The female star of "Sister Lang 3" collapsed and cried: She died in order to have a clever son.

In Sister Lang 3, Guo Caijie was asked: If you could make a phone call through time and space, who would you call and what would you say?

She said without hesitation: Call my father in 1998 and tell him to "absolutely and resolutely choose caesarean section".

In this way, Guo Caijie opened a sealed memory with tears.

"When she was 12 years old, when she was promoted to the country, her mother died on the operating table during childbirth in order to have a younger brother, just because her father thought that the child who had a natural birth was smarter."

On February 19th, 1986, a lovely little girl with makeup and jade was born. Her arrival made her mother feel happy, but at the same time, she was accompanied by gloomy clouds, because she knew that many families at that time had a serious preference for sons, especially her husband and her family preferred sons. If they could not have a son, they would have to bear the pressure from the family and the outside world. This daughter was already the second girl she gave birth to, and her husband was the eldest son of the family.

Guo Caijie is the second child in the family. Her mother runs a stationery store and her father is an ordinary office worker.

according to Guo Caijie's memory, the day when her mother gave birth to her younger brother was also the day when she was going to take part in a speech contest. Facing the speech, both mother and daughter were very nervous. Before the speech contest, her mother suggested that she go to the top floor to worship, and Guo Caijie nodded and agreed. After the speech, she quickly went home to wait for news from her mother with her sister.

The result was that dad rushed back in a hurry and told her and her sister to get dressed and go to the hospital. When she and her sister went to the hospital to see the family crying, they immediately understood that she had lost her mother who loved her forever.

"I lost my mother", what a helpless and powerless sentence.

"After mom left, the house was horribly quiet. Whoever was hungry would eat, and there would be no more family sitting around.".

Guo Caijie's family will be at a loss because of her mother's departure. Like people who can't swim, they are forced to flutter and try to keep themselves alive.

After that,

Guo Caijie complained about her grandparents for many years. She quarreled at home every day and vented her inner anger crazily.

In fact, she knows that her grandparents are not villains, because according to local tradition, young people can't take home when their elders are alive, but grandparents insist on taking their daughter-in-law home regardless of taboos.

Of course,

the loss of a 12-year-old mother didn't knock down Guo Caijie, a skinny girl. Her mother's death filled her with explosive power.

Guo Caijie grew up overnight. She said that after her mother's death, she decided to be a golden bell jar at home to protect the whole family. "Because that change made our whole family fall into a dark moment, it will eventually emit light, and this power can penetrate the darkness."

Do you remember Gu Li, who has a queen-like aura in Tiny Times?

I think this can't be separated from Guo Caijie's growing experience, because the powerful aura can't be presented just by acting, which requires life experience and growth polishing.

Guo Caijie had a good relationship with her family and loved her grandparents and dad. Now she occasionally blames herself for her attitude, because she knows that no one wants that to happen.

In previous years, medical and health services were underdeveloped, and women gave their lives for childbirth everywhere. We naturally thought that it was a very long time and the probability was very small, but it was not.

It's not. In 18 years, Choo Ja Hyun was 39 years old and gave birth to his son "The Sea" at the risk of death. Just after the couple posted a photo of the baby's paw, the hind foot agency issued a document saying that he had postpartum spasm and was admitted to the intensive care unit. Ethan said, "At present, he is undergoing examination and recovering."

It was with this experience that I walked through the gate of hell. When the media broke the news that Ethan went to a bar with friends and let them sit on their thighs to play with their mobile phones, it was suspected that they were cheating, and netizens attacked everywhere.

In those years, Da Power came back quickly after giving birth, and her figure recovered super well, and glamorous words such as hot girl and hot mom surrounded her. Little did she know that when she gave birth to Noemie, Da Power also turned to cesarean section at a critical moment. Originally, Power Power decided to give birth naturally, but in the production process, Noemie's head was too big, and Power Power tried his best to make it difficult, so she immediately decided to listen to the doctor's laparotomy. Therefore, Power Power Power experienced the pain caused by two production methods in order to give birth to Noemie.

Only occasionally, Bidai Syulan gave birth to her son Li V Bao when he was 4 years old. It was not easy for others to understand. Even in order to protect the fetus, Bidai Syulan lay in bed for 142 days and injected 3 needles into his stomach, which was full of pinholes. Later, his legs were in a state of direct muscle weakness. After giving birth to his son, he tried to do rehabilitation before he could walk again.

