How to negotiate with rival in love

Lead: negotiation strategy is very important in dealing with emotional crisis, and the desire to talk to him or her will be extremely strong, but how to speak?

Love book: negotiation skills in confrontation with opponents to improve dialogue IQ in crisis: dialogue opportunities

I was surprised to find a pair of eyes staring at me jealously when I participated in the outing of my boyfriend's company for the first time. When my boyfriend helped me carry my bag, when I crossed the river barefoot, when I took out the crystal pendant from my pocket, other colleagues joked and the woman was unhappy. What I suspect most is that my boyfriend took the initiative to please her when I wasn't looking. Ignore her. She's obviously a jealous woman in love.

I decided to talk to my boyfriend once, find out what happened to them, and ring his alarm bell at the same time. I didn't expect him to deny it. What does it matter to me whether she is happy or not? You are really puzzling. If you don't believe me, ask her! ? I don't know what to say when he wants to steal the white.

Pulse: I didn't grasp the timing of the conversation.

Ashley found something unusual and immediately talked to her boyfriend. The danger is that maybe her boyfriend has nothing to do with that female colleague. You remind her that someone in the company has a crush on him.

From the self-report, the evidence that Xie Li has is only some self-feelings and guesses. Usually, what men hate most is that their wives or girlfriends catch little things for nothing. In this case, they will fight to the death and embarrass you. Men know very well that if they indulge these little suspicions, they will never have peace.

Three principles of conversation opportunity

1, no matter how much you trust your sixth sense, please find out? Question? Talk to him after three times. In this way, he will not be wronged, but also give himself some time to digest the problem and think calmly. Unless you find the fatal link from the beginning, such as kissing in the street, or even catching him in bed. On the other hand, if we find such a problem, we have nothing to talk about.

2, men and women get along for a long time, it is inevitable that there is a little ambiguity, especially under your nose. So don't make a fuss when you find ambiguity, and immediately conclude that the emotional crisis is coming. Talk to your best friend about your unfortunate discovery and ask her to help you analyze it. Are you neurotic, like this? Little things? Is it necessary to talk to him seriously?

Even if the sky falls, at least give yourself a day to calm down. Speaking for the first time, of course, is impulsive. What you say on impulse is often subjective? Unreasonable? If so, it is difficult to convince people with good deeds.

A good starting point is half the battle.

1. Talking about facts often leads to unnecessary arguments. Now that you have seen something that makes you unhappy or suspicious, what you want to say is not whether you should do it or not, but tell him your feelings and thoughts.

? I don't blame you, maybe I'm too sensitive. I remember when we first got married? Men are more likely to accept this beginning. Maybe the reason for your crisis is not the seduction of other women, but that you haven't had intimate communication for a long time.

I was critical and complaining from the beginning, and I lost seven points if I was reasonable. He is the culprit of your injury at the moment. Yes, you are completely innocent? In love and marriage, no one has the obligation to take full responsibility for the emotional crisis. As long as you haven't made up your mind to break up or divorce, look for reasons from yourself first.

3、? I am an unprofitable woman, and you have endured it for a long time over the years. If you have any ideas or better choices, don't tell me last. What did you say?

When you feel the crisis of his affair, most of the facts already exist, and the dialogue to solve the crisis should be based on this premise, and we must bypass the tangled fact authentication stage before we can start the dialogue to really solve the problem.

How to talk to her? I accidentally saw an intimate message in his mobile phone message outbox, but the recipient was not me. I didn't say anything at that time. A few days later, his mobile phone was placed on the dining table, and when the screen lit up, it was the text message of that number again. Must be reminded! Who should I talk to first? After much deliberation, I came up with an idea to kill two birds with one stone.

I called her and told her that I found a message sent to her in my husband's mobile phone. At this point, I deliberately paused for ten seconds. In this case, silence is definitely a deterrent, because she doesn't know if I have seen her text message or what I will say next.

? I didn't mean to call you, but to apologize for my husband. Although I don't know you, I think it is immoral for a married man to send such a short message to disturb others. I hope it won't affect your normal life. Well, I can't help it. Men are dishonest, and it's not the first time I've helped him deal with it. Women are always hurt, they can only protect themselves. ?

Pulse: Many women have had the idea of talking to the woman who is in love or marriage crisis. On the one hand, this man at home is sometimes difficult to deal with, on the other hand, it is relatively easy to find a breakthrough in women. If you can't talk to her calmly like this, you'd better keep your mouth shut. Be reasonable again, once you lose control of your emotions, you will be rude, have no quality and have no manners? Words will soon become evidence that she was hurt, so your family is deeply sorry for her and more sympathetic to her. She will also stand in your hostile position and intensify without shame.