How should college students treat campus love? What should we pay attention to in campus love?

It is said that you need to fall in love in college. If you don’t fall in love, your youth will be over. But are college students who are in the ignorant period of love really suitable for falling in love? Do they really know how to love others? College students must learn these things before falling in love!

How should college students treat campus love?

1. Establish a correct view of love

The college era is a beautiful time in life, and the bright flowers of love must be taken care of carefully. Only then will it bloom more brilliantly and colorfully. College students should establish a correct view of love, adopt a prudent and serious attitude towards love, handle the relationship between study and love, properly resolve misunderstandings, lovelorn and other problems that arise in love, and avoid mishandling and handling love issues.

2. Don’t mistake friendship for love

Opposite sexes should rationally grasp the boundaries between friendship and love. Friendship between opposite sexes is different from love. It is believed that there is only love between opposite sexes, not love. The idea of ??friendship is wrong. It is completely possible to establish and maintain healthy friendships between opposite sexes. However, some students cannot accurately distinguish between friendship and love, two different emotional experiences in their interactions with the opposite sex, which adds a lot of trouble to both parties.

3. The status of love cannot be misplaced

Some students put love at the highest position in life, pursue the supremacy of love, and indulge in lingering feelings. This view of love is very difficult to understand. It can easily lead to misunderstandings about life goals, which is very harmful to college students who need to focus their main energy on studies. Studying will be delayed by being in love with each other all day long. Such a love attitude is also not conducive to correctly treating and handling conflicts that arise in the love process. And frustrations often make some students lose control of their emotions and behaviors after courtship fails or they are broken up, and even develop pessimism and world-weariness, leading to serious consequences.

4. Don’t treat love in a one-sided or utilitarian way

Whether you outline a love idol in your mind that is divorced from reality, pursue external image one-sidedly, or only focus on economics Conditions, or just seeing love as a way to get rid of loneliness, will not produce sincere feelings, and you will not get true love.

5. Don’t just focus on the process and ignore the consequences

Responsibility is an important guarantee for the long-lasting love and the touchstone of steadfast love. The love praised by people in ancient and modern times all embodies the love between lovers. Make selfless sacrifices for each other. This kind of voluntary responsibility enriches the connotation of love and enhances the realm of love. If you "don't care about eternity, only care about what you once had", treating love as a game will hurt both the other person and yourself.

6. Don’t lose the direction of your life due to falling out of love

The process of falling in love is a process of mutual familiarity and emotional coordination between the two parties in love. Success or failure in love are normal phenomena. College students should treat the phenomenon of lovelorn correctly, and do not lose their ambition without losing their ambition, lose their love without losing their composure, lose their love without losing their studies, and lose their love without losing their love.

To establish a correct concept of love, college students should handle the following relationships: first, the relationship between love and learning, second, the relationship between love and caring for the collective, and third, the relationship between love and caring for others and society. If you meet in love when you are in college, you should take good care of it, cherish it, and handle all the relationships in love. This is a blessing to love, to yourself, and to happiness in your future life.

What should you pay attention to when falling in love on campus?

1. Don’t fall in love just for the sake of falling in love

Many college students have just entered campus and saw that their classmates are all in love. When I was arrogantly going out with couples and swaggering around, I felt extremely unbalanced in my heart. I even felt that I was not bad. People who were worse than me had boyfriends and girlfriends, and I was single, which made me look very cheap. Therefore, some boys or girls, out of fear of losing face and being so lonely, find a person of the opposite sex to be a couple. However, because I don’t like the other person that much and don’t have feelings for each other, everything is like acting. Not only do I feel awkward, but I also hurt the other person. If the other party has true feelings, the result will not be difficult for a young college student to control and control. Some people feel that they have been deceived and played with, and they will take inappropriate measures to retaliate, and even go to school leaders, their parents, and people in society, which will lead to some consequences that they had not expected before.

