British child psychologists are worried about the excessive protection of children by modern parents.

Liuxue86.com 20 1 3 February 01June 5438+00—— Tanya, Professor of Child Psychology, University of Sheffield, UK? Tanya Byron said at the study meeting of the Northern England Education Conference a few days ago that due to the changes in social environment and concerns about the high crime rate, the "captive" way adopted by modern parents is really not conducive to children's growth and ability to solve problems independently.

Ya ya? According to Professor Tanya Byron's personal observation, today's children gradually don't know what it means to "fall down, dust off and start playing again", and children lose the opportunity to play freely outdoors. The daily social news constantly reminds readers how sinister the social environment is, and with the influence of declining birthrate, parents always put avoiding danger in the first place when raising their children, showing the phenomenon of over-protection. The psychologist lamented: Compared with the 1970s when I was growing up in Britain, there are actually no kidnappers and pedophiles now, but why is it difficult to see children playing with their neighbors in the streets after school without their parents?

Because of parents' worries, children no longer learn to fall and stand up, and also lose the opportunity to face difficulties and setbacks from an early age. These growth opportunities have been lost by parents in the invisible overprotective mode. The data of hospital emergency room can prove this phenomenon. In recent years, the number of cases in which children go directly to the emergency room because of minor injuries has increased a lot. Parents don't trust their children to go to school by themselves; In school, children's after-school games have always been, for example, when they were young, putting the fruit on a twig and competing who would knock the fruit off the other twig first. Many parents and schools are actually discussing whether to force students to wear goggles to carry out this activity. In addition, some schools have banned playing in the snow where snowballs are thrown because they are afraid that some pebbles may be mixed in the snow, which may hurt their classmates.

Tanya, a professor of child psychology? Tanya Byron further said: The spirit of adventure and challenge is the key to whether a child can become a confident and capable adult in the future. However, we can see that children have gradually lost this opportunity to grow up. This risk-averse culture has caused many parents to be overly sensitive and often expect unfavorable factors in their lives. Because of excessive concern for children, children are often given stricter rules of life, and this attitude will affect their view of the world. In addition, because overprotected parents actually instill a class power relationship between parents and children subconsciously, the parent-child relationship becomes not based on communication, but on "obedience", and the child's future communication and social negotiation ability may be weak.

There are more and more overprotective parents, so they have another name-helicopter parents, because they hover over their children like helicopters and rarely expose their children out of their sight. At present, parents should learn to let go moderately within a reasonable and safe range. Parents should think from another angle, leave some room for their children to decide freely, and let them feel independent, knowing that making decisions and bearing the consequences are two sides of a whole. Moderately relaxed parenting style can better cultivate children's personality, values, sense of responsibility, courage, self-esteem, respect and self-confidence.

Source: Leading child psychologists/bloggers say that independent children are raised in captivity by risk-averse parents, and overprotective parents may raise ill-prepared children/(2065438+01.1.23)

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