Why did the boy you were having an affair with suddenly stop contacting you?

The reason for the sudden cooling of ambiguity is nothing more than these points:

No. 1

Walk in? Friendship zone?

Many times, both boys and girls will associate with other objects while interacting with one person. But this is definitely not a playboy, but

Make the best choice among the known options? .

Therefore, when a boy's attitude towards you drops sharply, it is probably because you have fallen into his last option.

When you can't surpass the sense of dependence and heart movement brought by other girls in this ambiguous relationship with boys, boys will choose other girls who can meet these requirements.

When he chooses an object, he will automatically keep his distance from other ambiguous objects, classify them into the friendship zone, and then become less active towards them.

second

Overexposure? A sense of need?

Some girls, as long as they like a boy, try their best to be nice to him.

Boys go to play basketball and follow behind to help him bring towels and water; Boys get up early to go to class, and she buys breakfast to help him occupy a seat in advance; When a boy is sick, she quickly cooks love porridge and buys medicine to send to his dormitory downstairs: as long as a boy asks her out, she will definitely push everything away.

This kind? What must he do? It not only makes boys feel too stressed, but also makes boys feel that they have no desire to conquer.

third place

Too early to enter? Role?

Many times, in ambiguity, girls will unconsciously bring themselves into each other? The character's girlfriend.

Although the relationship between the two has not been formally established, they began to exercise their girlfriend rights prematurely. Boys lose their temper when they go out to play with other girls. If boys don't reply to their messages, they will ask what they are doing.

You know, such a move beyond the relationship level will not only make the boy put pressure on your future relationship, but also make him resist you.

When boys feel pressure and resistance to you and your relationship, they naturally don't want to continue to be ambiguous with you.

fourth

Lead to cognitive bias

Why do boys suddenly give you the cold shoulder?

In fact, many times, we like a person for the first time, just like that imagination? Ideal lover? .

When you first came into contact with him, the image you showed was too beautiful, but in the process of getting in touch with you gradually, when the other person found that there was a big gap between you in reality and the person who impressed him at the beginning, he would feel lost and think that you were not the person he liked at the beginning.

Therefore, when interacting with the opposite sex, don't push yourself too hard at the beginning, show yourself too perfect, and the gap with yourself in reality is too big.

Instead of letting the other person suddenly fall from the cloud to the bottom, let the other person slowly discover your advantages, because he is very powerful and likes you.

Fifth place

Ignore the signal of boys' promotion relationship many times

Sometimes boys are suddenly cold, not because they don't like girls or are dissatisfied with their performance.

But because of their poor sincerity, they were ignored, and felt that girls didn't really want to be with themselves at all.

Think back, when you were dating boys, did you ever have such a similar scene?

The boy said:? Then will you be my girlfriend? ?

And your response is:? That depends on your performance. ?

Or:? What are the advantages of being your girlfriend? ? This ambiguous reply, but there is no formal boy's request.

After doing this for a long time, boys may think that you just want to be ambiguous and don't want to enter a relationship, so they will stop loss, keep their distance from you and remain cold.

Although ambiguity is a necessary process of a beautiful love, we should also pay attention to discretion and self-expression when we are ambiguous.

Ambiguity is good, it is to open the curtains and embrace the heart, ambiguity is wrong, but it is to torture each other and pass by.