Daughter-in-law, I divorced my son. Is it too much to ask for 300,000 yuan in breakup fees? What do you think?

Why do many people say "marriage is the tomb of love", but their bodies are involuntarily trying to get into the "grave"?

The reason is actually very simple, because if love is compared to a flower, then marriage is the fruit produced after the flower withers.

From this point of view, love is a splendid and short-lived epiphyllum, and after the beauty is gone, only a residual red remains; and marriage is the ultimate sublimation of love, because it allows love to continue in life.

You can be unbridled when you are in love, but you need to be restrained in marriage.

Marriage carries too many family and social responsibilities. Compared with love, which is about romance, marriage is more solemn and serious.

So there is a saying that "men are afraid of getting into the wrong profession, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man." Marriage is as important to women as career is to men.

But in fact, the impact of career on men is far less than the impact of marriage on women.

The most direct and simplest way to ruin a woman is to have a flash marriage when she is ignorant.

I have a friend with whom I have a decent relationship, whose name is Rongrong.

Rongrong is 28 years old this year, and like me, she is about to retire. From the time I graduated from college at the age of 23 to now, I have been busy, but I don’t know why I am busy every day.

She got married right after graduating from college. After nearly five years of marriage, she still doesn’t know what she wants.

This feeling is very bad and cannot bear to be considered. As long as she thinks about it carefully, she will feel that she has wasted six years, and in these wasted six years, most of her youthful vitality and passion have been consumed.

It is said that what is lost can be harvested in the east. When God closes a door for you, he will open a window for you. However, in Rongrong’s six years, not only did her work not improve much, but her work also failed to improve. Even marriage has turned red.

Rongrong and her husband were not college classmates, so I was somewhat surprised when I suddenly received her wedding invitation when I just started working.

There are many people who have flash marriages nowadays, but Rongrong, who has a slow-tempered personality, does not seem to be a person who can do flash marriages.

But it is what it is.

Rong Rong and her husband officially met at a blind date dinner arranged by relatives. The boy was tall, handsome, and naturally attracted to women.

Although the man's family background was average, Rongrong still fell in love with him.

In fact, after Rongrong's parents met with their elders and learned about their family background, they somewhat complained about the relative who had made the connection.

Rongrong’s mother whispered in her husband’s ear: “Who are you looking down on? Why are you introducing such a family to Rongrong?”

I was going to go through the motions, forget it. It saved the face of both parties and the matchmaker, but by chance, Rongrong and the boy looked at each other.

My parents thought that young people were uncertain and might break up after getting along. Unexpectedly, Rongrong and her boyfriend got married in a flash marriage.

When Rongrong asked her mother for her household registration book to prepare for the certificate, her parents carefully reviewed the difficulties of marriage for her. They also told their daughter, as people who had experienced it, what "poor and lowly couples are miserable".

But Rongrong was unmoved, she wanted to marry love, that kind of "thumping heartbeat".

She told her mother that the reason why her mother and her father argued every day over various minor and minor matters was because of the lack of "love" between the two of them, because the intensity of love determines the quality of marriage.

Only when you taste lemon can you know whether it is sweet. Only when you truly enter into marriage, Rongrong will know what marriage is.

Married life is not that simple, especially if the couple does not have consistent views and a solid financial foundation, no matter how deep the relationship is, one day it will be wiped out.

After getting married, at Rongrong’s suggestion, the couple moved out of the dilapidated private house of their parents-in-law and rented a medium-sized elevator room.

At first, the two of them could encourage each other and strive for the future with hope, but gradually the edges were smoothed by reality.

Rong Rong could not remember when the two of them started to argue over trivial matters such as tea, rice, oil and salt.

Especially after having children, the two people, who were not very well off financially, lived in even greater straits.

But the couple kept quarreling and quarreling. Rongrong said that she had never thought about divorcing her husband, let alone abandoning her husband and children and running away alone.

However, people can control their own thoughts, but most of the time they cannot guess the thoughts of others.

In the past few years of marriage, Rongrong has never liked her mother-in-law very much. Firstly, her mother-in-law is too careless and always likes to interfere roughly in the lives of her son and daughter-in-law. Secondly, her mother-in-law has a natural sense of superiority. She always felt that her son was like a sycamore tree that could attract golden phoenixes. This fascinating confidence made Rongrong, who was often criticized, feel on pins and needles.

Fortunately, the father-in-law and mother-in-law are not too old yet and have their own affairs to be busy with. They rarely come to the city to interfere with the life of Rongrong and his wife.

The relationship between Rongrong and her husband, from the initial entanglement, has been refined over several years, and now the two of them have lost the original attachment and passion, just like the left hand holding the right hand, without a trace of waves.

Since having a child, the two of them have rarely lived together as a couple.

Both of them are responsible for this situation. Rongrong is busy with things at home and outside the home, and the children’s affairs alone make her two-year-old, mentally and physically exhausted; her husband doesn’t know when he started working overtime. It has become a daily routine, and we often go out to socialize even on statutory holidays, and sometimes we even stay up all night.

At first, Rongrong was still quite dismissive, but then she gradually got tired and stopped talking, and she didn’t take it to heart.

One day, her mother-in-law, who returned to her hometown to take care of her bedridden grandmother, suddenly came to Rongrong's house.

In order to entertain her mother-in-law, Rongrong specially cooked a large table of dishes, including both meat and vegetables.

