A third party openly provokes the original match. How should the original match fight back?

Many wives come to provoke a third party and are at a loss. They are often pinned down by third parties. The original heart is struggling: will my family and lover who have worked hard give up like this? I don't want it! What should I do?

Let's analyze the psychology of the third party first:

Under what circumstances will a third party blatantly provoke?

The motivation is: eager for the upper position, can not get the desired results from men.

A third party wants a clear goal, just like wanting a man to divorce his wife.

First of all, she will repeatedly confirm with men: When will you divorce? When will you marry me?

Most men don't want to get divorced and lose this passion, so they will promise a third party for a while, wait for me, and I will definitely come back to marry you.

When the third party can't get the desired result from the man, she will turn to the original match and try to create contradictions by putting pressure on the original match, so that the original match can divorce the man on its own initiative, thus gaining the benefits of the fisherman.

Generally speaking, for a wife, it is a great blow for her husband to develop extramarital affairs, and she has to endure the provocation of a third party, and her mentality will be seriously unbalanced.

If you are not careful, you may let a third party succeed.

People don't attack me, I don't attack. If people attack me, I will attack. We also have the right to protect our marriage.

In the face of a third party, many people choose to fight directly with the third party and put on a third party show in the street, which is embarrassing.

We are elegant women and can't be so violent. If you want to tear it, you must tear it wisely, elegantly and tactfully.

How to fight back wisely?

First, emotional management, correct mentality

Emotional management is the first priority.

You must be steady before you have a chance to win!

The purpose of the third party is just to make you angry and disturb your state of mind. Indeed, the more you want to calm down.

Just now, we also analyzed the mentality of the third party. She turned to attack the woman because she was not sure that she had completely won the man.

So this is her achilles heel. It's not that the wife has no chance of winning. On the contrary, the third party has come this far only because the chance of winning is very small. Therefore, it is particularly important to straighten up the mentality at this time, and the war without smoke has just begun.

There is a minefield here, and you must not step on it. You just lose your temper and make a scene with your husband.

In a man's mind, two women are placed at both ends of the scale for comparison. It is an obvious mistake for him to have an extramarital affair, and he feels guilty about you.

At this time, if you are out of control, cry twice and hang yourself three times, and all kinds of scolding will offset your behavior and his guilt in his heart.

And blame you for your extramarital affairs, and tilt the other part of the scale to a third party.

Therefore, it is the first and most crucial step to manage your emotions and straighten your mind, so that you can see the facts and the overall situation rationally.

Second, fight back tactfully and gracefully.

With a good attitude, how to fight back tactfully and elegantly?

This is actually a psychological war. As long as you beat her psychologically, you will win more than half.

The third party in the case said: He has no feelings for you. Marriage is just a form, and we are true love.

You can simply say: Oh? Is it? Since yours is true love, why doesn't he marry you?

At this time, we must seize the pain of the third party, that is, the fact that men refuse to marry her.

Third Party: If you divorce him, I will marry him!

You: Whether we can get a divorce is our business. Since he loves you so much, let him divorce me.

Third Party: He can't live without me. We are very passionate together.

You: We are used to eating, so it is understandable to change people's tastes. Some people always like to think of a temporary passion as love, but when it disappears, they find nothing.

In the process of fighting back, you should keep a calm and indifferent attitude, which is the most fatal blow to the third party, because she finds that she is no longer a threat to you.

Third, grasp the guilt of men.

A man's guilt is good. Grasping a person's guilt can grasp his heart.

Reduce the need for your husband and focus on improving yourself.

You should change your overall style, dress beautifully, pretend to be heavy, pretend to be calm, and do more things that can please you.

When the husband comes home, he should pay more attention to him, let him participate in the children's interaction and create a happy family atmosphere.

You can interact with your husband and guide him to interact with his children in a circle of friends.

After the first two stages, the third party must be impatient and ran to the man to cry, and then the opportunity came.

At this stage, men will begin to find that the third party is not so perfect. She is also emotional and noisy, and the wife at home has become more beautiful, intellectual and gentle.

Under the guilt and contrast of men, the chances of favoring you are much greater.

Fourth, seize the opportunity to create contradictions for them.

When creating conflicts, we should seize the opportunity to observe their chat time and appointment time.

For example, when my husband comes home at night, he will stay in the toilet for a while, probably just chatting with a third party.

This is a good time to arrange for relatives and friends to play, so that he can't spare time to chat with a third party.

For example, if he wants to go out on a date, he may suddenly lose his car keys, or sometimes have to show up at a temporary time, thus ruining their date.

When their appointment and call time are disrupted, the third party will become more impatient and start to sit still.

If this state continues for a period of time, men will not be able to stand the work of a third party and choose to return to their families.

When men come back, they can't relax. It is more important to find the key problem of the breakdown of marriage relationship and correct it.

According to the above steps, the visitor successfully separated the third party and made a beautiful turnaround!

Edge shield, accompany you to protect love and harvest love!

Welcome everyone to leave a message at the bottom to express their views and participate in the interaction. If you think the article is helpful to you, please share it with your friends. Your little kindness can help more people.