After my mother-in-law withdrew a WeChat sent to me, I cancelled the agreed 65438+ 10,000 bride price. What happened?

Facts tell us that all well-lived marriages must have their own reasons, which have nothing to do with luck. Because of your marriage, you have the final say at the beginning.

Sister Qing and her husband have been married for six years, but the more they love, the sweeter they get. They all walk hand in hand when they go out, for fear that the other party will leave their sight. Whoever sees them together will always talk and laugh.

Have a friend, always confused. She said: "My husband and I have been married for less than two years, and we feel that our words are very empty. Every day we go home, he is busy with his, and I am busy with mine. Only when children are involved, they have some common topics, but after a few words, they will feel impatient with each other. Before I got married, I thought he was full of advantages, and now he is really one. "

So, she doesn't understand why Sister Qing has been married for so long, and they still have so much to say. I asked Sister Qing, and she smiled: "This is the person I finally found, and I think it suits me."

She did not get married early. She met her current husband at the age of 29, and then they got married after dating for half a year.

Before that, she had two relationships, and in the eyes of outsiders, each one was very good to her. Later, I don't know why. Sister Qing chose to break up. I heard that one of them didn't want to be apart. She stood downstairs for two nights, but Sister Qing didn't waver.

And the husband she finally chose to marry is not as good as any of her former boyfriends in the eyes of outsiders. Her current husband is ugly and short, a little shorter than Sister Qing, and now his income is similar to Sister Qing's. When he was first together, his income was not as good as that of his sister.

Others believe that she later found such a husband because she has reached the age of compromise on marriage. I didn't expect two people to be happier and happier after marriage, which is the kind of love that outsiders can see at a glance.

Now people often ask her, what is the secret of a happy marriage? Sister Qing thought for a moment: "First of all, you have to see if the person you choose is of good quality and can support two people's lifelong marriage."

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Everyone has good qualities, but you have to check and screen out what you like.

Sister Qing explained: "Some people like honesty and kindness, some people like humor and humor, some people like thoughtfulness and gentleness, and everyone likes different people. In my opinion, these are all attached conditions. To choose a person, you have to look at some basic abilities in his life, such as whether he has the emergency ability to deal with major events and conflicts, whether he knows how to reflect, and whether he can express himself properly. These abilities seem unimportant, but they can actually play a big role in real marriage. "

She said that's how she chose her husband. Although his other conditions are not excellent, Qingjie thinks that he can handle his emotions well and know how to put himself in others' shoes, which is very worthwhile and not available to many men.

So, after they got married, they lived happily. Because both of them respect and understand each other, his income is not high, and Sister Qing encourages him to learn new skills and make continuous progress. Because of this, the two have topics to talk about every day.

Another person asked, "But, as a woman, after marriage, there are big and small things to be busy at home, how can she have so much time to improve herself?"

Sister Qing smiled: "Everyone's situation is different. I have to thank my mother-in-law She makes me carefree. " Speaking of mother-in-law, everyone will say that she is really lucky. Meeting a very reasonable mother-in-law is really comparable to treating your own daughter.

When others talked about this, Sister Qing told a short story. She said that her mother-in-law is being nice to her now because she has also given her the greatest understanding.

Originally, according to the statements of the two families at that time, it was agreed to give a bride price of 65438+ 10,000. Of course, in the end, her parents will add another part and return it. One month before the wedding, something happened to her mother-in-law's family, and her little daughter had an accident driving, so she wanted to use this 654.38+ million first. My mother-in-law sent her a wechat in the middle of the night, roughly describing the situation and asking if she could make up for it after the bride price.

No one has really heard of the expression "bride's gift". Perhaps my mother-in-law felt inappropriate and withdrew the news in less than a minute. It's a pity that she just couldn't sleep that night, playing with her mobile phone and watching the news.

03

She said: "My mother-in-law withdrew a wrong WeChat in the middle of the night, and I cancelled the agreed 65438+ Wan Cai gift." She offered not to give a bride price, and also took out part of the money she had saved, so that her mother-in-law and her family would always be grateful to her.

So after marriage, everything is good for her, and everything is thinking about her. Her mother-in-law took good care of her when she gave birth, fearing that she would be wronged a little. When she said she was going out to work, her mother-in-law offered to help with the children. She said she wanted to learn something, and her mother-in-law would ask her if she could get enough money from her.

After listening to Sister Qing's words, some people still think that she is lucky, because not all her mother-in-law are so grateful. Some mother-in-law understood that she didn't want a bride price, but she later looked down on you.

Sister Qing thought for a moment: "So, this is the second point I want to say. You have to see how his family is. " How is the mother-in-law? What kind of people are there at home? Are parents happily married? "

She asked, "Do you know why I broke up in the first two sessions?" Listen, shake your head.

Sister Qing continued: "We have a good relationship. They all love me very much, but probably because I am a more rational person. My first boyfriend broke up because her mother didn't like me, that is, she didn't like me for no reason. I don't think I deserve his son, so I broke up and decided to break up. The same is true of the second relationship. So his mother is not easy to deal with. When I visited them for the first time, I gave me a look and said goodbye when I went out. "

Everyone looked at each other: "You live with your husband, not your mother-in-law. Why are you so determined to break up? "

She said, "Yes, that's true, but marriage is not a matter for two people. If you get married, how can you have no contact with your parents-in-law When a man faces his mother, he subconsciously thinks that he is a good person and can get along well. In fact, there is no conflict between a good mother and a bad mother-in-law. Therefore, I don't want to take the risk, and I don't like to look at people's faces. In this case, can you guarantee that there will be no accidents in your marriage? "

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She continued: "I know some people say that husbands are very important, but a mother-in-law you know clearly doesn't like you, so you decided to call her mom in the future." Do you know whose side your husband will take in case of conflict in the future? "

She seems to think of something: "Some husbands help their mothers and make their wives feel wronged, and their wives will think that they have married the wrong person;" Some husbands help their wives with their mother's affairs, which sounds very popular. Is it actually interesting? I feel quite chilling; Even if he is neutral, I will still be wronged. I don't want to be wronged, so I'd rather find a reasonable mother-in-law from the beginning. "

She said that during the six months before marriage with her husband, she actually observed that her mother-in-law and her husband spent almost the same amount of energy and thought that they were honest and kind people. So when such a thing happened later, she not only decided not to give the bride price, but also dared to come up with her own money to help.

Because she knows that being sensible now will be of great help to her later integration into this family. After all, it's really touching to send charcoal in the snow.

Sure enough, it turns out that she is right.

As she said, the initial appearance of marriage is their own choice, but many people should not be as "cruel" as she is, killing all foreseeable bad sources in the cradle and daring to plan the best marriage for themselves.

So I said, all good marriages have a reason. And this truth, whether you know it or not, can be done is another matter.