Entanglement is the best way to get rid of an angry husband (an irresistible coquetry of men)

A long time ago, when I watched The Best Life of a Spoiled Woman, I didn't quite understand a classic line: "In fact, a man will love a woman all his life. What matters is not her breasts and her face, but whether a woman will be spoiled. "

At that time, I was still thinking, is coquetry so powerful?

It was not until I had emotional counseling that I found that all the female visitors I received were full of grief.

I often sit in the consulting room and describe my grievances over the years:

"Hey, men really look like two people before and after marriage. Now they don't have this home at all, only care about being chic outside. "

"I thought he was very considerate to me. What do I want to buy? Now? Don't even look at me. "

"Teacher, do you think there are good people in this world?"

Well, I don't have to think about it at all, no.

A good man is like a flower.

You saw a pot of flowers in a flower shop, you bought it home and died in a few days.

You are very angry. You blame the store for cheating you.

But in fact?

I can't grow flowers at all.

You didn't even water it.

All good feelings depend on "cultivation" and "management", not on seeking.

I fully understand the gap between women after marriage, but since the relationship has changed, your mode of getting along should also be adjusted.

Just like when the potted flower was placed in a flower shop, you began to fantasize about putting it in the living room or balcony at home.

This is the same as when you were madly in love with him. You try your best to express yourself, you hope your love will have a good result, and always try to win the hearts of men.

Not to mention that man, he is more diligent than you and has done a lot of things to please you in order to get you.

But after marriage? What happens when two people lose their passion?

It's like keeping that potted flower at home, leaving only branches and leaves, too lazy to continue to take care of it, and feeling that nothing needs to be done.

You begin to relax your vigilance, enjoy your rights as a matter of course, allow flowers to bloom and fall, but you can't accept them. Because of the long-term stability of the relationship, you no longer suffer from loss, but become yourself, and constantly start complaining about each other's bad work, but forget that you are in love.

It is nothing more than this sentence: women need to be loved and men need to be coaxed.

Coax: Men all have "emperor mentality", hoping to have face in front of women and get the upper hand.

Love: A woman wants to be loved, cared for and cared for like a little princess. ①

Because men and women have completely different emotions, men only pay attention to superficial facts when they encounter problems, while women care more about feelings. Therefore, if you want to ease the relationship and make men love you as before, you must learn to exchange "love" with "coax".

Perhaps, some habitual women will be confused and say that he doesn't listen to what I usually say. Is it useful to coax him?

"Coax" and "coquetry" are a saying, a killer weapon for women and an advanced means to show women's wisdom.

What's so magical about coquetry? Reasonable coquetry can express love. The essence of coquetry is to achieve the expected goal in the heart by showing weakness first.

Not that kind, stamping your feet and saying, "How can you eat tutu? Tutu is so cute. "The big lady who can't do anything looks delicate, but she has a strong attitude, which I will find very annoying.

At this point, I have to say my love again. Feed you a handful of dog food as a snack. She is really good at coquetry.

Every time we have a conflict, she never sulks or loses her temper.

Just smiled and said to me, "Hum, you like you because of me."

If I put my hand in again, I'll be a coward.

This is a coquetry that many men can accept, just right, not at all.

In fact, I have always felt that coquetry is a way to express love and a feeling that I am willing to become a child in front of you.

Because in intimate relationships, we all need two abilities: independence and dependence.

But independence here doesn't mean "you have to keep pushing each other away, you don't need each other at all".

The more so, the more you are building a defense. Men love you, it's hard to see your softest place. Because we live with one person, the most test is whether the two sides can be emotional.

Only by loving each other can we form a good cooperative relationship. When I need you, you are there. When you are in trouble, I will lend a helping hand.

Spooling is a "weapon" that makes men instantly surrender. I know that some people will wonder: "Why are all women who show weakness?"

In fact, weakness does not mean giving up resistance, but a soft bag.

Because every man has a heroic plot in his heart, he wants to be a strong man in front of women, and he longs to be worshipped and looked up to.

