What does the loneliness of life and death mean?

This is the article "Loneliness in Life and Death", which may be helpful to you.

Once, men and women had the best time.

Kant once said that the so-called best time refers to the feeling of happiness that is gone forever, because it is lost forever, so we can only call it with nostalgia.

The most beautiful time is always invincible. Just like when men and women were young-at that time, men were nineteen and women were eighteen. Men stand under the thin clouds in autumn, the light blue sky is like a tall and elegant tree, and women are pure and pale, like a beautiful flower. They met and fell in love on the train and burst into tears, thinking that this life will never be separated.

The woman is a Jiangnan woman, a native of Hangzhou, and the birthplace of Longjing. Every early spring, the woman sends tea to the man before tomorrow. He didn't like tea at first, but because of the tea given by that woman, he fell in love with the faint fragrance of Longjing.

Men come to see northern women once a month for four years without interruption. There are many beautiful feathers in time. Undoubtedly, it should be the most beautiful trip to see her.

At that time, men asked women, how long can we have?

The woman said, all my life.

The woman asked him, do you really like me that much?

M: Good fortune comes once in a blue moon. Three years will last forever. After three years of love, men come and go between Hangzhou and Beijing, and in the fourth year, women's attitudes change.

Men feel the difference of women. Every time I come to Hangzhou, women pick me up in person. Moreover, when they see him, they always ask him shyly: Did you miss me? This is the first sentence.

But this time, the woman didn't come to pick it up, saying that the company had something to do.

Met, also very pale, the air was filled with awkward atmosphere, after a while, the woman received a phone call and ran outside to say. Men are very sad and feel that love is getting weaker and weaker. At that time, he returned to Beijing drunk and crying. That was the last time the man went to Hangzhou. When leaving, the woman said, forget me, please forget.

The man didn't ask why, love is cold, what else can he ask?

That winter, the man got married, sent a text message to her, and the woman replied, bless you. A man got drunk on his wedding night, called the woman, but the woman didn't answer, and sent a text message saying it was inconvenient.

The next spring, men still receive women's tea.

The man called, but the woman still didn't answer. She texted the man that tea would be fine. As you said, I am like this tea, bitter and light.

The man was speechless. At the moment of drinking tea, tears came down. Men still can't forget women.

This autumn, the man had a son and became a section chief in the unit. The days passed slowly, and because of the busyness, men gradually forgot the women in the south.

It was not until spring that the women sent tea again.

Men no longer address women as if they were old friends of men. Longjing was really fragrant before Qingming, with a lingering fragrance. Women must be married and have children, right

Seven years later, a 30-year-old man went to Hangzhou for a meeting.

The man has gained weight, occasionally fighting with his wife and clamoring for a divorce, but he knows that he can't bear to part with it, and he is even more reluctant to use affection in marriage. Children go to school and learn to play the piano. His enthusiasm for life is gradually losing. However, men always dream about women, although seven years have passed.

When I arrived in Hangzhou, it was raining, and the man's heart ached a little.

Men have been calling women for seven years, but women's phones have not changed, and neither have men, for fear that women will never find them again.

At this point, the man thought, the woman just came to see her sister.

Yes, love is gone, and there may be hatred at first, but who can resist the erosion of time? Now, men don't hate women for a long time. There must be a reason why women leave him. In the past, men always had the opportunity to go to Hangzhou on business, but men didn't come because men still hated women.

But now, he doesn't hate, because time has diluted those hates. When a man thinks that a woman is good, when he is in love, he runs 20 miles to the Moon Building to buy steamed buns for him and wash his white shirt. The room is filled with the smell of 84 disinfectant. The woman said that a white shirt bleached with 84 disinfectant would be very white. This trick, the man later told his wife, who also bleached a white shirt with 84 disinfectant. Every time she uses it, the man will think of a woman.

There is also a song that men and women like together, Matthew's Bressanon. The train goes through the forest in the dark, just like a man running to a woman. I once heard this song in Beijing Oriental Xintiandi, and the man stood there until the whole song was sung. When he left, he found tears on his white shirt.

This time, men will invite women to have tea, dinner, talk about children and family. Yes, men no longer love and hate each other. Men just want to treat women as old friends, even if they are in a daze together, because the person who passed by when he was young must be Zhu Shazhi all his life.

The man pushed open the familiar door and was greeted by a woman's mother. In those days, her mother also cooked lotus seed porridge for them to drink. She saw the old man, who was called aunt, and her heart was sour. Her mother has white hair!

How is she? The man asked.

The old man's eyes are slightly red. She went seven years ago, afraid that you would not love and get married again, so she left you cold. She asked me to return your message and send you tea, and told me not to change my mobile phone number, for fear that you would never find her again. She said that she would also bless you in heaven.

At that moment, he was in shock. She loves him. How could he suddenly change his mind? He is infatuated with love, so he is drunk. It turns out that this is a lonely life and death. She is in heaven, he is on earth, and she swallowed all the hardships for his happiness.

Her mother said that she expected you to visit her again after many years. She said you would treat her like a relative, and then you should be happy. She will know in heaven.

In an instant, the man's tears burst like a flood and he couldn't breathe. The man saw that her room was as old as before, and there was a picture of her and him. Under the cherry tree, the woman looked at him. A woman once said, you will be the loneliness of my life and death.

Today, the man finally understood that sentence.

If a person loves a person deeply, it is the loneliness of life and death, that is, women love him equally whether in heaven or underground.

In the movie Dream in the Garden, someone asked Cui Hua: What do you want most?

Cui Hua said, I hope someone cares about me, thinks of me, thinks of me. That's the movie they watched together. That woman once said, I will miss you and think of you.

That woman did it. Even though she is dead.

A man knows that he is the happiest man in the world, because he has a lonely love life and death, and a person who always cares about him.

When he came back, the man bought a Peony Pavilion by Tang Xianzu at the airport. He bought this book only because of its first sentence: I don't know what happened, but I love it deeply.

His tears finally came down.