Liu Qiangdong's own sister, 43-year-old Liu Qiangru, was not so lucky. In 18 years, she died of amniotic fluid embolism while giving birth to her third child.

Being a woman and giving birth to a child is a hurdle in life. The dangers on the delivery bed never distinguish between you and me.

The pictures produced by many women in film and television dramas restore the plot of giving birth to children in reality to 1: 1, and at the same time make girls who are not married and have children daunting.

In "legend of miyue", Yue Yue was ambushed by a tortoise shell, and her premature birth was on the line. She tried her best to give birth, and her veins stood out. She was so ugly that she cried her heart out. Netizens commented in Weibo, "The dystocia is terrible!" It's too scary to have a baby.

In Empresses in the Palace, in order to give birth to Dr. Wen's child, Shen Meizhuang died in childbirth. Even though she was the emperor's concubine, she was guarded by the best physician in the country, and finally gave her life.

Zhou Xun also challenged the scene of giving birth to a child. She turned pale and shouted, "No, we don't want children.".

Ann in "The Maid" was so painful that she clung to the quilt and her face was deformed directly.

In reality, most people still think that women have to go through the process of giving birth, and what they are afraid of is melodramatic and "pretending".

Three years ago, when Xiao Ai was in confinement, she accidentally brushed the lens of Birth Gate, and deliberately chased it with a douban score as high as 9.4. After reading it for a long time, she couldn't be calm, and she was so scared that she could dream when she slept in the delivery room under the lens. At that time, she was glad that she didn't watch it until she gave birth.

Xia Jinju, a woman, already has a daughter. After several miscarriages, the whole family still has the "pursuit of children". This child is pregnant, suffering from dangerous placenta previa, and is at risk of uterine rupture at any time. She has been in bed for four months.

Xia Jinju suffered from massive bleeding during childbirth. Her heart stopped twice and she exchanged 13, ml of blood, which is equivalent to four times of whole body blood exchange. Nevertheless, this stupid woman resolutely chose the former between protecting her uterus and saving her life.

It's more painful to see here. After all, the woman took everything on her own. Xia Jinju's husband was not present during the whole production process, and Xia's father's face was full of sadness and worry. From beginning to end, only his eyes were on his daughter. When the nurse came out with the baby, the first thing for her husband's family was to care about the child and call him a son.

Li Shuangshuang was pregnant for more than 28 weeks, because the baby was judged by eugenics department to be stunted, and the father and grandparents of the child insisted on inducing labor. Grandma even told the doctor that "children are like choosing seeds, so they should choose the best seeds." However, according to the national laws and regulations, a baby who has been pregnant for more than 28 weeks is considered as a living individual, and it is not allowed to induce labor if there is no serious fatal deformity or other things.

Despite the doctor's earnest persuasion, Li Shuangshuang's family still insisted on not having this child, and eventually the child was born prematurely. The doctor said that the child had to pay 1, yuan in advance to enter the neonatal department, and the father and grandfather of the child were silent. The father of the child was afraid that he would not want treatment in case he ran out of money, while the grandfather of the child kept promising the doctor.

"Now that the child has been saved, is there any problem in the future? Is there any point?" You should know that the newborn is fragile, and every minute counts, but the father and son have spent so long fighting over money. The camera swept by, and Li Shuangshuang's father-in-law wore two big gold rings, which was dazzling. At that time, the female doctor was in a hurry, and she was almost pleading. How can I guarantee that this child must be healthy? But at least you should give this child a chance to survive. Perhaps due to the pressure of the camera, they finally paid 1, yuan. Because it was premature, the baby had many problems, and a drug called Gulsu was needed in the middle. One Gulsu cost 7, yuan. The family hesitated again, and finally they chose conservative treatment, and the baby finally left.

It's very unpleasant to see many girls here. It's obvious that they are pregnant. Shouldn't women choose whether to keep their children or treat them? In the face of such a strong in-laws and a weak and incompetent husband, what kind of courage should both take to conceive a second child?

In Tiny Times, Nanxiang experienced two pregnancies after she married Jacky. The progress of the young couple's baby-making occupied the hot search entertainment edition all the year round. When recalling a reality show they participated in three years ago, there was a clip in which, when faced with the problem of natural delivery or caesarean section, Nanxiang said that natural birth was good, but the fetal position was not up to her, and Xiang Tai said in an understatement: Natural birth is the best! Jacky said: My mother gave birth to me in pain for 16 hours ... The implication was that she listened to her mother's choice and gave birth naturally. At that time, she was scared to death in Nanxiang.