I hope that girls who have just entered college can maintain inner peace, think more about the responsibilities and missions entrusted to them, think more about how they will have to work after graduation, support and honor their parents, start a family and start a career, and need to learn more. More knowledge and professional skills than falling in love by seeing others fall in love.

2. Pay attention to contraception and protect yourself

Romance and love cannot escape the relationship between love and sex. There is nothing wrong with finding someone you love and falling in love when you are in love, your hormones are strong, you have many mysterious fantasies about life and the opposite sex, etc. However, due to the differences in physiology and organs between girls and boys, there are bound to be some risks. Among these risks, contraception is the first to bear the brunt. College girls are already very mature physiologically and have basically all the functions of women as mothers. If you engage in impulsive intimate behavior when you are in love, without prior preparation or attention to contraception, it is very likely to lead to pregnancy. Pregnancy among college students is something they never expected. Because they are worried that the school and their parents will find out, they will panic and look for improper channels and methods to have an abortion. Abortion is extremely painful for a woman. In mild cases, she will suffer physical and mental pain. In severe cases, it may be life-threatening. For some people, one abortion will lead to lifelong infertility! Therefore, when girls fall in love on campus, they are not ready for issues such as marriage and childbirth. Contraception is a top priority.

3. Don’t take advantage of others for enjoyment and vanity

Some people don’t understand that every weekend, there are many vehicles waiting at the gate of the university to pick up the girls who leave the campus. Some of them are picked up by parents or friends, and some may not be so legitimate. The media often exposes that school girls sell their bodies and souls to associate with people in society because of their greed for enjoyment and vanity, and are looked down upon by others. Every adult has his own freedom and three views. But I don’t know if girls in this category have ever thought about how difficult it is for their parents and families to support themselves as adults and to support themselves in college. How can they ruin themselves like this and do things that embarrass their parents just for some material and life enjoyment? , something that makes oneself ashamed. While on campus, the conditions are poor and the life is monotonous and poor. Isn't it a good opportunity to hone one's will? In addition to studying hard, you can use your spare time to work part-time to earn some money to improve your life and reduce the burden on your parents and family. You will experience an endless sense of accomplishment and happiness, and you will continue to affirm yourself and believe in yourself, and slowly achieve success. Developed self-confidence, self-improvement, and firm character and character. This is the sentiment and pursuit that college students should have.

4. Love is just a condiment, the main task is to study

Most campus love is just a love affair, and the proportion of people who actually get married is not large. Three or four years later, there are many people who fall in love in different places because of graduation, and many of them end without any illness due to various reasons. Although meeting love may not necessarily lead to results, it is still a beautiful experience and memory. If you haven't met someone you love, you can spend your time and energy on studying to make yourself better, have good qualities and talents, and you can still reap beautiful love in the future.

What can you learn from falling in love in college

1. Love yourself, but also clarify your life goals.

Because only by truly loving yourself and knowing what kind of life you want can you be able to love others, accept the love of others, and live the life that both the other person and you want. . People who love themselves are not selfish, but have the ability to be responsible for themselves and their own lives. He can realize his own life value, and can also let the other person realize her life value, instead of sacrificing himself or the other person to fulfill another person.

2. If you love, please love well. If you don't love it, let it go.

No matter what the reason is, whether it is finance, work, family or distance, separation can only mean that you don’t love each other that much, so let go and wish the other person meets the right person. people. Don't speak ill of anyone.

3. Respect your own decision.

One sign of a mature person is that he can take responsibility for his own decisions. No one can predict the future, but we cannot choose one and another. Therefore, respecting your own decisions, knowing what you want in life, having judgment, pursuit, and confidence in your life and future are actually enough.

I don’t want you to miss the one you love because of graduation, and I don’t want you to make decisions about your life in such a confused way because you can’t figure out your future. The decision-making power in life should always be in your own hands. After graduation, it also depends on you whether you want to break up.