All you have to do is let him eat a candy first, and then guide him to obey. When his sense of self-worth is satisfied, he will willingly agree to your request.

Let me give you a small example directly. For example, today, he said that he would go home for dinner at 10, and you waited until 12. So don't call him in a hurry and keep scolding him. You can send a text message to imply: "Husband, why haven't you come back yet?" What's wrong? "Express your concern.

When he came back and climbed into bed, you got into his arms and said, "I've been waiting for you for a long time." Will you come back early next time? " I can't sleep alone. "

I believe that few men can handle it, right? I can't carry it anyway.

This is actually a very common example. Don't rush to vent your emotions, but use gentleness as strength to let men enjoy it. At that time, you will find that it is not you who show weakness, but him.

How to resolve emotional crisis through coquetry? When two people are together for a long time, they will become more and more self-centered. Everyone wants to make themselves comfortable, so in daily communication, they are used to asking each other.

Even many divorced couples haven't found the problem yet, and call their husbands every day to ask, "Why haven't you come back yet?" Don't come back until you come back! ""Don't you have this home in your eyes? You are so selfish and irresponsible! "

Although I understand your anger, it is really useless in front of a man who has changed his mind. If venting and blaming can solve the problem, I believe everyone will not come to me for advice.

So I suggest you make good use of the "reward and punishment subconscious" after the emotional crisis.

What is a "prize"?

For example, my husband said that he wanted you to make him a soup when he was cooking tonight. He hasn't been feeling well recently.

Just say yes, just say "yes".

Then, in the eyes of men, when they hit someone when they are down, they will think, "You have to listen to me anyway."

If you turn to him, ask him, "Why should I do it for you?" You find a woman outside to do it for you! "

Then stop crying when he really finds a mistress to hug him. You pushed him out yourself.

Therefore, the smartest thing to do is to arouse his emotions with coquetry. If you are already in a divorced relationship, you can say, "I only cook for my man."

Tell him subconsciously: "If you want to enjoy my kindness, you must make our relationship clear."

So if it's just apathy and there are big problems in husband and wife's life, you can say, "Would you like some soup? How about being my best ribs seaweed soup? But it's not free, it depends on your performance! "

Why do many men cheat? Why do you have a second thought? Because you are completely worthless in his eyes, he knows that you can't live without him anyway, so he is unscrupulous.

So don't put yourself too low. A simple coquetry can let a man know that he deserves your love only if he takes the initiative.

Then what is a "penalty"?

For example, if he makes a mistake and comes back to make up with you, many women will hesitate at this time, fearing that he will continue to hurt himself and are eager to make up.

Then now is the best time. You can continue to use some "small routines".

For example, when you disagree again, you can't hold your breath for a while and scold that man to get out of here, so don't ruin your mood.

You can continue to yell and vent your anger, or you can jokingly say, "Remember to pick me up when you roll, but don't think I'm heavy."

He may be thinking about how to "go to war" with you at the moment, and suddenly you are cute. When two people laugh, many contradictions can be easily resolved.

But it's not over here. You can continue to say how you feel: "But I won't forgive you easily. I am afraid that you will hurt me again. " ②

He will reply to you with a high probability: "What do you want me to do?"

Next, it's your turn to make a request. The next time he wants to make a mistake, he will naturally think that he has to pay the cost and price, and he will definitely converge a lot.

Sometimes a coquetry has a powerful effect, which can not only resolve the emotional crisis, but also bring your relationship closer.

Because coquetry women have mastered a method called flirting.

It won't be unreasonable like a little girl, but it will make men enjoy it, and it will be full of charm and fun.

As long as you hook your fingers, men can't live without you.

PS: ① From Section 4 of Chat First Aid Kit for Solving Small Contradictions, "Every communication is like a world war": the emotional differences between men and women; ② From section 1 of "Chat First Aid Kit to Resolve Small Contradictions", "Can you really chat? Wrong communication makes love in jeopardy ":correct communication can't be separated from putting forward" feelings ",so you must be clear about your mood instead of letting the other party guess endlessly."