I broke up with my ex-girlfriend two years ago and want to get back together. My ex wants to get back together after two years apart.

Text | Zhang Ping

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For some girls, keeping the contact information of their ex-boyfriend after breaking up and waiting for him to change his mind is not Rare.

To be honest, if the relationship can be saved, I think it is partly luck and partly due to my own efforts.

But can the lost relationship really come back?

I think this is a very thought-provoking topic in itself: "Those who think they have seen more scenery and think they are the best for you." In fact, such a title can only appear to a small number of people.

In relationships, everyone must learn to be the only one, not the spare tire in other people's love.

Because once you are labeled like this, no matter what you do or what you give, no one will see it. As for why, the answer is simple, because you are not his first choice, and your kindness has not been seen by him.

01. Chen Danni, who has been separated for two years, has been single. Chen Danni is 25 years old this year. She is a graduate student. Her ex-boyfriend was a year older than her. She just graduated last year.

Chen Danni said that campus love is what she yearns for the most, but now it is what hurts her the most.

Most of Chen Danni’s memories with her ex-boyfriend are on this campus. Every time she passed by, she could think of the little things between them.

Many people know that Chen Danni has been single because he wanted to spend more time studying, but others don’t know that Chen Danni is no longer in love because she has lingering feelings for her ex-boyfriend.

She always fantasizes about her ex-boyfriend coming back to find her one day. In Chen Danni's heart, she felt that her boyfriend still loved her. The reason he left was because he saw too little scenery.

On the eve of Chen Danni’s graduation, she received a strange text message, and she knew who sent it. The moment she saw the text message, Chen Danni cried with joy. She lamented that after so long, her ex-boyfriend finally came back to find her.

He said in the text message: "Xiao Ni, how are you doing recently?" "Xiao Ni is what her ex-boyfriend calls her. No one has ever called her that except him."

This is the first time they have contacted each other more than two years after their breakup. The other party said that he had just returned from his hometown and wanted to meet her. Chen Danni agreed without hesitation.

Two people were in a cafe near the school. Danni Chen dressed up. When she saw the other person, she clearly felt that his eyes were shining.

Chen Danni’s ex-boyfriend is Deng Cong, who is from Suzhou. At the beginning, they were both fellow students and alumni, so they got together quickly.

In the first year, they had a good relationship. Later, in the second year, Chen Danni studied a new topic with her tutor and spent less time with Deng Cong, so she went with her best friend behind her back.

Danny Chen lost her best friend and boyfriend during this relationship. But even so, Chen Danni couldn't hate Deng Cong. She always thought that she was too busy and ignored him, so he would find new love.

In front of Chen Danni, Deng Cong talked about what happened in the past two years, mainly at work, and almost not about feelings. Chen Danni didn’t want to ask. When he left, Deng Cong asked her: "Give me another chance, can we start over?" ,

Chen Danni nodded without hesitation.

The two people just got back together.

After the reunion, Chen Danni and her boyfriend stayed in Shanghai to work hard, rented a house, and started living together.

Shanghai is a fast-paced city with a lot of pressure, but because of her boyfriend's company, Chen Danni feels that all the efforts are worth it.

Until, two months later, Deng Cong went to the bathroom to take a shower and forgot to bring his mobile phone. Chen Danni saw a new text message with Yang Sisi written on it.

02. Yang Sisi was her best friend, which is why Deng Cong chose to leave her.

Chen Danni never asked about Deng Cong’s relationship with her again. She thought that if he took the initiative to come back this time, he must have solved everything, including the previous relationship.

She didn't know that Deng Cong fell in love with her, but on the other hand, she still had not lost contact with Yang Sisi, and this time Yang Sisi came to him to tell him that she was pregnant.

In fact, neither Yang Sisi nor Chen Danni knew that the person next to them was such a "scumbag" and that he could deliberately use other people's feelings for him to achieve his own interests.

For girls, they can accept falling out of love, but they cannot accept betrayal, let alone forgive one after another betrayal.

In fact, for Chen Danni, when Deng Cong left her for the first time, she should have understood: he just didn't love you enough.

And when he comes back for the second time, he may not really love you, it may just be because of money, work, or the pressure of life.

In fact, as long as Chen Danni used her brain, she should know that how could a man who truly loved her be willing to spend her money and enjoy her unilateral care without paying anything?

Chen Danni made two mistakes with the same man, but fortunately it is not too late to know all this now. If two people really get to the point of getting married, they will find that the other person is not a suitable person. , then it will be too late.

In fact, both Yang Sisi and Chen Danni are "spare tires" for Deng Cong. He has always been vacillating, and he is even looking for the next more suitable person at the same time.

Why is it difficult for a spare tire in a relationship to be happy?

Because this relationship is not equal from the beginning. When we give all our love, time and energy to each other, but in the end we find that you are dispensable in others' hearts, what are you? What kind of feeling?

When you really like someone, you want to give him all the good things, rather than just asking for them. This is how a spare tire is. If unfortunately you become someone else's spare tire, then in this relationship, you You have lost your control. Your future is completely determined by others, and you cannot make the decision yourself.

If your life is controlled by others, this is the saddest thing.

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