Although my mother-in-law is not a very pleasant person, she has been married for five or six years and lived separately from each other, so they can be considered peaceful.

No matter how far or near we are, we are all guests, and there is no reason to be indifferent.

Unexpectedly, at the dinner table, my mother-in-law let out a huge thunder.

After three rounds of wine and five dishes, everyone was satiated. Rongrong was about to put away the tableware, but was pulled back by her mother-in-law.

The mother-in-law pulled Rongrong back to the dining table again, but hesitated to speak. Rongrong looked at her husband opposite and found that his face was also very ugly and he was embarrassed.

My mother-in-law said: "Actually, it's not good for me as an elder to interfere in the matter between you and your wife, but since it happened, we have to solve it, otherwise it will always be a problem. ”

Rong Rong looked puzzled, but her mother-in-law’s subsequent words made her furious.

The mother-in-law then said: "Daughter-in-law, the reason I came here today is to hope that you can divorce my son so that we can get together and relax. This is also a good thing for the children!"

Look From her husband's expression, Rongrong also knew that this was something the mother and son had discussed, but she wanted to know the reason.

My mother-in-law said that Rongrong’s husband had someone else in mind, and that person was her husband’s boss, Miss Li.

I met my husband’s female boss, Rongrong, when she went to attend their company’s annual meeting. She was dressed very elegantly, and her every move had the air of being bossy and bossy. The most important thing is, that woman wants to A whole lot older than my husband.

Obviously, without her mother-in-law telling her, Rongrong knew that her husband was interested in the other party's financial strength.

"My son, you have been married to my son for five or six years. You know how you have lived these past few years. My son only has so much ability. You should do good deeds and accumulate virtue and let him go." Ma. If he is rich, it will be a good thing for your children, right? In the future, your children will go to school, work, and get married. Which one can you do without money?

As long as my child can reach the sky in one step, won't your child also benefit from it? ”

“Whoever wants to take part in this kind of light, we two are not interested in it! Judging from your attitude, you don't want to take custody of your child, right? ”

“Rongrong, you have to understand my baby, if a man has a child, any girl would be willing to be a stepmother as soon as she gets married. But you are different. No girl has to worry about getting married. There are so many single men now. Even if you have children, someone will still want you! "

Rong Rong's face was livid with anger. She didn't understand why they could say such shameless words in such a high-sounding way.

At this juncture, she also understood that no matter her husband or Regardless of the outcome for others, my own marriage is over.

Looking back on my own impulsive marriage, which lasted for five years, it is ridiculous.

My mother-in-law struck while the iron was hot: "That girl is sincere to my son. I mean well, not only do I not need a betrothal gift, but I also get a house as a dowry. The most important thing is that once they get married, my son will be half the owner of the company in the future. Will he be able to lose my good grandson's share at that time? ”

Rongrong’s head was buzzing. She calmed down and wanted to call her parents, but she felt that it was too weak in front of her mother-in-law and husband.

She thought for a while and said: "It's okay to get divorced, and it's okay to let me take care of the children, but the child support must be paid in one lump sum, 1,500 a month, and 300,000 per month when you are 18 years old. You have 'booked' one So for a rich daughter-in-law, this little money should be nothing. Everyone makes it clear that from now on each will live his or her own life, and from now on, no one will worry about the other in life, old age, sickness or death! ”

Rongrong’s ex-husband really asked for 300,000 from the latecomer, but her breakup fee with him...

Although there was no outside interference, Rongrong still She insists on getting divorced.

Every time she goes on a date with us, she brings her four-year-old child with her.

Being a mother means being strong. A woman can’t be strong, but a mother can’t. Not strong.

Although men and women are equal, most women are actually in a naturally disadvantaged position in life and work. There are many reasons for this situation, including women's own factors, society and Cultural factors.

But there is a saying that women are all fairies in the world. Every woman’s life is dedicated to fulfilling others’ needs.

, women bear greater family responsibilities and put in more effort in parenting.

When my grandma died, my mother cried very sadly. I didn’t know why at the time, but later she said: "Don't say goodbye." It seems that your grandma can't speak at home, but once she is gone, the family will also be broken up. "

The truth is exactly as what the mother said. After grandma died, the uncles and aunts had less contact with each other. Even if grandpa was still alive, he could no longer screw them together.

When my mother died of liver cancer, she held my father’s hand and said, don’t let the family fall apart.

But in fact, since I came back from college, the family has been separated, and the home is no longer that warm one. We are home.

Especially after my father got married and I got married, we became more polite to each other, and it was like being a guest every time we came home.

It is clear that a woman is in the family.

For a woman, marriage is also the most important part of her life.

After a man enters the wrong profession, he can start over after experiencing some pain. , and once a woman marries the wrong man, it is likely to delay her life.

When men and women are labeled as "second marriages" at the same time, men can organize it with basically no impact. Family, but women will be devalued.

Strong women may have a good ending in their second marriage, but ordinary women can only accept their fate

So. , women must be cautious about marriage. We cannot choose where we are born, but we can choose the marriage and life we ??want in the next few decades.

If a woman meets a "scumbag", no matter what she has invested before. No matter how much the loss is, the correct approach is to stop the loss in time.

“When you meet someone, you will lose your head, and you will choose a city to grow old in.” Love is mixed with too many unrealistic fantasies, and marriage is what love looks like after it comes to fruition.

Whether it is possible to "turn your head white when you meet someone" depends not only on a woman's vision, but also on her own quality.