How to adjust your mentality in long-distance relationships

What a long-distance relationship must overcome is not only the passion for the relationship between the two parties, but the most important thing is the belief in the heart, the ability to handle various situations, and the peace of mind.

1 Be sure to keep communication smooth with each other

The two people are most afraid of anger and misunderstanding when they are separated. Prolonged anger and misunderstanding will make the relationship between the two people indifferent, and there may even be conflicts. Let the poachers take advantage of the situation, make everything clear, be rational before being emotional, and admit your mistakes when you should. Of course, if no one is willing to bow their heads, boys please stop giving priority to women at this time.

When you get angry, you tell me what specific points he (she) did not do well, and you don’t like this approach. I think if he/she realizes it, he will definitely restrain himself next time, because this is his/her own fault. A woman's needs; but if you say that you no longer have confidence in the love between two people, or say, "I don't care about you, you don't care about me anymore", "I don't know if I will like others", "Who do you think you are?" How did I find you like this?” I think it’s really too much.

Once or twice, these words may still achieve your goal of making your boyfriend angry; but you must know that even if a man feels uncomfortable, even if he will be sad and shed tears, he is most likely suppressing his feelings. He has been disappointed for too many times, and when he turns this disappointment into despair, it really becomes a matter of one sentence whether to break up or not. ——Not his suddenness, but his outburst.

So I advise you who are in a long-distance relationship to know what angry words are and what words that destroy confidence are!

If two people are aboveboard, it is best to take the initiative to tell each other what they are doing and where they are. In this way, both parties will have peace of mind. And if you form a habit in this way, the possibility of being poached will be greatly reduced.

2 You must trust each other and believe that you can be together.

Before you are separated, you must let your faith and belief support you. Constant confusion and lack of confidence in the future will shake your relationship. Arguments caused by minor conflicts may also become the trigger for breakup.

Love means trust. After all, they are in a different place, so it is impossible to see every word and action every day. Mo Ming's suspicion will ruin the sweetness between the two of them.

In everything you do, you must first consider the bottom line to prevent yourself from being caught off guard when encountering sudden changes. Things must always be done in the right direction, but you must be prepared for the bad.

Temporary separation will inevitably require two people to wait, but waiting is not scary. The scary thing is not knowing what result you are waiting for.

This is the duty of belief and confidence: think about your woman from time to time to express this confidence and belief, and let her know that although you are not together now, you have been working hard and trying to achieve yourself; Work hard for your happy life in the future.

Only two people who firmly believe in their love can be qualified to talk about anything right or wrong.

So, at any time, no matter who the two people are, they must have this understanding clearly.

When you no longer have any longing for your love, and even have a wait-and-see attitude, it can only be said to be your sorrow.

Of course, if you still think this way now, then stop reading my posts. I despise people with this attitude.

3 Use text messages, phone calls, and the Internet to maintain the most timely contact

Losing contact and being unable to communicate in time will make the other party feel unfamiliar, and the timely arrival of text messages, phone calls, and the Internet will help Virtually experience the feeling of having your lover by your side.

Maintain a certain frequency of meetings, preferably once every few months. The pain of lovesickness also needs to be released. A few days of sweetness can make up for the lovesickness of the past few months.

If you want to call her (or send a text message), then do it and convey your thoughts in time, which will make your love sweeter; but remember: if you even If you call twice and she doesn’t answer the phone (or just hang up) or the text message goes unanswered, you must have turned from sweet to anxious (even a little angry), but no matter how anxious (angry) you are, don’t call (send) again. Just do your thing with peace of mind (try your best), and she will call you naturally when she sees the phone.

But on the other hand, if your girlfriend calls you (or sends a text message), no matter how inconvenient it is, as long as the phone is by your side, try to at least give her a text message so as not to make her anxious. Don't ask why, because we are men and because we love our girlfriends.

It must be admitted that when anyone wants to call (send text messages) with their lover, they want to get an immediate response; but in a long-distance relationship, you cannot see each other, so you can only treat this invisible barriers are replaced with trust. If she doesn't return your call, it must be inconvenient for her. You have to get used to this idea.

4 Even though the two places are separated, the same passion remains

A short separation is better than a new marriage. The brief reunion after the separation will definitely make the two places have a long love for each other. In addition to the first time, there are also many new things now. Toys can also increase the quality of a long-distance relationship.

In your spare time, do whatever you want to surprise your baby.

This surprise is not all expressed in money, because there are many people like me whose hearts are richer than money.

For example, send a small card online; give her a romantic game to play if you have nothing to do...etc.

Don’t think that these are superfluous and insignificant. You must know that your baby is in a different place. It is inevitable that you will be in love with a man and a woman in front of you. You can’t accompany her at this moment. Do you want to save even these trivial love signals? Have you gone?

Perhaps these things may seem like small actions at the time, but when a person recalls it in the future, its aftertaste is far greater than itself.

Resolutely avoid "Hey, what are you doing? Have you eaten? Is there anything wrong? What, it's okay, then I'll die if it's okay...", dizzy, we are two places apart, we can't hold hands, Can't hug, can't solve any practical problems, okay, then let's let our emotions comfort each other. Maybe it's a lot of nonsense, but it is these nonsense that make the two of them think about each other, understanding, tolerance, and deep love are all caused by Here it comes!

If either party thinks that they are very busy, do not have much time, and do not have so many topics, then the long-term pain is worse than the short-term pain, so let’s break up!

With twenty-four hours a day, can’t you spare even one hour to spend time with the person you love and who loves you back? I will miss her and think of my heart full of sweetness, I will miss him and think of being in a daze, I don’t need to care about what I say, what I care about is the ones who listen attentively, the whispers...

I have always believed that long-distance love is possible Boys and girls are both brave and brave: but in the eyes of family members or pragmatic friends, one is silly and bold, and the other is daydreaming, haha!

But if this world were all pragmatic people, there wouldn’t be so many deep-seated lovesickness, so many lingering pathos, and so many unforgettable stories like water! Liu Yonghui looked at each other with tears in his hands, and Li Qingzhao went up to the west building alone without words!

We are the scenery of love at the station, we are the lovers who cannot be reached on both sides of the phone, we are the protagonists in many stories who can see from afar, we stubbornly hold on to the innocence in our hearts...

Hate is like a chain, love is like running water, we need to contact each other, every day! The only thing that matters is the unknown. This is our biggest enemy!