How to make campus love last forever

1. Be proactive in expressing love.

Why is it recommended that everyone take the initiative? Because the campus market is highly competitive, if you like her, she may also like you, but it doesn't have to be you. But if someone happens to like her at this time, if you don't take action first, then she may belong to someone else. Don't believe in fate, everything is up to you to fight for! Therefore, be proactive when you meet someone you like, because it is better to fail than to miss out. Girls can also take the initiative. Don't think that it is a cheap act for a girl to take the initiative and she will not be cherished. In fact, the reason why she is not cherished has nothing to do with whether you took the initiative first, but that he no longer likes you.

2. Improve self-confidence and image.

Many people have been in love with each other for 4 years in college, but they just don’t dare to confess. The root cause is a lack of self-confidence, because you are not liked because of your low self-esteem. If you don’t have confidence in yourself, what will happen to the other person? Dare to accept this unconfident you? Many people say that men are not bad but women do not love them. That is because bad boys have a dazzling self-confidence in daring to fight and venture forward. They do whatever they want and say loudly when they want to love. And it just so happens that this kind of Confidence is what many people lack, so it is especially popular with girls. Therefore, you should learn more about dressing up, learn some skills to enrich yourself, improve your image, and increase your self-confidence. Otherwise, if you really meet the girl you like one day, what will you fight for? Taking advantage of your inferiority complex?

3. Don’t give in.

To be together, you must like each other. If you like him and he likes her, but you accept another person who likes you, my dear, this is not called love, this is called self-deception, this is called self-deception. It's okay, this kind of love is irresponsible to yourself and the other person. Therefore, if you don't like the other person, even if the other person really touches you, don't choose to make do with it, because make-or-break love is not beautiful at all.

4. Don’t lose yourself in love.

This is truly good love when two people make progress together and enjoy each other, instead of consuming each other, just eating, drinking, having fun, and flirting. Of course, everyone has a different concept of love. It doesn't matter if you don't want to get better, just be happy.

5. There still needs to be a sense of ritual.

No matter what, you still need to have a sense of ceremony, such as buying a small gift for the other party on birthdays and holidays. It doesn’t have to be expensive, as long as it can express your feelings. The necessary sense of ritual in love can warm up the relationship and gain full love.

6. Learn to be decisive.

In love, if you like it, you like it, if you don’t like it, you don’t like it. Human feelings are the least able to withstand scrutiny and are also the easiest to change. Moreover, you can feel this change personally. , so there is no need to worry about whether the other person loves you or not, and how much he or she loves you every day. Instead of trying to figure out the other person's feelings, be decisive and love well when you are together. Let go if you don't love anymore, because time is precious. Loving yourself is more important.

7. Don’t let the other person down again and again.

You should cherish the time you are together. If you always make the other person disappointed and sad, even if you are forgiven, the wound will still leave scars, which cannot withstand being touched, itched, or torn apart. Open, those are traces of being hurt, and cracks are difficult to repair, so don’t always make the other person sad and disappointed. If you do it too many times, you are not far away from losing the other person.

8. Only by becoming stronger can you break the curse of breaking up after graduation.

On the one hand, the breakup after graduation may be due to the long distance, but more importantly, it is due to the reality that hinders your finances and work pressure. To solve this problem, you must be in love while being strong. Having a good job after graduation can give both parties a visible future through their own efforts.

9. Long-distance relationships require more effort.

Long-distance relationships are really not easy. Everyday contact is through the mobile phone screen. Because of the different life circles, sometimes you may have nothing to say even if you hold the mobile phone because you cannot truly feel each other. The joy and happiness of each other were met occasionally, and it was only for a few days.

A long-distance relationship not only requires a strong heart that can withstand pressure and pain, but also requires more effort than others, because if you don't work hard, you may continue to be in a long-distance relationship after graduation. There are not many youths in life to endure, and being in a different place is even more difficult. If you can't survive it, you can only regret breaking up.

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