Ode to Joy: Is Qiu Yingying's "chastity" forced by white supervisors?

Lead: Rereading Ode to Joy, I suddenly found that Qiu Yingying, whom I hated at the beginning, was the most pitiful person in it. Cheated for nothing and annoyed by her sisters, she finally found a fellow countryman to be her boyfriend. As a result, this relationship was completely frozen because of Xiao Qu's words, and Qin Ying broke up because she was not a virgin. However, everyone is blaming her: she deserves it.

In fact, is Qiu Yingying really worth it? Was her virginity forced by a white supervisor? In fact, she was powerless to resist.

Qiu Yingying was completely cheated by her roommate;

I was not with director Bai at the beginning, but was in an ambiguous period. It turned out to be just a fish raised by director Bai. One day, Director Bai sent a text message late at night, hoping to invite her to dinner to further develop their relationship. This is actually a test, maybe a mass email. The message was sent at the wrong time: if it was a sincere invitation, how could it be sent late at night? Fan Meisheng experienced the battlefield and naturally saw the clue at a glance, so he deleted it directly.

If there were no more mouths, maybe there would be no such bad troubles in the future! Fan was bent on protecting it, but Guan told him without authorization and the information was deleted. Is Guanju' Al' a person who can't carry it clearly? No, she worships Andy and knows that she must listen to her predecessors in the workplace. In love, she and Qiu Yingying are also white. Out of Fan's kindness, she refused her request without permission.

This short message promoted the further development of Mr. Bai. At the same time, the news that Qu Xiaoyu seduced the white supervisor was also told by Guan Guan himself. Later, I turned against my roommate and accepted the invitation of "cohabitation" proposed by Director Bai, which temporarily ended this sisterhood.

However, is this relationship voluntary? Did you notice that Qu Xiaoyu and Qiu Yingying were waiting for the elevator, and Qu Xiaoyu knew what had happened to her. At this time, Qiu Yingying's expression was obviously tired and dull, even a bit like a "torn" broken doll. Why? In fact, there is a concept in this world called "grey rape". If you don't struggle, don't shout, and don't have the strength to resist, you shouldn't consider it "rape." Some people compare it to the "sister" of rape.

A Zhihu blogger shared a true story:

Xiao Li got together with a group of people. In an ordinary environment, the group drank some wine and talked about life, ideals, love and other topics. At about four o'clock in the morning, a girl told Xiao Li in a positive tone: You used to be together, but now it's okay to sleep on the mattress together. And what happened next made her feel ashamed.

Xiao Li slept in a daze and felt someone groping under the blanket, but she would rather pretend that she didn't know anything, just for fear of waking others. Everything happened naturally, but she felt very ashamed afterwards. She doesn't know why. Psychologist Heather lyttleton once analyzed this situation.

What's going on here? There is a "psychological map" in people's minds to help them analyze different situations and give relative responses, such as greeting acquaintances, starting to look for water when they are thirsty, and sexual assault has a fixed "narrative", so most of the media pay attention to those cases that use violent means to achieve their goals, but ignore the iceberg under the sea.

The probability of gray rape is often between acquaintances: let's take a closer look. At the moment when she lived with Bai, she thought of sharing the room altogether. Moreover, she has no previous love experience, so she doesn't know much about many things. At this point, we can't use "social hidden rules" to interpret Qiu Yingying's mentality. Not everyone understands that it is best for girls not to spend the night at boys' houses. When you accept it,

In fact, for most inexperienced girls, this floor is unexpected! She simply thinks that she can live together and meet every day. So, in this relationship, is Bai reluctant? From the initial test to the step-by-step acquisition, in fact, many times, girls are unable to resist at all, only limited by the environment and her cognitive scope.

Therefore, Qiu Yingying's "chastity" was forced by the white supervisor. This assumption can basically be established. At the same time, this relationship also greatly affected her later marriage, leading to the disillusionment of her second relationship. I have to say that this time is really cruel to women.

Write at the end:

Women are the easiest to relax their vigilance against acquaintances, and most of the cases of "injury" often happen around acquaintances, so there are so many "social rules": when you accept a boy's invitation, it means that you promise to have further contacts with him. In this series of "definitions", it is extremely unfair and wrong for girls. what do you think?