What if the baby has no sense of security?

Babies are like this. You can let your baby sleep with your mother at night. You can put one or two pieces of mom's clothes next to the baby to make the baby sleep better, because it smells familiar to mom.

Security attachment is established before one and a half years old.

Hungry people want to eat, thirsty people want to drink ... From the birth of children, caregivers will try their best to meet their needs, and this "responsive" state will continue, which will make children form a basic trust in their caregivers. According to American psychologist Erickson's research, establishing basic trust is a task that infants must complete before they are one and a half years old. On this basis, security attachment (that is, the tendency to seek and maintain physical intimacy with caregivers) will follow.

However, not all caregivers can meet the baby's needs, which may lead to misunderstanding at some point. For example, the baby cries because he is hungry, but the nurturer thinks he has to pee, which will make the baby feel some distrust. The difference between "demand" and "satisfaction" is actually appropriate, but too thoughtful care is not good for the baby. However, if there is a big difference, for example, some young mothers don't know how to take care of their babies, or they don't care because of physical and mental fatigue and stress, or their attitude towards their babies will be cold for a while, which will lead to their insecurity, such as crying, not daring to explore, slow language and movement development, and nervousness when meeting strangers.

Coping with anxiety: companionship, but not arrogance

So, when the baby is crying and doesn't want to play with other children, should parents obey? Experts believe that the performance of infant insecurity and pure coquetry should be treated differently.

First of all, it should be emphasized that from birth to one and a half years old, babies need the company of their parents or caregivers. This companionship should keep the baby in his sight all the time. During this period, even if children are unfaithful to their parents, they generally don't ask for strict correction. But usually parents should pay attention to the cultivation of baby's independence. Unless the baby is sick, injections and medicines make them feel a strong sense of uneasiness and need the care and comfort of their parents. It's time to hug more. Otherwise, as children grow up, if parents still hold coax all day, they will develop bad habits over time.

Parents should encourage their babies to explore new things under the premise of companionship, especially for dependent babies, and create sensory stimulation through toys, games and interaction with other babies. Maybe some babies have poor adaptability, so you can guide them slowly and don't worry. However, if the baby just plays tricks blindly, remember not to be arrogant and should adopt the way of "not paying attention at the scene". Although accompanying but ignoring, you can even show an unhappy look and let your baby "retreat from difficulties."