not take on the responsibilities of a man. Maybe I am still young and don’t know how to live my life? Why don’t you give me a chance and take a look at me? An expression of repentance?

The circles in my eyes suddenly became hot, and as soon as I lowered my head, tears fell on your sleeping little face.

Dad reached out and handed over a tissue, and my tears became more intense. You don’t know how valuable this small gesture is. For so many years, he has always stretched out his hands for food and clothing, and opened his mouth. The attitude of the Crown Prince is entrenched in my life.

I wiped away my tears and looked out the window, and suddenly I found that the sky washed by tears was so bright and blue.

Our car was speeding on the way home. I held you tightly in my arms, feeling extremely at ease.

In fact, I have always known that the model that can maximize our happiness is for the three of us to be together. It's just that when it comes to our first marriage in life, my father and I are both too idealistic and have too high expectations for each other. We always ask and take without knowing how to be grateful and contented, and we tolerate and give in, so we let the small conflicts expand. Let the imaginary suspicions come true, and then collapse in the chaotic days, thinking that you can no longer survive.

And when we all stop and choose to rethink in greater pain, we discover the reality of the world and our own absurdity.

Thank you for this pain, it lets us know what we once had.

Fortunately, we still have a chance to look back.

Dear Dandan, sleep well, we will be home soon.

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