How to conduct psychological counseling for lovelorn people?

The root of the pain caused by lovelorn love is the inability to satisfy the psychological possessiveness.

Different people's love experiences and love degrees are different, and the pain after lovelorn is also different. In reality, people who are in pain and unable to extricate themselves are often lovelorn. To put it bluntly, they didn't break up on their own, but were forced to accept it.

Such people have a common fault:

There is another kind of person who proposes to break up. They lose confidence in each other in love, or after getting along, they find that the shortcomings and deficiencies of each other are beyond their tolerance, or the other party has done a lot of harm, forcing her to break up.

Such people also have a common fault:

No matter what kind of complex, there is no doubt about the harm to yourself.

Zhang Xiaoxian has this feeling in her book "The Bread Tree Run":

In this world, happy people have many guides, but few people are lovelorn. We can only embrace other people's lovelorn experiences in endless darkness.

And that knot woven for you by cause and effect, no matter how hard you struggle, will not help to trap you and can't break free.

As an experienced person, I will give the following advice to those who are deeply in love:

There are no feelings that can't be let go, sometimes it's just your own affectation. As I mentioned at the beginning of the article, the root of lovelorn pain is dissatisfaction with psychological possessiveness.

Obviously, I love someone, but I actually want to possess someone.

Through constant psychological suggestion, full of expectation for the future, the pain will be relieved a lot.

It's hard to forget someone, but it's simple not to think about someone, that is, to find another person.

I believe many people will make the same suggestion, but what I want to say is different. I don't want lovelorn people to look for it in a hurry and take starting a new relationship as revenge for their predecessors.

Such behavior is obviously hasty and undesirable. What I want to suggest is that you should put down your baggage and start the next relationship easily, instead of letting you move forward with emotional baggage.

When we persuade many lovelorn people, the effect is always unsatisfactory. Obviously, he said a lot of comforting words and told a lot of truth, but he just wouldn't listen.

Sometimes the more comforting the lovelorn, the more painful it is, which makes us at a loss.

It's time to distract him. You can create more activities for him, and even add some work, so that his energy is relatively scattered. This can reduce his long-term immersion in the lovelorn complex.

We all love ourselves too much. Two people who love themselves too much can't be together.

There are many reasons for breaking up, but the core is that you can't stand each other's selfishness in love.

When people realize their selfishness, they may love another person more in the later days.

May everyone who is in love be happy, and may everyone who is lovelorn get out of sadness as soon as possible.

Finally, I hope my suggestion can help you!

People who are lovelorn are in a bad mood And if you don't adjust your psychology in time, you will probably be devastated, and then there will be serious psychological problems. So how can I give psychological counseling to the lovelorn? I have summarized the following points.

First, let the lovelorn understand the fact that they have withdrawn from life. Most lovelorn people can't get out because they don't want to let go of the past. This is called living in the past. At this time, it is necessary to make the lovelorn understand and accept that they have withdrawn from life from the perspective of facts, and it is also frustrating to cling to the past.

Second, lovelorn people will feel that life is dull and meaningless at first, and the whole person seems to be abandoned outside the world. For this phenomenon, we should rekindle his hope for life, find his self-confidence and convince him that he is excellent.

Third, enlarge the good place of this relationship, bring him good changes and progress, let him know that his efforts are rewarding and offset the inner unwillingness of the lovelorn.

The methods mentioned above are often used to enlighten fans and friends around me after breaking up, and they are also derived from experience. I hope it is useful to everyone.