Number one ex-wife SMS interception

At 5 am on September 7th, Su Xiangmao, a talented programmer worth tens of millions, committed suicide by jumping off a building because he couldn't bear the extortion of his ex-wife.

The death of programmer Su Xiangmao has aroused great concern of the whole society and been widely discussed. I want to analyze the lessons brought by the death of programmer Su Xiangmao from the aspects of education and emotion.

First, the wrong concept of consumption

Su Xiangmao: A poor rural baby, a high flyers who graduated from Peking University, a talented programmer from Baidu, an entrepreneur with tens of millions of net worth, but also a young man who committed suicide after his ex-wife cheated him out of all his money.

Judging from the whole incident, Sue's consumption concept is surprising. Su Xiangmao and his ex-wife met in Jiayuan, so they knew nothing about each other before they met.

The two first met on March 30 this year. After the meeting, Su Xiangmao started the burning mode for Zhai buy buy.

According to the consumption records compiled by Su Xiangmao's family, in April this year alone, Su Xiangmao spent130,000 yuan for Zhai, including a Tesla car worth one million yuan.

To put it simply, the two have only known each other for a month, and Su Xiangmao has spent millions on Zhai.

Although it is too realistic to talk about money in love, whether feelings can be measured by money is not discussed for the time being.

But Su Xiangmao is just a hard-earned man, neither rich second generation nor nouveau riche, so the millions he spends are not decimal.

Obviously, this concept of consumption is problematic. In the second month after meeting, Su Xiangmao spent more than 3 million yuan for Zhai, and this time he upgraded from buying a car to buying a house.

Finally, when they realized that Su Xiangmao had committed suicide, Su Xiangmao spent more than130,000 yuan on his ex-wife.

Su Xiangmao spent a lot of money kneeling in love. But can love be bought with money?

Because if one day you find that you have no money or not enough money, the other party will dump you and leave you.

The wrong consumption concept prompted Su Xiangmao to fantasize about getting the desired result in the wrong way without knowing each other.

Second, the lack of judgment.

"When she sent me a video, she accidentally saw this villa. I was quite surprised and showed her the balance of stocks and wealth management products. " This is what Su Xiangmao said himself when he recalled the original scene.

From a normal person's point of view, it is obvious that this woman can't live without money.

However, Su Xiangmao did not make the corresponding judgment ability, but was eager to prove his own strength, and even spent 5 million yuan without knowing the details of the other party.

In just two months, he got married, and finally became the handle of others threatening him.

Third, lack of social experience.

From the perspective of personal privacy and property safety, they told each other all the details of their property before they got married, which touched the bottom line of property safety. Obviously, the programmer Su Like citronella lacks social experience.

There are many doubts about his wife from acquaintance to marriage, but he can't tell.

Wife's marital status: divorce is considered unmarried.

Wife's age:165438+October, 86.

Love experience: not as simple as my wife said. She has been married at least once or twice, and her name and marital status are quite different from those in the divorce mediation document.

Time spent in Jiayuan: I learned later that it was at least three years.

When you encounter blackmail after marriage, you don't know how to ask relatives and friends for help.

Judging from the conversation between Su Xiangmao and his ex-wife, Su is extremely timid, and the compensation that his ex-wife has been asking for is actually based on the discounted compensation for the common property of both parties.

However, the two people in the case have only been married for more than a month, and it is unlikely that they will have one million or even ten million common assets, and it is stated in Article 4 of the agreement that they have no common property.

In addition, there is no such high compensation for divorce damages in China at present.

/kloc-the compensation of more than 0/00000 is very high. Moreover, judging from the information disclosed at present, there is no legal basis for asking for this money.

When the ex-wife blackmailed 6,543,800+million, the 6,543,800+million on Su Xiangmao's stock book had fallen to 6.6 million.

In Su Xiangmao's last words, he wrote: "I feel desperate, my capital chain is broken, and I am really desperate."

In elementary school, we knew that we couldn't put all our eggs in one basket, but all his property was invested in stocks.

Fourth, poor endurance.

The day before Su Xiangmao fell from the building, he posted on Google account Xu Qiang that he was forced to die by his vicious ex-wife, and WePhone would stop operating, and announced his ex-wife XinXin Zhai's mobile phone number, work unit, chat screenshot and divorce contract.

Su Xiangmao said in his post that his ex-wife threatened to report her personal tax evasion, and at the same time, reporting that WePhone has VoIP function is a gray operation.

Claiming to let him go bankrupt, asking for 6.5438+million yuan and Sanya real estate.

Su Xiangmao said that the 6.6 million compensation involved in the divorce agreement with his ex-wife has been paid, and the remaining 3.4 million should be paid within 12 days, otherwise the daily interest will be 654.38+10,000 yuan.

Subsequently, the ex-wife harassed herself by calling and bringing others to her home and workplace, which led her to commit suicide because she couldn't stand it.

Su Xiangmao is the founder of WePhone and worked in Baidu for several years.

Then I went abroad to start a business and made a wephone software, similar to VoIP. Users can make phone calls and send text messages for free, and the business is smooth and smooth, with 30 million users and considerable income.

However, because of his ordinary appearance and short height, the lifelong event has not been decided, so he registered VIP on Jiayuan and started dating.

The story of an entrepreneurial genius who was forced to death by his ex-wife not only makes people regret the tragedy, but also shows that Su Xiangmao lacked correct values and ultra-low emotional intelligence in his short life.

Although Sue is an excellent student, she is also a poor child in the countryside, and the influence of her family has a great influence on her values.

Judging from his consumption view, he thinks that as long as he has money, he can capture a woman's heart and he is willing to invest all his property in it. After discovering that he was cheated, he found that the circuit was short-circuited. This endurance is really touching.

Nowadays, in the eyes of many parents, it is successful to let children learn more knowledge and master advanced knowledge.

Therefore, we spare no effort in children's intellectual investment, but neglect their quality education, which leads to children's lack of correct judgments and solutions when they encounter things in the future, thus being hurt.

In fact, IQ is very important, EQ is also very important, and the love of career is more important.

1. Don't trust, sympathize, forgive and accept people who are full of lies.

Once the personal information and family background of the other party are found to be inconsistent or different from the facts, try to stay away immediately, avoid contact and stop loss in time.

2. Learn more legal knowledge, and don't believe what the other party threatens.

After encountering fraud and extortion, you should seek help from the police as soon as possible.

Even in love, don't be carried away by love.

For some suspicious things, we should clear our minds and follow logic.

If you are confused, please write down the whole story from the perspective of a bystander to help you analyze it rationally.

4. When encountering problems, seek help from a mentor and friend who is more experienced than you, and seek advice and help from outsiders.

Friends and relatives may save you at a critical moment.

Thinker Arendt believes that we need a power that can transcend "natural morality".

The so-called "virtue" is not innate. It is something polished and tempered the day after tomorrow, with reflection and appropriate limits.

Being too kind is stupid, being too soft-hearted is laissez-faire, and being too tolerant is connivance.

You can be an honest man, but you can't be stupid enough to trust everyone.

Such a tragic and regrettable story of a talented programmer, I hope it won't repeat itself.

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