Today, it is revealed that Jacky cheated on her during her pregnancy in Nanxiang. She is happy or sad. Only Nanxiang knows the taste. After all, she is the daughter-in-law chosen by her mother-in-law, and her husband may not be in love with her. What makes people chilling is how to have children for a person, and through life and death, she still can't stop him from cheating.

In addition to the pain and danger during childbirth, the state before and after childbirth makes us exhausted and miserable. Jing Jing once experienced the torture of postpartum depression. Even though her living conditions were better than ordinary people, she was a new mother who was at a loss in the face of postpartum depression. She didn't experience it personally, and outsiders might not understand the horror of postpartum depression at all.

This is Huo Siyan's state when she was pregnant. Her body is bloated and obese. The whole person's weight has soared to 16 Jin. The star pays more attention to manners than ordinary people. Now look at her original figure.

Even though the baby has landed, he still feels heavy and has a bulging belly.

All kinds of pre-labor examinations, especially the "internal examination", are even more humiliating. When something goes wrong, a large group of doctors and nurses "watch" around you.

As outsiders, especially the children's "grandmothers" and aunts, they will be very happy to send a sentence: Ouch! We've all been there before, so what's the hard work?

In this regard, only mothers who have personally experienced childbirth can truly realize that it is not easy, because the so-called happy process is so hard and painful.

Let's take a look at the terrible experience of giving birth to a baby told by Bao Ma.

Xiao S: "After caesarean section, the pain spread all over the body, as if every hair was screaming. It was really unforgettable."

"The first child was born naturally, with a narrow pelvis and slow finger opening. It took two days to start. When she was born, the doctor cut her side directly, and there were all kinds of tears. Unfortunately, the placenta remained. Without anesthesia, the doctor took out the placenta with his bare hands, sewed more than 2 stitches, and urinary incontinence needed catheterization. Moreover, hemorrhoids fell off for a month, but her husband fell in love with a young girl. On the fourth night of confinement, it was near 12 o'clock.

"I remember a month ago, ten days before the due date, I was waiting for a caesarean section. At that time, my mother-in-law said that the time was not recorded, so I had to put up with it for three days. That night, I took a taxi to the hospital by myself. The doctor said that I was in time, otherwise the baby's lack of oxygen was no joke, which made me doubt that this is how the niece at the foot of the slope came. Women still have to be brave and take control of their own destiny."

"I gave birth naturally, and it took three hours from the painless removal to the landing of the baby. I recall that the whole person was shivering, and the pain was going to die soon, so I couldn't exert myself. Shouting led to congestion of the lower body, serious hemorrhoids falling off and tearing, and the baby's head was pinched. During the period, it was impossible to stand and exert force when being directed by the doctor. After the doctor gave the notice of antegrade dissection, my husband and mother-in-law were unwilling to sign, feeling distressed for money and money. In the end, I strongly supported the signature and agreed to caesarean section. A large group of doctors and nurses surrounded me and went through two modes of production. After that, the baby entered the neonatal department, and the husband-in-law was allowed to have a second child in the next month.

"On the day of birth, I was the last one who walked into the delivery room just in the right place. As soon as I entered, I was embarrassed. A row of seven women were lying there, so my legs were spread out, and my private parts were completely exposed to my eyes. I was scared and waited. I was scared to incontinence by the shouting of the lying-in woman. Later, I heard the nurse say that the first lying-in woman was the fifth child or a daughter. She had to give birth to a son. I couldn't believe it, but I silently wished her that she would get her wish and end this "machine" career as soon as possible. "

Of course, as the family members of the parturient, understanding and support can really relieve the pain.

"I had a caesarean section, and my husband was very supportive. My in-laws took good care of me, and my figure recovered well. No friend said that my mother-in-law didn't take a bath or wash her hair. On the contrary, my mother-in-law made herbs to take a bath every day and turned on the air conditioner, and she didn't eat vegetables and fruits, as my aunt said. My husband always arranged a balanced diet, and she was in a good mood."

We girls never hate having children. What we dislike is that our reproductive rights are "controlled", which is a painful thing. Others think that you are "spoiled" and "delicate". There are still too few expectant mothers who can be understood, supported and cared for in life. Most mothers are unhappy in the second month, Lacrimosa.

Men, if a woman chooses you and gives you children, then please love her more for the rest of your life, because the door of birth is the door of death, so why not cherish the woman who can walk through the door of death for you?