Details show self-cultivation, and 50 small details teach you how to get along with others.

Someone on the Internet asked, "What is cultivation?"

Writer Dian's answer is in line with:

In fact, whether a person has self-cultivation has nothing to do with age, wealth, beauty and ugliness, and region. It is rooted in people's hearts, hidden in every detail of you, hidden between your gestures.

Details are important, but not everyone pays attention to them. Cultivation is very valuable, but not everyone has it.

Therefore, we pay more attention to details, others and self-cultivation.

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Talk it over.

The bottom line of self-cultivation is to speak well. To describe an educated person, it is often said that he has extraordinary speech and elegant manners. The following are just some taboos. Always remember and remind yourself that you will gradually get rid of your original problems and become an elegant speaker.

1, the question of being outspoken when you are a little close must be changed.

2. Use "Did I make myself clear?" Instead of "Do you understand?" .

3. When you are most angry, hold back the words that hurt each other the most.

Others can laugh at themselves, but you must not agree.

Don't say things you shouldn't say in front of others.

6. Don't swear to your friends, swearing hurts the most.

7. Don't talk dirty with unfamiliar women.

8. Most people don't like calling a spade a spade.

9. Replace "thank you" with "thank you". Although there is only one more word, it is much more sincere.

10, use "you" to send text messages to strangers, and actively add "Sorry to bother you" at the end.

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Gracious

The highest state of self-cultivation is kindness, gentleness, friendliness, courtesy and gratitude.

1 1. Please be kind to people in the service industry.

12. Don't make fun of strangers, even familiar people.

13, never laugh at a person's efforts.

14, no harsh words, no soft things.

15, don't be mean when you are superficial.

16, everyone only says three words, not everything in my heart.

17, don't complain to others. There are very few people in this world who can feel the same way, and most people are tired of listening. There are still a few people who will promote it as a laughing stock.

18, don't show people you hate in front of others, and don't speak ill of people you hate in front of people you know.

19, when someone tells you what he likes, I hope you don't refute it, because we are all seriously talking about how bad you say what we like. Your frankness is just selfish.

20. I have seen a tattooed man give up his seat on the bus. I have also seen an animal in a suit and tie eat and drink with public funds. In this era, it is not necessarily a gentleman to dress beautifully and handsomely, and it is not necessarily indecent to dress very exposed. Never judge by appearances.

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Get along well with each other

The second realm of self-cultivation is to live in harmony, handle personnel in a smarter way and protect others in the most appropriate way.

2 1. If someone sends you a message, you must reply. You can tell him even if you don't want to. Even if you express it euphemistically with expressions or punctuation marks, it is not indifferent and uneducated not to reply to the news.

22. Don't try to trade your secrets for friends.

23, threesome, one ties his shoelaces, and you two wait for him.

24, interpersonal communication, simple and clear, sometimes the most appropriate, know how to refuse, can be free and easy.

25. Don't get to know anyone too soon. Don't think the topic is the same from the beginning. You have a lot in common. You are bosom friends who have known each other for a long time. Language is often false, and what we experience together is true.

26, have something to say, don't wait for the other party to understand, because the other party is not you, don't know what you want, and finally can only be sad and disappointed, especially feelings.

27. Don't make excuses for doing something wrong, just admit it.

28. Go to someone else's house. When someone asks you to watch TV, you should go. When you are talking to someone, once someone takes a deep breath, it means that he doesn't want to listen and is suppressing his attitude towards you.

29. Most people's "What's the matter" only satisfies curiosity, but doesn't mean to help you.

If you look farther, you won't be sad.

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Respect others

The third realm of cultivation is to learn to respect. Respect is not lip service or gratuitous praise to Nuo Nuo, nor is it flattery.

True respect is to treat each other seriously from the heart, and it is a natural expression of involuntary noble personality.

3 1, others should know how to sleep quietly.

32. Don't look at other people's mobile phones without permission.

33. When someone shows you a photo with a mobile phone, just look carefully and don't slide down.

It's impolite to break other people's joy.

Try to remember other people's names when you meet for the first time.

36. argue, don't wronged yourself.

37. When you are angry or full of negative emotions, don't bring negative energy to others, let alone vent your anger. If you can't, you'd better stay alone when you are sad. After a long time, others will not be willing to get close to you.

Don't tell the secret to the wind, it will blow all over the forest.

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interpersonal relationship

The highest state of self-cultivation is good interpersonal relationship. The best attitude for an adult to communicate with others is to be yourself and be close to others.

In the adult world, the truth of interpersonal communication is not to overestimate the relationship with anyone, nor to underestimate the rules of human nature.

39, different circles, there is no need to be strong.

40. The most effective way to lose someone is to get too close.

4 1, don't fight with your close friends of the opposite sex.

42. A girl who smiles all day is always more pleasing than a melancholy girl.

43. There are two kinds of people who can be trusted: those who lend you money without saying anything, and those who keep their promises and pay you back.

44. Even if you meet a good partner, Rainbow Sicong, the eternal law of interpersonal relationship is to balance transactions. Never think about relying on anyone.

45. treat "male gods or goddesses" as ordinary friends of the opposite sex; Treat ordinary heterosexual friends as male gods or goddesses. Your interpersonal relationship will be much better.

46. The popularity of a girl among boys doesn't mean anything. If she plays well among girls, it's really amazing.

47. Don't trust the spacer yarn that women chase men.

48. After you have the other half, don't cut off all your friends, or you will find that you have nothing in the end.

49. Don't force yourself to be a good person for the sake of interpersonal relationship.

No matter what I tell you, you won't understand what you haven't experienced. Or you think you know this, but you don't. A truly cultivated performance is not grandstanding, but an instinct that melts in the bones, which is reflected in the dribs and drabs of daily life, but always makes people move inadvertently.

These 50 tips for dealing with people remind us not to forget the temperature of a detail when pursuing elegance and grace.