How do couples rebuild trust after infidelity?

1. Take responsibility for the mistakes you make.

Cheating is cheating. Don't make excuses, blame your partner, or try to downplay it, saying that your cheating was just a temporary "play" or something like that. If you want to get forgiveness from the other person, you must take responsibility for the cheating. Only by seriously facing up to your mistakes and finding out the reasons for the derailment will you not repeat the same mistakes in the future.

2. Seek forgiveness from the other person.

Whether you are the cheating party or the cheated party, this is a very difficult step. However, forgiving the cheating partner is the beginning of repairing a relationship. If the betrayed party always harbors resentment and cannot let go, the relationship will not be able to continue. Although forgiveness cannot be obtained immediately, if you are the cheating party, you must adopt a humble attitude and ask for forgiveness from the other party.

You may need to ask for forgiveness from the other person many times, but you must be sincere every time and let the other person see your sincere repentance.

3. Be honest with your significant other.

If you are cheating, if you want to regain the other person's trust as soon as possible, you need to be completely honest with your significant other. Allow the other party to view your schedule, contacts on your phone, etc. at any time. Don't hide anything, even a small thing. As long as hiding it may cause distrust in your partner, don't hide it.

4. It takes a long time to repair a relationship after an affair.

Once one party loses trust in the other party, it may be necessary to regain this trust. It took years. Whenever the cheating partner leaves the house, meets up with a co-worker, or picks up the phone to send a text message, jealousy and distrust can't help but arise in the partner's heart. So be prepared for a protracted battle. It may take several months to regain the most basic trust of the other party.

No matter how difficult it is to do, or how difficult life is every day, we must work hard for this relationship, so that one day we can regain confidence in each other.

5. Keep your promises and start with small things.

You must let the other party see that you are a reliable person now. If you agree to call your significant other, you must call your significant other. If you agree to share the household chores, you must do it. Don't promise something you can't do. If you need to change your plans, be sure to do so a few days in advance to give your partner enough time to adjust their own plans.

6. Communicate well with your significant other and find out what the other person’s needs are.

Listen carefully to what your partner needs and what you can do to help repair the relationship. Maybe the other person needs more time together, maybe the other person needs more space. Maybe the other person wants you to come home early from get off work, maybe she wants you to stop drinking, etc. No matter what the other person needs, be sure to seriously ask them what you can do to meet their needs. No matter what the other person's answer is, listen carefully and don't express opinions casually.